Ladies, let's do an A through Z of wedding dress posts; advice; assistance; your experiences, and so on.
I will start!
A - The dress really does matter! Do not get a dress that others want for you! Your dress is probably one if not the most important decision you will make for your wedding day and you want to be happy with your choice and still smiling years later when you gaze at your pictures. Your dress sets the mood, the tone and feel for your special day so please make sure you get a dress that makes you grin from ear to ear each and every time you see it or put it on!
B- Be careful on who you pick to go with you to the bridal shop to pick out the dress. What kind of personality do you have? Can you stand up for yourself with no problem? Do you always want to please everyone? If you have no problems with confrontations or have no problems standing up for yourself, then you can take a small group of the most important people with you (mom and moh or whoever) and you should have no problems. If you want to please everyone and have trouble standing up for yourself, then you need to be REALLY careful on how you choose. Is your mom or bridemaid pretty demanding? If you have a hard time standing up for yourself, then I wouldn't take those type of people with me if I were you. Why make finding the right dress more difficult? Take people with you that will support you and finding something you love. Take the other people to the first fitting. Anyone important in your life you only want you to be happy. Don't sacrifice your happiness on your wedding day and every time you think about that day, because you picked the wrong people to go with you and you couldn't say no to them.
C- Consider the venue and the ambience you want, before picking a dress. for instance, a cathedral length train and a beach wedding, you may find the combination coumbersome and unweldly. Other factors that should come into consideration include the cost of the dress. Unless you have an unlimited budget, please stick to your budget. Dont break the bank to get any dress. No matter how lovely you think a dress it, you can always find the same dress at a more affordable rate. All you need is to look for it.
Great advice ladies! Let's keep it going!
D- Try on different silhouettes and styles of dresses. What you think you want may not be what you end up loving! I originally had my heart set on a ball gown because my DH makes me feel like a little princess. When I tried on some ballgowns, I looked like a crocheted toilet topper and got a good chuckle! I ended up purchasing a dress with a sweetheart neckline that I would have never considered because I am top heavy and did not think it was a good look on me, but my consultant sweet talked me into it and I am so happy she did!
E- When dress hunting make sure the consultant that assist you at the store is knowledgeable, courteous, helpful and you have her undivided attention. My first experience was nothing like this and this can make or break a sale. I went to David's Bridal on a fluke with my hubby the first time around and the place was very busy! My consultant gave me the wrong bra to try on with dresses three times, even though she measured me! She was never available to help me in or out of the dresses, so my hubby who was FI at the time, assisted me. (He was awesome!) I asked her some questions about the dress or headpieces and she couldn't answer any question! The second go round I went to a smaller David's Bridal store and got the specialized attention I needed. My consultant was great and if it were not for her, I may not have purchased my dress. I am top heavy and I was spilling over. I didn't like the look and didn't feel like a bride, so the consultant who was also top heavy suggested I take off the corset bra and I feel in love with my dress! There was also this applique on the side of the dress that didn't make sense to me and I was wondering why was it there? She told me it was for the sash and helped me pick out a beautiful sash for my dress. Having a helpful, knowledgeable and courteous consultant made my experience worthwhile!
F- try to figure out what is most important to you. an elaborate style or a simple line but fabulous material. If a gown with lots of details is your favourite, then it might be possibile to find in simpler material, still obtain a wonderful looking dress that makes you picture perfect. but the more simple you go in the style, the more carefully you have to make sure the material is exquisite. on a simple dress, it will show if the fabric is not good and you might be unhappy about photos later
G - for all you plus size brides, dont be discouraged and dont worry and fret. You WILL look beautiful in your wedding gown when you find the right one! I worried about it and my heart was racing up untill i was picking out gowns i liked off the racks. i was amazed at how they fit and looked on me... and after everything was said and done, i felt empowered about how i saw myself in the mirrors that day! <3 love yourself first! This is a lesson i needed to learn. I'm sad i dont have to countinue shopping i had so much fun!