2 weeks before the wedding and i dont wanna do it anymore

everything is a mess.. all that planning! our parents arent talking to each other, no one is listening to me, everyone is fighting! i cant take it anymore. i feel like canceling the whole thing all together

Posted on July 10, 2008 at 8:43 am
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Posted on July 10, 2008 at 8:45 am
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Oh my goodness! I'm so sorry!!!!


 


I'm not sure what all the arguing is about but I hope that you can rise above it and just take it for what it is- STRESS. this is one of the biggest days in your families life and everyone is probably acting crazy. Just know that on the day of they will all be on their best behavior!


 


any chance of you and your future hubby taking a weekend away? Or at least turning off all the phones?


 


Good LUCK!!!


Everyone feels like canceling it at some point. But don't lose track of the true meaning of the day-- it's about YOU and the man you love!


 


xoxoxo

Posted on July 10, 2008 at 8:46 am
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so.. we are having a "russian" wedding, which means boose is on the tables! one bottle of vodka, one of cognac, one of red wine, one white and one champaigne.  fi's dad is a vodka drinker so he wants 100 dollar vodka and cheap cognac, my dad is a cognac drinker so he wants 100 dollar cognac and cheap vodka, fi is a cab drinker so he wants all red wine to be a cab!! you get the picture? then my dad caleld his dad cheap... and now they are fighting over money! 2 weeks.. and now they start fighting? why couldnt they have fought a year ago???

Posted on July 10, 2008 at 8:49 am
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oh no. dont do it.. try and breathe.


im sorry you are going through this. stess or drama ALWAYS arises during the planning process. i hope it will pass. i cant say i didnt feel the same way you did weeks before our wedding.. but now that its over.. iver glad we still went through with it. good luck girl. go have a drink!


xo

Posted on July 10, 2008 at 8:52 am
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I agree with Cee, go have a drink! lol

Posted on July 10, 2008 at 8:53 am
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GOOOOSFRABAA. Breathe. Its ok just relax you cannot help anything if your stressed. Just talk to them and tell them to hold out their anger till after the wedding then they can go out back and beat each other!

Posted on July 10, 2008 at 8:54 am
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Oh iklein,


I am sorry! How about a compromise with the booze and each parent gets to pick a brand but they both cost the same amount of $ (so one isn't more than the other). Not sure what your budget it, so set a limit and then let them pick? So they are both happy (sort of). Doing Cab for the red is fine, it's middle ground for most wine drinkers. People are usually happy to have any booze, really. Or is that just me :)


I hope it works out.

Posted on July 10, 2008 at 8:55 am
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so our parents dont even want tog et together to make the seating chart.. they each want to work on their own guests and have my sit the "extra's!!!!


 


 


ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

Posted on July 10, 2008 at 8:57 am
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I'm so sorry you are going through this.   I agree with kohler maybe you should have a family meeting so everybody can get their focus back.

Posted on July 10, 2008 at 9:00 am
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they refuse to be in the same room together..

Posted on July 10, 2008 at 9:02 am
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so sorry iklein! how about scaring them and saying you don't want to go through with this anymore? they might freak out and snap out of it? tell them you guys are just eloping this weekend and they can fight all they want.


hang in there it'll work out. i would just be an emotional wreck..that usually seems to work! i'm sooo sorry!

Posted on July 10, 2008 at 9:08 am
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thanks ladies! i know things will work out, they always do, but i break out when i stress and my wedding is in two weeks!!! i was trying to keep everything stress free to i have a clean face on my weddinh day! they are making me break out. haha


 


i just need to breathe and not talk wedding for the rest of the day...


 


16 days baby... you girls think i'll make it? lol

Posted on July 10, 2008 at 9:15 am
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iklien, I'm so sorry this is happening. It sounds like they need to realize how much their bickering is stressing you out, and they need to be reminded what the day is all about. Not many guests are going to care what brand of vodka or congac is on the table.


I would seriously threaten to cancel the whole thing unless they all grow up and start acting like grown-ups. They refuse to be in the same room together??? And these are adults? Oi! I have very little tolerance for senseless bickering and bullshit, so I'll be SO willing to walk out if my family started acting like this. I'd start chastizing them like little kids. This would be me ---> "Your behavior has been embarassing and there's no way I'm walking down the aisle with this animocity and tension. You all need to get along or there won't be a wedding."


Take a deep breath... maybe two. And give yourself a moment to decide how much of this you're willing to deal with. There's only so much one bride can take!


As far as the seating chart goes, perhaps you and your FI should do it without any input from the parents. And tell them to just deal with it


Oh, and that massage sounds like a great idea too. Hang in there, just 2 more weeks. We're here fo you.

Posted on July 10, 2008 at 9:23 am
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You and your boyfriend-fiancee need to just stand up to your mom and dad and his mom and dad and just tell them to grow up and stand up to them because it sounds like they are telling you what to do and it is your wedding. Why are you let them tell you what to do anyway? I would not let my mama tell me to do that I am over 18 years old. They are acting like spoiled chldren

Posted on July 10, 2008 at 9:23 am
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are they all paying for your wedding?

Posted on July 10, 2008 at 9:26 am
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yes, they are paying for the wedding, which is why i am very limited to what i can say.

Posted on July 10, 2008 at 9:38 am
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Don't worry it will all come togther...  Please just take a break from THEM for a day or so and just take care of yourself.  I personally want to make my seating chart myself~ maybe that would be best for you as well...


Lastly, if they both want a certain 'kind' of drink I would say GREAT The person that wants the vodka, go buy all of them, and the person that wants whatever else goes and gets all of them. You will have expensive alcohol on your table, but its done~ Let them PAY for and DEAL with what they want... ...and its fair too.


Stay focused, go do something for yourself right now...


- HMM :)

Posted on July 10, 2008 at 9:43 am
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Just take a break from all the wedding planning.  You'll make it!!  I have faith in you!!

Posted on July 10, 2008 at 9:57 am
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Here's the compromise:


$100 bottle of cognac and cheap vodka on the table of Parent 1


$100 bottle of vodka and cheap cognac on the table of Parent 2


$50 bottle cognac and $50 vodka for all other tables!


HA!

Posted on July 10, 2008 at 10:19 am
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Even though they are paying for the wedding, you shouldn't feel limited on what you can say. It's still you and your FI getting married, not your parents! Man, I hate it when parents pull the money card and use it as a weapon. (my mom tried it once and I was immediately looking at ways we could elope... then she never used it again) It's SO not fair... the bride wants to express her concern or opinion and she gets shot down because "...it's our money, we will decide." Who's the one getting married here??? And when the bride tries to fight back, she's accused of being a bridezilla. Totally lame! Sometimes the Bridezilla in you needs to come out and start knocking down some buildings. (okay, no more action movies for me this week...)


HMM has a great idea on dealing with the alcohol... One Dad pays for the $100 vodka, the other Dad pays for the $100 congac.


Take a break and give yourself time to relax. My face totally breaks out when I'm stressed too. Drink lots of water and you'll get through this!

Posted on July 10, 2008 at 10:23 am
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