For me, personally, I really wasn't planning on having a shower.  However, my two girlfriends really wanted to throw something together.  

"What do you want to do?" they asked.  

"You know what I really need?  Help take me away from wedding planning for the day!" I replied.

And that's what they did.  Two weeks before the wedding, a few of us gals got together for brunch at my favorite place, Mi Piace in Pasadena.  Then we walked over to Burke Williams Day Spa for a day of beauty where I was forced to turn off my cell phone and relax.  (The horror, I tell you!)  The girls were so thoughtful and all chipped in as a gift for a spa treatment for me.  I always walk about of that place feeling refreshed.