I plan events for a living and when I got engaged I was so excited to plan an event that is so meaningful and I set forth to plan a romantic, elegant and fun event that really reflected our personalities. I thought since I do this all the time it would be a breeze. It wasnt. I got really consumed in crazy details of the wedding. I had a lot of anxiety about everything. Even the night before the wedding I was up until 1am worrying if perhaps the napkins that I chose clashed with the linens (they didnt) and I stressed that no body would dance. What I realized the day of our wedding was that some of it was worth it (the cutting out of programs, assembling the passports, making crazy detailed lists) and the majority of the anxiety and worries were not. Everyone danced, the napkins were fine and I had an absolute blast! Even though I got bogged down with worries and negativity at certain points of the planning process all of those memories are now replaced by the beautiful memories from our wedding day. I cant begin to explain what a high it is to be at YOUR wedding and the love you feel for not only your husband but for your wedding party, family and friends who have all gathered from all over the country to be there to celebrate such an important moment.
The night before our wedding all my bridesmaids came to my room to watch Valley Girl with me and hang out. I was completely calm and said goodnight to them around 9pm, ready to go to sleep. As soon as I turned out the lights I went into a complete panic about the napkins. I think what this sudden attack of nerves was all about was the fact that I had put so much time and thought and effort into one thing for a year and I just wanted it to be fantastic. I called Rory and he cheered me up. I wish I had brought some Tylenol PM.
I woke up on the day of the wedding exhausted and totally excited. One by one the girls and moms showed up to get their hair and make-up done. I sat back on my bed and watched them all. They all started to change into their dresses and I was so blown away by how stunning they all looked. That was my first moment of being brought to tears.
All the girls and I headed over to the church in the classic car. It was so fun driving in the car and getting pumped up for the ceremony. I was so excited at this point and couldnt wait to see Rory!! .
As I walked to the front of the church I had to hold back tears, I was so nervous that I was going to sob the entire way down the aisle! When it was time to walk down I felt unbelievably calm. I looked at Rory the entire walk down the aisle and tried to keep my hands from shaking. .
The ceremony was funny, touching, romantic and if I say so myself one of the best I have ever attended!! .
Once the ceremony was done I just felt excited. I was so eager to get to the reception! Rory and I walked out of the church to all our guests waving the colorful hankies that we passed out. It was awesome. .
We joined our guests at cocktail hour after taking some pictures. I was so overwhelmed. Not just with the amount of people that I had to say hi to but in the way everything looked. Every single one of my ideas was pulled of flawlessly. It was so much better than I had ever imagined it would be. It was great to look around and see people writing on the postcards, wine tasting and playing liars dice. All the work was worth it in that very moment. One of my moms friends husband came up to me and said all of the details and personal touches were amazing. I couldnt believe that a man in his late 50s would even notice. It felt great! .
We were announced at dinner and we were actually able to sit and enjoy dinner because we had talked to everyone during cocktail hour. It felt great to relax! .
Our first dance was so romantic. We did it outside on the bridge and it felt like we were the only ones there. After the first dance we all moved inside for the dance party and after that the night was a blur of drinks, dancing and laughing. I admit I got a little tipsy, ripped my dress to shreds by dancing all over it and shook my butt to baby got back but I had an absolute blast. I didnt want it to end.
Now for my words of wisdom
1. Pack some Tylenol PM
2. I know everyone says this but try to really take in each moment it goes by in a flash
3. Know that all your hard work will pay off on the day of the wedding and try not to stress.
4. Give really detailed set-up and clean up instructions to your coordinator, it pays off!!
5. Watch out for people who crash weddings. I had two of the rudest women who resembled the wicked stepsisters from Cinderella crash our wedding. We had to ask them to leave 4 times.
6. Try to let it all go the day of your wedding. Make your attitude be whatever happens, happens.
7. If you are on the fence about inviting someone, dont invite them! It is those people who will cause you the most stress- inviting uninvited guests and who will most likely cancel at the last minute or not show up at all!!
8. If you send out save the dates make sure you only send them to people you are certain you will want at your wedding a year from that point.
9. Use the cocktail time to say hi to all your guests. If you do this you wont spend the entire dinner going around and saying hi at guests tables and you will be able to eat and relax and enjoy yourself!!