Advice please... :(

So I'm personally not TTC at this time...not for a year or so.  But one of my very best friends is currently going through her second miscarriage in as many pregnancies.  I'm utterly heart broken for her.  I wanted to see if any of you have experienced this and have advice on how to help her.  I've expressed how sorry I am and told her I'm there for whatever she needs...but i feels like so little.  Maybe there's nothing I can do other than that but I thought I'd ask...thanks.

Posted on November 18, 2009 at 2:30 pm
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jess143
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ugh, i am so sorry!! It could be a number of things, and the dr.s may never have an answer, it could be a combo of a bunch of things. I have a friend that has had 7 miscarriages in 8 years. all i can suggest is to be there for her, for those of us who have infertility issues, little things can be annoying. Like the baby aisle in target, evry pregnant person you come in contact with, etc. just becuase its a constant reminder that you cant have a baby. so, sometimes we just need someone to listen, and not bring up baby stuff (((hug)) for your friend

Posted on November 18, 2009 at 4:50 pm
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one of my close friends, who happens to be in my wedding as well lost her baby 2 years ago and i felt the same as you Beatie...just at a loss for words. give her the time that she needs to heal and just make sure that she knows you are there whenever she needs you. my friend actually sent out an email to all of her friends and family expressing that she knew that we wanted to help but she really just needed time to herself to grieve, get counseling etc; so we gave her that space.. ditto Jess143..all you can do is be there for her. your friend appreciates it so much :-) hugs and prayers to you and your friend.

Posted on November 19, 2009 at 3:18 am
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I had 3 miscarriages myself...I loved that fact that my friends and family were there for me but I hated when the would bring it up all the time. Talk about it if she wants to talk about it otherwise just be there for her. Have a normal conversation ask how her day, week whatever was just be you. I felt more comfort from my friends that were comfortable with me and the situation.
I couldn't stand to be around my MIL at the time because she would always bring it up and if we were out some where she would make comments to people we didnt even know. It really sucked!

If you guys are close friend she already knows that you will be there to lift her up.
Posted on November 19, 2009 at 3:48 am

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