Our Non-Fairytale Romance!
- Last updated on June 16, 2011 at 3:20 am
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I was never the girl who grew dreaming about her perfect wedding dress, Prince Charming...or fairtytale anything, really. In fact, even though I'm now 25, the idea of getting married still blows my mind! Nonetheless, my best friend in the whole world asked me to marry him on Christmas day 2008 and I said YES!!
Jake and I met when I was 16, and he had just turned 20. We are both Civil War reenactors (but not the nerdy kind, just the social, history-loving kind :p ) and we met at an event in Wisconsin through mutual friends. It turns out we had been going to the same events for years and never ran into each other! That first night it stormed so bad we all had to take cover at a shelter house, so Jake and I set up all night talking. We lived 3 hours apart, but he drove to see me nearly every weekend until I was done with school! Looking back on it, I think our time apart yet together actually strengthened our relationship. Long distance doesn't work for everyone but it sure did for us!
We ended up going to college together (Jake had gotten his AA and thought he didn't want to go any further with school, but I convinced him otherwise. He still thanks me!) and getting an apartment. By that time we had been together 4 years and while we talked of marriage "someday", we always knew we wanted to wait until we were settled and could plan for a real life together.
Jake and I are both old-souls. We have never been the partying kind, even in college. We've always enjoyed quiet nights, or activities that we could do just the two of us or with a small group of friends. We much prefer a good dinner and a movie to a night at the bar. Not to say we don't get out and enjoy ourselves from time to time, but we sure are not the typical young couple! While we certainly have our arguments, we' ve never had the big drama I see so many of our friends go through. I like to say we're pretty chill!
As graduation grew closer, we realized we had been through so much together already and knew the day would come when we would get married, but we still talked about it as an eventual thing. For sure we wanted to wait until after school when we both had jobs so we could afford it. I graduated mid-year in December, and Jake had until May. Imagine my surprise when, on Christmas day evening at my family's house, he followed me into a back bedroom where I had gone to get one last present (for the dog!) I turned out and he was standing there with a ring box!!
It wasn't the proposal I had imagined, when I even gave thought to that kind of thing. But it was perfect. He said "I've been trying to figure out how to ask you all day, and I just couldn't wait any longer." He followed that up by saying "Guess what? I'm going to get another tractor!" Jake hobby farms and has always collected John Deere tractors, and I always kid him for spending waaay too much money on those things. I finally put my foot down and told him he couldn't buy another tracter unti after graduation and when I had a 'pretty'. Well, I got my pretty and he got his tractor that summer!
We've had a long engagement. He asked me in December of 2008 and we will be getting married in September of 2011. This way we have been able to save up and really have the wedding we want, and we've bought a farm and a puppy in between time!! We now both have the good jobs we dreamed about, and are finally getting excited for the wedding. At first, it seemed so far away that it was ridiculous to talk about, and I still sometimes can't believe I'm actually getting married!
So overall, we are not the typical infatuated, wedding-obsessed couple...but towad the end it all came together and it was soooo exciting! Thanks to PW I'm finding that I really enjoy the planning and organizing. And Jake was just excited about the idea of a big ol' party with all of our friends, he said all along that he trusted me to make it perfect!
I'm so unbelievably happy right now, it's crazy. I married my best friend and we a darn good life right now. I had the wedding I didn't even know was in my dreams and the the day WAS magic :)