I use to see this guy every morning when I turned up to work, we'd normally ride up in the evalavator together until I'd get out at the ground floor and he'd continue to the 1 floor. The only words we'd managed to share were "morning" then I'd get on with my day, and believe myself as lucky if I got to see him load a car out front. Months past and eventaully he was no longer in the car park when I arrived.

A few months later, talk to my friend Dane I told him that I was chating to his really nice guy online his name was Josh, who was in IT (same as Dane). After futher conversation it turned out that this lovely guy that I was talking to was MARRIED!!!! and how did I know... Dane worked with him. Man I was going to teach this guy a leason... How dare a married man appear to be single... his poor wife...

So I went along with my plan to get this guy and man why did all the good guys have to be taken... if only he wasn't married.

Well it seems my wish was granted... Dane had it wrong... Josh wasn't married at all, he just hadn't informed his work mates that his "planned" wedding hadn't gone ahead due to a number of different reasons, they actually broken up and gone there seperate ways 4 months earlier and were now going through a messy sepration.

Anyway as the stories go, Josh and I became an item less than a week later. We became closer and closer and decided to move in together after a month, by the time the move came around (two months after we became an item) we were both shocked to find out that I was pregnant, especially considering that Josh was told that he'd never be able to have children.

Since then we have had our ups and downs, including periods of time one of us or both of us were extremely sick. The joy of our son being born was brought down with a severe infection which landed me back in hospital a week later with Necrotizing Fasciitis, and the emotional roll a coaster that comes with health worries. Then things slowly getting better with my health only to find Josh is hospital 3 times with un-explainable stomach problems.

So as you can see we have had our fair share of worry and excitment... and it's only just been over a year...

My partner went for a lay down and called me in for a cuddle, I walked in the room, and lay down next to him, gave him a quick hug before we heard my oldest son Hayden pull into the driveway with his dad, so up I got and walked into the lounge and out to greet them.

An hour later I decided I needed to lay down and I had an unbelievable headache, next think I know my son Hayden (4) walks into the rooms and asked me if I wanted a supprise, when I asked him what it was he said it was from Josh, so I said yes please. He ran back to the lounge then came back in to the room, Josh followed him in with a large smile on his face and asked what the answer was??? I was slightly confussed and Josh reached above my head and on my pillow was a little box, I'd totally missed it. Aparently I had sat on it previously when giving Josh a cuddle before Hayden arrived... oppps, my bad.... and Hayden was meant to ask "did I like my suprise? and is the answer yes?"

So it didn't go right to plan but it was the best moment in my life so far... to be able to celabrate this with my son Hayden and our son Ethan and my family turning up that weekend for a Naming Service for the boys, a great time was had by all.

We started off with deciding on a basic number of guest that we felt would come, once we had this number we looked at venues online that could cater for 60 adults, we also decided we wanted the Service, Photos and Reception along with Accommodation all in the same place. That ruled out a large number of venues. Because I am a bridesmaid at a wedding in March 2010 I had already looked around a bit at wedding things, so I already had a photographer in mind.

Next step was thinking about a date, our anniversary is on 15th June, and Josh moved in with me on the 18th August (the same day we found out we were having a baby), however being in New Zealand those are winter months and we ideally wanted our wedding service outside, we decided that we'd like it in about a years time so we worked out the 17th of October would be prefer, exactly a year engaged before getting married.

Once we had decided on a date, we worked out two venues that we'd like to look at, the first was Allely House www.allelyhouse.co.nz this was perfect but it didn't have any accomodation, the second one we looked at Formosa Golf Resort  www.formosa.co.nz this was more than perfect with accomodation but also having a perfect backdrop for photo's that had a sentimental value to, however it wasn't as close as Allely House so we decided to look into transport for the guests who wouldn't be staying.

Things to arrange before I say I Do

Well I'm current working on what kind of look I'd like for flowers at our wedding. So far I've come up with

Everlasting Daisies - Silk Flowers - Option 1

 This hasn't been arranged yet, but this is the selection, the lower burnt oranage tulips will be popping through the white

 boutonnieres, corsages

 this is going to be in our center pieces, placed in a bowl and the bottom covered with stones. They will be in a fish bowl, and will decide later if the tulip is to come out of the bowl or stay enclosed.

Well I gave Josh the job of looking out for suits for inspiration for him and the boys and this is what he came up with.

I thought I'd like quiet a big cake but when it came down to what I actually liked this is what I came up with.

Update - So I've decided to go more towards to the one of the far left, but without the lillies, using an oranage trim and maybe a couple of tulips... or just a bit of sparkle

Still to complete other pages and I haven't gotten the service part sorted yet

The hearts will vary between the two on random names

Still not sure what I'll be putting inside, or if I'll use orange or a pearl coloured ribbon

Ideas for inside

www.lollyshop.co.nz $11.40 for 1kg, $9.95 for shipping up to 5kgs

Well I'm totally suck on what dress for the bridesmaid dresses here is what I've come up with so far. The colour is Burnt Orange and if it has a secondary colour it's going to be a champange cafe colour.

 <---- this one is the winner... but still trying to decide weather to buy from the designer or get them made to order by a dress maker so they fit perfectly on my girls.

Well this is where I'm trying to decide which dress will suit my niece Tyla Rose

So far I've come up with these, but we are getting her dress custom made so ANYTHING can be put together, I guess we'll take the options below and take all the good and put it together

Only thing is I want it in a mid calf lenght and to compliment both my dress and the bridesmaids

We will be going for an ivory pillow and a champagne colour ribbon. I love the fact that it's simple yet classy

We are using Instant Wedding Photograph as our Photographers, we are so excited with there work and looking forward to our masterpieces.

http://www.instantphotos.co.nz

Inspiration photos from around the net -

The lighting of a unity Candle is a relatively recent addition to the traditional wedding ceremony, most popular in the United States. The unity candle ceremony uses two taper candles with a large pillar candle (called the "unity candle") in the center. At the beginning of the wedding ceremony, a representative from each family (usually the mothers of the bride and groom) light the two taper candles. Later in the ceremony (usually after the formal vows), the bride and groom use the two taper candles to light the large pillar (unity) candle together.

Often a unity candle is decorated with the wedding invitation, an inscription, a picture of the couple, or other ornamentation. The candles are almost always white. The lighting ceremony may be accompanied by special Music, an explanation of the symbolism, or just some period of mutual gazing by the happy couple. In some circles, it is customary for the couple to save the unity candle and relight it on anniversaries.

Taken from the Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Unity_candle)

I know all good photographs should know what wedding pictures are to be taken but there are so many out there and the last two weddings I've been to have missed a couple of ones that we would have thought were important so I'm putting together a list with the help of a few websites and family members to give to the photographs so they can make note of ones that they don't have pin pointed in there head... the day only happens once.

Before the Ceremony

Bride alone (in wedding gown)

Bride with her mother

Bride with her father

Bride with both parents

Bride with maid/matron of honour

Bride with bridesmaids

Groom with best man

Groom with groomsmen

Groomsmen getting boutonnieres

Parents receiving flowers

Bride fixing make-up/hair

Attendants receiving flowers

Groom alone (in tuxedo)

Groom with his mother

Groom with his father

Groom with both parents

At the Ceremony

Guests waiting for arrival of bride

Bride's mother being seated

Groom's family being seated

Bride entering

Groom and groomsmen at altar

Attendants coming down the aisle

Bride down the aisle

Giving-away ceremony

Altar during ceremony

Bride and Groom saying vows

Unity Candle lighting by mothers

Unity Candle lighting by Bride and Groom

Ring ceremony

Flower girl and ringbearer

The kiss

Bride and Groom down the aisle

Before the Reception

Bride and groom's hands

Bridesmaids looking at bride's ring

Bride and groom

Bride with her parents

Bride and groom with attendants

Bride with bridesmaids

Groom with groomsmen

Bride & groom with wedding party

Bride and groom with all parents

Bride and groom with bride's family

Bride and groom with groom's family

Bride and groom looking at each other

At the Reception

Bride and groom toasting

Bride throwing bouquet

Groom removing bride's garter

Groom throwing garter

Bride and groom dancing

Bride and groom seated at table

Bride dancing with her father

Groom dancing with his mother

Bride and groom talking with guests

Bride and groom cutting

Bride and groom feeding cake

Bride and groom arriving

Bride and groom going into reception

Buffet table

Cake

Photograph These Special Moments / Guests

A photo of each guest/couple

Man this one is a tough one, I've got a very round chubby face, and I doubt it will slim down alot for the styles I'd like... so this are the styles I'm working on... still have no idea, will need to run these past the hair dresser.

     <--- Love the detail on the side

And thanks for Kohler44 who found this

Round Face Shapes

Your goal is to create less volume around the face. You also want to minimize the appearance of roundness.

Styles that are flattering and stylish: Try cuts that fall just below the chin. Soft, graduated layers are a great bet because they make your face appear slimmer and tend to remove bulk and weight from the sides. Consider wispy and tapered ends. These de-emphasize the roundness of your face. Bangs are flattering, but keep them long or sideswept.

Avoid: One-length, blunt cuts if you have short hair. Curly, short hair is also a no-no. These only emphasize your roundness. For more information, check out this photo gallery of best hairstyles for round face shapes.

Celebs who share your face shape: Fergie, Kate Bosworth, Oprah Winfrey, Cameron Diaz, Kirsten Dunst, Michelle Williams, Catherine Zeta-Jones

Tools you need: A great Boar's Hair brush to keep hair tame.

Well we are trying to put together our room here are some of the things we are looking at hiring.

 These are to go at either end of the Bridal Table

 I'm thinking of doing something like this with the burnt orange and champange

We have decided on a celabrant... YAY another step done...

Decided to use Kathy Bigwood, her website is http://www.vows4u.co.nz/index.htm