12 Wedding 'Rules' Every Bride Should Feel Free to Break

I read this article and had to share it with you ladies. I have to admit, I laughed at a few of these. 


By Maressa Brown


Let's face it -- some wedding rules were madeto be broken. Because they're annoying, pedantic, antiquated, or just don't fit you and the person you're about to marry, etc. Here, 12 wedding rules a bride should feel free to break or make her own ...



  1. Using "formal" wording on the invitations - This is one I was grappling with recently. Who says the invite being sent to your best friend Sally -- who just happened to marry Joe Smith -- has to be addressed to "Mr. and Mrs. Joe Smith"? As a good friend told me, there are no etiquette police at the post office! Trying to follow proper etiquette is one thing, but feeling like you have to address your closest friends in an impersonal, outdated way is another.

  2. Wearing a veil - Hey, it's not for everyone.

  3. Wearing a blusher - It's really not for everyone. I'm still not sure what to do ... (But because the unveiling can be an especially emotional part of a Jewish ceremony, I think I'm gonna go for it.)

  4. Having an equal bridesmaids to groomsmen ratio - No one's really going to notice or care if you have a gaggle of besties, and your guy only has his three bros. And a good photog can arrange the bridal party so your pics look awesome.

  5. Putting the carriage before the marriage - It's not just celebs like Kim Kardashian, Kristin Cavallari, or Jessica Simpson doing it these days. Sometimes it just happens that you get pregnant before becoming a bride -- or you find yourself a pregnant bride!

  6. Sleeping apart the night before - In this day and age of most couples living together for years before they say "I do," no one says you have to spend your last night as a Miss without your Mister. If you're more comfortable being together, consider what my friend said she and her hubby did: "We slept together the night before our wedding, woke up, and said, 'Let's do this!'"

  7. Having "photogenic," designer shoes - Some brides totally freak out over having the right Louboutins, because someone's going to see them -- even if it's just the photographer! But every bride's priority should be comfort -- whether they're walking down the aisle in Jimmy Choos, Toms, or flip-flops!

  8. Wearing a white dress - Who say it has to be white? Or long? Or anything other than what you want to wear on your wedding day ...

  9. Writing separate vows or writing your own vows at all - You may want to write them together or stick to the traditional and/or religious ones.

  10. Skipping the "cheesy" traditions - Some brides get hung up on being unique and different that they actually pass on doing some of the things they would have liked to do. Do what you want!

  11. Going on the honeymoon right away - Sometimes, airfare is cheaper a week or 10 days after your wedding. Sometimes, you have to do a mini-moon instead. Or wait a year for your big trip.

  12. Having what most would consider a traditional wedding at all - If eloping or pulling a Zuckerberg or going to town hall is more your thing, do it!


 

Posted on March 6, 2013 at 9:54 pm
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Here's a great question that we can all discuss. 


What wedding rule did you break or do you feel was meant to be broken?

Posted on March 6, 2013 at 9:54 pm
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10.  i hate the idea of tossing a bouquet to single girls and having the groom hike under my dress for the garter with all to see.  we chose to skip those traditions.  instead i gave the "tossing" bouquet to the woman who was part of the couple who had been married the longest...whether that was a married woman or a widow.  the garter i still wore for the groom to find back in our hotel room.


oh and i hate weddings where everyone gives toasts, cause most are really stupid and not thought out at all.  so we had no toasts at the wedding.  instead the best man and maid of honor gave their toasts at the rehearsal dinner.

Posted on March 6, 2013 at 10:32 pm
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DH said NO WAY to the under the dress for the garter! I thought it would be kind of fun but he was not comfortable with it, so we did a couple pictures earlier where I showed him the garter! And then I got up and announced "Hey dear, now that I've tossed the bouquet, I think there's a little something you have to throw too..." And once people started whistling and yelling, thinking he was going under the dress, I opened my hand and dangled the garter I was already holding. We got a few boos, but it was all in good fun :)

Posted on March 7, 2013 at 1:17 am
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Holy moly!!

I can cross off 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 10 & 11!! Is it still classed as a wedding???? Lol
Posted on March 7, 2013 at 1:26 am
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We went on our HM a month and half after our wedding. Montreal in August is gorgeous and I didn’t see the point in leaving sun for more sun plus we had friends and family in from out of town that I would have felt guilty ditching.  


This was also my 2nd marriage so we skipped a few of the normal traditions and we wrote our vows that reflected who WE are as a couple AND my kids were both there.

Posted on March 7, 2013 at 2:14 am
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Lorna that's exactly why we're putting our honeymoon off for a few weeks! We need to go before the start of school, but I love our summer sun...and we probably shouldn't ditch all our family when they've spent so much to come and see us!!
Posted on March 7, 2013 at 3:00 am
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Love these!!!


What I love the most is that this author is saying-who cares if you want to be traditional, different, classic, or unique-it will be unique because it is YOUR wedding. I love that. People get too caught up in these things. Thanks for posting :)


 

Posted on March 7, 2013 at 3:24 am
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We are skipping the bouquet and garter toss. The only first dance is the bride/groom. (my father and his mother have passed away). We are taking photos prior to the ceremony so we will see each other prior to the ceremony. We have a very cute way of him seeing me for the first time though. He is going to be standing out in the field with his back turned and I'm going to walk up behind him and tap him on the shoulder and that is when he will turn around and see me for the first time in my dress. We are spending the night before together.

Posted on April 6, 2013 at 2:27 pm
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ALL OF THE THEM....my hubby and i had children before we got together...i was 7 months pregnant with our son when we got married...we are having a vow renewal and im wearing what ever dress i want shoes i want and riding the fence on a veil ...its our day why we have tobe traditional when we didnt start off that way ....nothing about our relationship is traditional...and yes we will sleep together...this is our time for eachother and God...we take this time to pray and thank God for the blessings He gave us...as far as a honeymoon goes ,we are going a week after our reception because its cheaper to do so...so i think we are breaking every rule there is.....we are such rebals...lol

Posted on April 6, 2013 at 3:04 pm
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2,3,4 9-12 and I am skipping the bouquet and garter toss, i dont even have a garter....


we will not do our honeymoon until we have chance to get free from our jobs and we may not even have dance but only dinner...... yet i hope I can convince Alex to do the first dance :-)))

Posted on April 6, 2013 at 8:01 pm
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We broke 6,7,10, and 11. I loved waking up with my sweetie on our wedding day, wearing comfy shoes even though I had a pretty pair, and skipping the "tosses". We also ditched the honeymoon--I'd rather have the new kitchen cabinets I got instead, thank you very much;)
Posted on April 7, 2013 at 12:21 am
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"Rules" we broke:


3, 4, 6, 7, 11, 12


hahah thats exactly half!

Posted on April 7, 2013 at 4:48 am

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