Nov 14, 2009


Ceremony Text

Word of Welcome

Good afternoon everyone, my name is Danielle and I have the privilege of performing this marriage ceremony today.On behalf of J, M and C, I want to welcome each of you and thank you for being here.They are delighted that you are here today to share in their joy during this wonderful moment in their lives. By your presence, you celebrate with them the love they have discovered in each other and you support their decision to commit themselves to one another for the rest of their lives.

As we begin today’s celebration I would like to ask the parents of the Bride and Groom to please stand.

T and P, S and C, Welcome!

As our sons and daughters find partners and find homes for the next generation, each family is enriched and enlarged. Do you, who have nurtured these two, give your blessing on their union and their family?

Address to the assembly

Today their relationship changes.  All of us know it will grow, and become stronger and better.

Indeed this day is a day of hope. A day in which J and M demonstrate their commitment, devotion, and mutual respect, as well as their faith and love in one another. You who are gathered here as witnesses are called to continue your support and encouragement as they unite in marriage. Address to the couple We all know marriage is more than two people repeating vows.  There is an art to any creative activity. So too in marriage.

Part of the art of marriage is finding room for the things of the spirit. So to you two I say, continue in your search for the good and the beautiful in this life.

Part of the art of marriage is being flexible. So in your marriage cultivate flexibility, patience, understanding and a sense of humour.

Part of the art of marriage is to comfort each other and strive to be each others best friend.

Most important, develop the capacity to forgive and heal your differences day by day.Always remember that your love will prevail. Love will be the miracle always inviting you to learn, to blossom, to expand your horizons.


We have a great body of work on the subject of love as poet after playwrite after writer has tried to express its complexity in words. We've heard that love is patient and kind, clarifying and another form of hope. What it's safe to say is that the experience of love is different for everyone, and we are fortunate when we find someone who’s understanding of loves language, matches, or at least compliments our own.

I’d now like to ask the sister of the Bride to come forward and share a reading with us…

On cold winter nights, love is warm.
It lies between you and lives and breathes
and makes funny noises.
Love wakes you up all hours of the night with its needs.
It needs to be fed so it will grow and stay healthy.

Love doesn't like being left alone for long.
But come home and love is always happy to see you.
It may break a few things accidentally in its passion for life,
but you can never be mad at love for long.

Is love good all the time? No! No! Love can be bad. Bad, love, bad! Very bad love.

Love makes messes.
Love leaves you little surprises here and there.
Love needs lots of cleaning up after.
Sometimes you just want to get love fixed.
Sometimes you want to roll up a piece of newspaper
and swat love on the nose,
not so much to cause pain,
just to let love know Don't you ever do that again!

Sometimes love just wants to go for a nice long walk.
Because love loves exercise.
It runs you around the block and leaves you panting.
It pulls you in several different directions at once,
or winds around and around you
until you're all wound up and can't move.

But love makes you meet people wherever you go.
People who have nothing in common but love
stop and talk to each other on the street.

Throw things away and love will bring them back,
again, and again, and again.
But most of all, love needs love, lots of it.
And in return, love loves you and never stops.

The expression of intent and consent

J, you have chosen M to be your wife. Will you love and respect her? Will you be honest with her always? Will you stand by her through whatever may come? (Answer: 'I will')

M, you have chosen J to be your husband.  Will you  love and respect him? Will you be honest with him always? Will you stand by him through whatever may come?  (Answer: 'I will')

And do you both promise to make the necessary adjustments in your personal lives in order that you may live in a harmonious relationship together?  (Answer: 'We do')

The Exchange of vows

J and M we now come to your vows. May I remind you that saying your vows is one thing, but nothing is more challenging than living them day by day. What you promise today must be renewed tomorrow, and each day that stretches out before you. Will you now please turn and face each other and hold hands.

J, please repeat after me: In the presence of  our family and friends - I J choose you M - to be my wife – knowing in my heart – that you will be my confidant – my faithful partner – my one true love – You are my best friend – and I will love and respect you always

Now M please repeat after me: In the presence of  our family and friends - I M choose you J - to be my husband – knowing in my heart – that you will be my confidant – my faithful partner – my one true love – You are my best friend – and I will love and respect you always

I Like You by Sandol Stoddard Warburg

I like you and I know why.

I like you because you are a good person to like.
I like you because when I tell you something special, you know it's special
And you remember it a long, long time.
You say, Remember when you told me something special
And both of us remember

When I think something is important
you think it's important too
We have good ideas
When I say something funny, you laugh
I think I'm funny and you think I'm funny too
I like you because you know where I'm ticklish
And you don't tickle me there except just a little tiny bit sometimes
But if you do, then I know where to tickle you too
You know how to be silly
That's why I like you
If you go away, then I go away too
or if I stay home, you send me a postcard
You don't just say Well see you around sometime, bye
I like you a lot because of that

And I like you because when I am feeling sad
You don't always cheer me up right away
Sometimes it is better to be sad
You want to think about things
It takes time

I like you because if I am mad at you
Then you are mad at me too
It's awful when the other person isn't

I like you because I don't know why but
Everything that happens is nicer with you
I can't remember when I didn't like you
It must have been lonesome then

Even if it was the 999th of July
Even if it was August
Even if it was way down at the bottom of January
Even if it was no place particular in November
I would go on choosing you
And you would go on choosing me
Over and over again
That's how it would happen every time

The giving and receiving of rings

To marry the person you have set your heart upon is a joy unparalleled in human life.  Jesse, may I have the rings please?

J please repeat after me:

M, I give you this ring - that you may wear it - as a sign of my commitment – to our love. I pledge you my love and respect - my laughter and my tears. With you I will walk my path – from this day forward

M, please repeat after me:
J, I give you this ring - that you may wear it - as a sign of my commitment – to our love. I pledge you my love and respect - my laughter and my tears. . With you I will walk my path – from this day forward

J and M, please repeat after me:

C, we give you this bear – that you may keep it – as a symbol of the family – we have made this day.  We promise as parents – to raise you in such a way - that you will always - feel loved, protected and secure.

From your new marriage relationship can come the nurture and strength you three need to face the world. Only from this moment on you will face the world together in a new way.  Today a new family is born and our world will be the better for its birth.  For this we all celebrate.

Blessing of the Marriage

Now may the love which has brought you together continue to grow and enrich your lives.

May you meet with courage any problems which arise to challenge you.  

May your marriage be one of ever-growing depth and meaning.

May you always respect the uniqueness of each other.

May your communication always be clear and honest and may your relationship always be one of love and trust.

May the happiness you share today be with you always and may every word you have pledged here be a living truth in your lives.

Declaration of Marriage

J and M, we have heard your promise to share your lives in marriage. We recognise and respect the covenant of marriage you have made here this day before each one of us as witnesses.

Therefore, in the honesty and sincerity of what you have said and done, it is my honour and delight to declare you henceforth to be husband and wife.

You may seal your vows with a kiss.

Signing of the Register

Introduction of the couple

It is my personal privilege and a great joy to be the first to introduce J and M as husband and wife.
Please greet them warmly.

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