Although we grew up a mere 40 miles from each other in Southern California, we didn't meet until we both moved to San Francisco. I made the trek up to the Bay for law school. I didn't no anyone my own age in the city and assumed that I would make friends at school. I was sorely disappointed when I discovered that I didn't mesh well with law students - they were too focused on competition and too often an olive brach extended came with a price. However, there was one girl who I took an instant liking to, although I doubt she could say the same for me. We were placed in the same 'section' together, meaning we had all our classes together. The first week I tried to chat her up multiple times, but she didn't seem to be interested in my friendship. It took a cup of coffee (purchased by me) at 8 o'clock in the morning to open up the gates of conversation. I asked her if she knew any good bars in the city and she invited me out that weekend.
Michelle was our gateway. She went to Cal with Cody, Josh's best friend from home. Josh moved up to the Bay a few months before I did because it had always been his dream to live here. We met for the first time at the bar Michelle took me too that weekend. I liked him right away. But here's the catch - we were both in relationships at the time.
I was still dating my college sweetheart, although it was apparent at the time that we were headed towards a break up. I cared about him deeply but after a year of long distance and the fact that we were facing three more if we chose to stay together (he is in the military and there was no way we could live together with his station assignment), we weren't going to last long. Josh was in an extremely tumultuous five year relationship. I met her that first day when I met him and I can say that I didn't care for her one iota. They had a history of breaking up and getting back together and she was very emotionally abusive to him.
Before you go thinking that I stole him away, let me get on with the story. Anyway, while I was interested in getting to know Josh (as a friend), he did not seem interested in getting to know me. He is incredibly loyal and very rarely talks to girls he doesn't know well. I hung out with him a couple more times with him after the first encounter and he rebuffed my friendly conversation. It wasn't until one afternoon when we were sitting on the couch in Cody's house that we really got to talk. And we really clicked. In a big way. From there, he says he developed a crush on me. But given his loyalty, he tried to avoid me. Given that I was basically living on his best friend's couch, he didn't do so well.
A couple weeks after our 'click' moment, Josh and I ended up going out to dinner alone. We had one of those nights where hours go by talking and you look around and wonder how it got to be three in the morning. It was about the time when I started realizing how late it was that he kissed me. I know, it was bad. He still had a girlfriend after all. It was not the most promising start for a relationship, but I'm still glad it happened. He and the girlfriend broke up and we started dating. We've been together ever since. It's messy and it's thr truth and that's how we met. :) I've never been happier in my life than I have in the past three years.










