9 yr old boy and 6 yr old girl roles in wedding?

My nephew is going to be 9 when I get married and my friend's daughter is going to be 6. Do I have them as ring bearer and flower girl or junior bridesmaid and groomsmen, or does it matter? Also,if they are to become the flower girl and ring bearer, is there anything else they can do besides the throwing petals out of a basket and carrying a pillow????? Any ideas would be great, thank you.
Posted on September 25, 2007 at 6:58 pm
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That depends, do you think they can stand up there and be still for the whole ceremony? It would be really cute to have them as a JR bridesmaid and groomsmen, but kids don't always have an abundance of patients for things like weddings. Also, kids have a tendency to go ?EWWWWWWW" when people kiss..... I personally wouldn't mind, I think it would be funny, but I'm also having a very informal wedding.

Do you already have a ring bearer and a flower girl? If so, you could always have more then one.

Just some things to think about, Hope this helps
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Posted on September 26, 2007 at 1:46 am
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Since we're having our wedding overseas, all of my FI's cousins back home and all of my cousins that are flying over are going to be a part of our wedding. In addition to our 12-person entourage ---- We have 5 flowergirls that will all be around the ages of 8-9, 4 jr bridesmaids from the ages of 13-17, 1 ringbearer at 10, 1 coinbearer at 13 and 2 jr groomsmen at 19. We know they'll be a little older than they're "supposed to" be, but they are all so excited to be a part of it, that who really cares :) Also, at most of the weddings I've been to, the little kids usually sit back with their folks after they've done their entrance, so that shouldn't be a problem unless you really want them to stand the whole time.

So anyway, I don't think it matters at all. Our jr groomsmen are like, 6ft tall haha. We're referring to them as such so we don't take away from our closest friends we selected to be our attendants that day, and so they can walk down the aisle with their cousins.
Posted on September 26, 2007 at 3:42 am
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I don't think it matters, see what they like to do. I had 2 flower girls (10 and 12 years old) and one ring bearer (8 years old). I asked them before what they thought of the roles and they liked them...as we didn't have bridesmaids or groomsmen (only MOH and BM), juniors wouldn't have made sense.
Posted on September 26, 2007 at 3:59 am
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Yeah, I don't think it matters. I mean, if you want, you can have your nephew be ringbearer (because 6 years old is a little young for jr. groomsmen) and your friend's daughter as a jr. bridesmaid (assuming you don't mind it being unsymmetrical). I think as a 9 year old though, she'd probably be happy just being in the wedding.
Posted on September 26, 2007 at 8:25 am
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I'm not sure if this is an option, but you could always ask their parents or the kids themselves what they would rather do -- be a junior whatever or ring bearer and FG. It looks like I won't have FGs, or I may have a 11-year-old FG. I was considering having them also pass out programs in hopes to have them feel more involved than just walking down the aisle.

My thing about the whole JR bridesmaid/groomsman thing, is that it kinda seems like a waste. My cousins will be in two (possibly three) weddings in a matter of months, and clothing them in wedding-specific colors, that seems really expensive. And there aren't many of those dresses on ebay...
Posted on September 26, 2007 at 9:13 am
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I agree with the others it's really up to you - the kids are going to be adorable either way so it doesn't matter. My Junior BM is 8 and my ring bearer is 6 so that should be interesting! hee hee

Also - about the flower girls and what to do - I feel the same way.. I was thinking I might have the flower girls (they twin girls 4yrs old)ring bells as they walk down the aisle and maybe even try to get them to say "the bride is coming, the bride is coming" but if not just the bells will do. I was going to have the music stop right before they walk down..Just a thought.. I saw it on TV.. Also - have you seen those angels wings they can wear? Just melts my heart.. Here's the link.. http://store.fairytaleendeavorsbridals.com/smfaorbuwi.html

Good Luck :)
Posted on February 6, 2008 at 1:41 am
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I saw a really cute idea for a little boy on the weddingbee.com. The little boy carried a sign that looked like a scroll that read:
"Here Comes the Bride..."
SO CUTE!! I love Sunshine's idea too of having the kid yell "the bride is coming" but I worry that the boys in our wedding party will be too shy to do that so I think the sign would be a better alternative for the shy ones.
Posted on February 6, 2008 at 4:23 am
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I just promoted one of my flowergirls to Jr. Bridesmaid! she's only 7, but she's 4'11" and come November, she'll be well over 5 ft...can you believe that? 7 yrs old and 4'11" she wears a size 5 in womens shoes...size 10 though in girls...she's a beanpole too.
Posted on February 6, 2008 at 9:24 am
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It's your wedding, you can do whatever you want! One of my friends had two very tall 12 year old flower girls and a 4 year-old ring bearer in her wedding. As a child I was the flower girl for a wedding where the ring bearer was 12 and I was only 7, but then I was a junior bridesmaid at another relative's wedding when I was 9. I wouldn't worry about ages, just make the decision based upon what people are important to you in your life and then decide what role they can play in your wedding!
Posted on February 6, 2008 at 12:53 pm
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My niece was 5 and nephew 10 at our wedding in September. We didn't have a flower girl or ring bearer (or BMs or GMs for that matter), but we had them be the "lei bearers" and help us give out leis to our guests.

That said, had we gone the traditional Bridal Party route, they would have been the flower girl and ring bearer. FWIW, I think kids that age fare far better than toddlers and kids under 5 (as cute as they may be). I feel that Jr. BMs and GMs should at least be tweens/pre-teens (11 an older).
Posted on February 6, 2008 at 4:21 pm
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oops, I totally missed this!
Posted on February 9, 2008 at 3:30 am

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