10 days to go!!!!! ♥

SO EXCITED!!!!! I can hardly work!!! Who can work when all of my dreams are about to come true?!?! UPDATE #1: Lost my Matron of Honor. Knew it would happen. I asked her to step down b/c she's having her 3rd baby any day now and she wanted to breast feed him while me and the other girls would be trying to get our hair and makeup done in the bridal suite. Umm...that just couldn't happen! The day should be about me and fiance and our wedding! Not her and her baby and her boobs! She just didn't understand and kept arguing with me and was being sooo selfish! So, I guess our 19 year friendship is OVER. :( UPDATE #2: Cake vendor didn't ever tell me how much the cakes were going to cost so when I asked last week, she said over $1,600! HOLY CRAP!!! I already paid her $250. So, after arguing and changing up the cakes from our dream cakes to "somewhat" our dream cakes, I got her to bring them down to $1000. BOGUS!!! What vendor doesn't discuss prices upfront?! Never using her again!!! And she's a family friend! Glad I didn't invite her to the wedding, I almost did! UPDATE #3: My Maid of Honor STILL hasn't sent me my Bachelorette Party pics and that was on Oct. 19th! She has been completely useless throughout my whole wedding planning process! I have the WORST bridesmaids ever! They are NO HELP!!! And I keep having to beg her to make the ribbon bouquet for me for the rehearsal dinner. I bet y'all money she WILL forget to do it or she'll leave it at home! So, I'm down a bridesmaid so now my wedding party will be uneven which just "erks" me b/c her name is already in the program!!! My Maid and Matron of Honor are SOOO selfish!!! Do I still give my Matron of Honor her gift?! And how and when do I give it to her if I do b/c normally I would've given it to her at the rehearsal dinner but now she's not coming to that since she dropped out?? UGH.
Posted on November 6, 2013 at 11:00 am
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NicoleJuliette
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First: how exciting, I seriously can'y believe your day is right around the corner!

Second: SO sorry about your MOH's and the cake :( I really hope that you can salvage the friendship. I would give her the gift, maybe you can meet some time before the wedding?

 

Posted on November 7, 2013 at 1:45 pm
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 What an exciting time for you but also seems very stressful.  Good luck to you hon and I so hope everything works out for you.

Posted on November 7, 2013 at 1:45 pm
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Wow Im so sorry you are dealing with all of that. I would not give her a gift she is no longer part of the wedding. Some people are so selfish and disrespectful. Im hoping by keeping my wedding party to 3 and family I wont have problems.
Posted on November 7, 2013 at 1:46 pm
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totally agree w/ Kimand Byron....geez.

another reason I wont have any bridemaids...something alway has to go wrong. smh

Posted on November 8, 2013 at 4:47 pm
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 Good lord girl!

Confabulations of course!

I think you should still give her the gift.

You're day will be great no matter what (:

Posted on November 8, 2013 at 7:58 pm
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First off congratulations! My wedding day just past and the one person who didn't help with anything was the only person prepared that day. She ended up doing two girl's hair and her own BC they couldn't afford the hair dresser. She ended up doing my makeup because the one I booked had an important event. Then the whole planning time my MIL and SIL acted like jerks. But that was okay because at least my family was being supportive, right? Well my mother inturupted our first dance and thought it was a joke. I played it off because by this time I had simply grown tired of being angry. Oh and don't forget the pastor sermon....talked about things we talked about in pure marital counceling. The days following I was in tears when ever I was alone. It has been a week and I've stopped crying but I have decided that I need to distance my self from everyone for a while. So that is what I suggest to you. Take this time and enjoy it, then when your all done with it all take a few weeks and just don't call anyone. Spend some time with just you and your new husband. Then start reconciling relationships.
Posted on November 12, 2013 at 12:46 pm
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Pure-pre*
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Posted on November 13, 2013 at 8:45 pm
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 Super exciting!! 

I personally would still give the gift, I know you are really angry right now but is it worth losing 19 years of friendship over one disagreement? I totally understand that your wedding day is one of the most important days of your life and she should be willing to make sacrifices for you but breastfeding her baby is an important thing for her. I'm sure she never wanted to hurt you, and may not have behaved/spoken appropriately, but 19 years is a really special friendship to give up on.

either way, have an amazing day. I can't wait to hear all about it!!

Posted on November 13, 2013 at 9:27 pm
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I agree with canooknic.  My MOH delivered 2 1/2 weeks before our wedding.  In the beginning (before she delivered) i too felt that having the baby there would take away from our wedding.  After the baby was born I felt bad for ever thinking that way.  My MOH is very special to me and so was the birth of her baby.  It was a very hard thing to do for her (their first child) to have her mom babysit that night.  I had suggested to my MOH that she have her mom stay at the hotel so that she could see the baby and breast feed her as needed.  (She did opt agaisnt that more likely bc the baby was so young it wouldve been a better environment in their home). As Canooknic said i am sure as well her intent was never to hurt you or take away from you having a special moment.  I hope that you are able to continue to have many more years of friendship with her.  I know things get very hectic on those days leading up to the wedding so remember to take some time to relax. and if plans dont go the way we may have intended them to there is a simple phrase  "those who matter dont mind, and those who mind dont matter"

Posted on November 13, 2013 at 10:05 pm
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 First of all... Take a bubble bath and relax ;)  You are getting MARRIED in 10 9 days!!!  That is amazing, in itself!!!

 

As for the cake.... Lesson learned.  It is ridiculous the way she handled business, but, being this close to the big day, don't even think about it...  Focus on the important part!

 

Thirdly, as for your Matron of Honor - I can (sort of) relate.  My sister was pregnant and I almost didn't have her stand... It was so stressful dealing with the wedding, along dealing with her and her alterations and trying to get things squared away... DH had to take control over a lot of things dealing with that because I stressed too much.  In the end, she did stand and I wouldn't have it any other way!  Don't think of your relationship is over...  Planning a wedding and having a child are two very important things.  It's sad it didn't work out for the wedding, but it doesn't mean the friendship is over ;)  After things cool down from the wedding, sit down with her and discuss how you feel.  I'm sure she's not feeling too great being dropped either. :- /  

And, your maid of honor - I know quite a few people who are such procrasinators...  It stinks...  (Who am I kidding?  I'm one!! HA HA!)  But, don't let the little things bother you right now...  Screw them! ;)  Just kidding...

Just don't think about the little things right now... Being so close to the big day, you don't want to add more stress than you need to.  Relax and let it go.  You'll feel so much better!  Trust me!  Been there, done that.

Posted on November 14, 2013 at 9:13 pm
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 Hey futuremrswolter...your day is practiacally AROUND THE CORNER!!! I'm so sorry you're dealing with all this drama, but the (unfortunate) truth is, people have other things to be focused on. I'm so sorry to say that! Your wedding day is #1 to you!!!

That is a TOUGH thing to cope with when it is your wedding day! My Sis (MOH) had a newborn around my wedding time, and I had to come to accept it long beforehand that my wedding day, although important to her, was definitely not the most important thing to her, and as long as she could still do certain things, we just had to do what we had to do...and now I have the cutest nephew I couldn't ask for more :) 

 

I hope you have an amazing day because if my math is right, which it might not be LOL, you wil be  a MRS in a few days!! That's all that matters!!!! Can't wait for a recap!!!

Posted on November 15, 2013 at 3:22 am

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