Alternatives to mother/son dances?

My fiance and I always thought we wanted to skip the mother/son and father/daughter dance at the reception and go with a less traditional and more low-key function. When he told his mom this, she flipped out and was very upset that he didn't want to dance with her. Is this a reasonable request or are we just being mean?


Our goal was to keep this section of the reception short because there are other things we want to do, and neither of us particularly wants to have a solo dance with a parent.


Does anybody have an alternative suggestion or neat ideas so his mother won't feel left out, but we can still do something other than that nerve-racking solo dance? Please help!

Posted on January 25, 2013 at 5:19 am
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I think you have to take into account their feelings especially if they are paying for anypart of the wedding or rehearsal dinner. If they are not paying for any part of the wedding then I say it is 100% up to you.


 

Posted on January 25, 2013 at 7:05 am
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I don't think I explained this very well. We want to do something unique or nontraditional with our parents to honor them on this occasion. I was hoping for an idea that didn't include dancing or better yet, something that would include my mom and his dad in addition to my dad and his mom. 


I am wondering if anybody has done something or seen something at a reception that was different from dancing with the parents. I am trying to find a way to make my groom more comfortable and show all four of our parents that we love and appreciate them. :)


I completely agree that their feelings should be considered regardless of whether they are paying for things or not. Thanks for the input - I appreciate the advice! 


 

Posted on January 25, 2013 at 8:45 am
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Do you guys like to write? You could possibly write a poem or letter and read it to them aloud about what you learned from them or look up to them or thank them for (or whatever else you want to say) and maybe give them a flower or gift at the reception instead of the rehearsal dinner. *shrug* Just a thought. Good luck!

Posted on January 25, 2013 at 8:50 am
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Thank you! My fiance was an English major and he loves to write - I will suggest this to him as an alternative!

Posted on January 25, 2013 at 9:33 am
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How about a mother son father daughter Trivia game?


or the lot of you get up and do a trivia game together. It could be interesting dads and daughter vs mothers and sons

Posted on January 25, 2013 at 10:07 am
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I think a letter is a great idea! You could also combine the two dances with your parents and then add in the wedding party quickly so you guys aren't out there by yourselves. I think it's completely up to you and there are no rules, it's not an issue of respect and your parents will understand that.
Posted on January 26, 2013 at 4:07 am
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How about a Generations dance?

My friend's hubby hates dancing so definitely didn't want to be centre of attention so they asked both sets of parents and their grandparents to join them when they danced, the pictures were so lovely
Posted on January 28, 2013 at 5:15 am

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