- Last updated on January 21, 2012 at 4:05 am
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I am what I like to call a "Mommy Bride" I had 2 year old twins to potty train, 3rd grade homework I had to help with, & I also planned a wedding while managing all the other "joys" that Motherhood brings. It is true that becoming a Mother really does change your perspective & teach you many lesson. However, being a "Mommy Bride" definitely adds new creative, fun, stressful, & often exhausting moments that will make your and your child's special day amazing! My day would maybe have been more organized or put together but I prefer the chaos mixed with love compared to a "perfect" day".
1.Involve them where you can & don't expect it to be perfect, plus the little mistakes often play out to be pretty funny & memorable. I had my 8 year old help pick out the guys stuff, help with the candy table, & he wrote a prayer for the ceremony. All three boys were involved in a personal rose ceremony written by my Aunt.
2.If you have a candy table.....expect a sugar high!
3. Let them dance not much is cuter then dancing kids & it is really your only option if you want to get rid of that sugar high :D
4. If Mommy needs a drink, a run, a hot bath....DO IT! Whatever it may be make sure to do what you love & what relaxes you. Motherhood & wedding planning are a lot of work & sometimes a girl just needs a break!!
5. The day of your wedding just go with it!! I learned this lesson at it's finest when my two year old just moments before the ceremony stripped down to nothing but his diaper and had a meltdown! I don't know if his shirt itched him but he went from a white button up shirt into a red t~shirt and all was well?!? All I can tell you is take a deep breath and fix the problem trust me friends the wedding ceremony will not continue unless the bride is there! we started 15 minutes late but it all went well and my son was still able to be part of the ceremony.
6. They will want to invite their friends ;D & their friends are stuffed! My youngest twin has a true affection for his two ducks (QuackQuack & Ducky) they have been a part of so many of his adventures in life I figured I might as well include them in my wedding party! So they put on a bow tie & collar & played the role of RB pillows, it was such a wonderful idea & kept the boys happy and calm through their part of the ceremony.
(notice the red shirt, LoL)
7. Let them visit, wonder, & just plain have fun with your guest and your day, you will end up with some great pictures!
8. LET IT GO! Not every detail is going to get done, &if it does great if it doesn't....o'well!! My children were all sick as was I two weeks before my wedding. Getting them & myself healthy was more important then getting the perfect pair of shoes, making my escort cards, & getting more candy for my sweets table. Would I have liked to have those things? Of course, but life happens & a lot of times as a Mom it seems it happens all at once!
9. Bask in the love that surrounds you not only with your new husband but with your children also! Laugh with them, kiss them, hug them & always remember what a special part of the day they were!
10.If all else fails get the NANNY!! I highly recomend getting a nanny if you can fit it into the budget. It gives family & friends a chance to enjoy the kids but not feel like they have to keep an eye on them.