Ideas...

In France, during the reception the couple often uses a toasting cup called a “Coupe de Marriage.” (In fact, the origin of giving a toast began in France when a small piece of toast was dropped into the couple’s wine to ensure a healthy life. Hence the reference to lifting your glass in a “toast.”) Instead of lighting a unity candle, you might consider sipping from a Coupe de Marriage once the ceremony is complete, thereby signifying your new status as a couple

We like this tradition! We didnt want sand, or a unity candle... we really like this! 

For the outside of our venue we want globe lights strung and lots of paper latnterns attached! Here is my inspiration!