Another Bridezilla question

A question came up in an earlier post regarding a tongue ring/bar so it got me thinking of this:


I'm completely against tattoos on women! I'm super preppy and feel that they have no place in my wedding, but one of my bridesmaids (groom's little sister) has one on her inner wrist and has told me that she won't cover it with make-up (she doesn't think tattoos are a big deal). So my idea is to order corsages for the BM's to wear during the wedding or have my fiancee threaten her with her life if she doesn't cover it.


Bridezilla or No?  ...any advice?

Posted on July 7, 2008 at 4:41 am
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Posted on July 7, 2008 at 4:49 am
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I agree with Kells.....its just a tattoo on the inside of her wrist.  Wont even show that much, especially if shes holding a bouquet.

Posted on July 7, 2008 at 4:59 am
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Bridezilla.  I agree with Kells 100%.  It's fine if you personally don't like tattoos on women, but by asking someone to cover them up, you're putting YOUR values on them.

Posted on July 7, 2008 at 5:08 am
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Bridezilla.  sorry, I'm with everyone else on this one.  I'm not a tattoo person either, but a tattoo on someone's inside wrist is certainly nothing worth getting upset about.  It's part of who she is and won't ruin or affect your day in any way.  It really won't!

Posted on July 7, 2008 at 5:19 am
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bridezilla totally... sorry - but inside the wrist is not a big deal to me... actually any ink is not a big deal to me - it's part of who they are - and if you love them enough to ask them to be in your wedding - you should accept them all or none, kwim???

Posted on July 7, 2008 at 5:25 am
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I agree with the other gals. Bridezilla.

Posted on July 7, 2008 at 6:02 am
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Posted on July 7, 2008 at 6:04 am
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i agree. bridezilla. i like kohlers idea of buying her a nice chunky bracelet to cover it up. also it probably wont show in pictures anyways!

Posted on July 7, 2008 at 6:07 am
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Thank you all for the insight, I like the chunky bracelet idea the best. 


PS. My fiancee emailed me a few minutes ago and told me that he's going to offer her money to cover it...too funny!

Posted on July 7, 2008 at 6:16 am
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mmm..I have to go with Bridezilla on this one too.  Neither FI nor I have a single tattoo on us.  After reading your post, I started thinking about it...each of my four bm's has at least one visible tattoo.  FI's sister just got two on both inner wrists.  My maid and matron of honors both have 3-5 visible tattoos (each).  They both have asked my thoughts and suggestions on how to cover them up.  I shrugged it off.  I don't mind it...each of them have the tattoos as an expression of who they are.  I love them dearly...they are like my sisters.  I don't want them covering up, trying to be someone they're not for the sake of my wedding. 


P.S. If you do the chunky bracelet, I would suggest not being too pushy about her wearing it on the tatted wrist.  She clearly got the tattoo with intentions of it being visible.  Like Kohler said, "pick your battles."


Good luck!

Posted on July 7, 2008 at 6:52 am
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Well, believe it or not, the tattooed BM will be covering her "ink" for the small price of $100!   I bet that's one wedding expense that none of you have to have on your list, (sigh)...only me.

Posted on July 7, 2008 at 7:52 am
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i dont understand what the big issue is???  BUT i do understand it is your wedding - so your rules... 


do you think some of your guests are going to think her tatt is a reflection on you and your "good taste" or something??  just curious why this is such an issue when it's on the inside of her wrist, and holding her bouquet will more than likely be all the "cover up" she needs???


anyhoo - gl with the cover up kit and hope this doesnt start anything with your fsil for future fam matters...


 

Posted on July 7, 2008 at 7:58 am
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its an expense you're dealing with because you made it an issue.  It's not an expense for any of us (even though some of us have BMs with tattoos as nicknack stated) because we didn't make it an issue.  If you don't make it an issue, it doesn't become an unnecessary expense! 


But glad you ultimately got what you wanted!  But like d1rty said, just hope it doesn't start you and your FSIL off on the wrong foot. 

Posted on July 7, 2008 at 8:10 am
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Very well said prbetsi!! 

Posted on July 7, 2008 at 8:12 am
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It's an issue with me because I feel that her tattoo is in bad taste and has no place at my wedding.  And I don't want to offend any guest of importance by having a BM with a visible tattoo. Why she got it is of no interest to me, what it represents is of no interest to me either, all I care about is that tattoos are not what my wedding guests should have to look at during our ceremony or reception.  She can proudly wear it every day for the rest of her life, I'm just telling her that September 27th isn't going to be one of them.


And to be fair, when she asks me to be in her wedding, I'll get a full (fake) Harley Davidson tattoo on my left shoulder if that's something she thinks will appeal to HER guests.

Posted on July 7, 2008 at 8:35 am
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Pug- here's a better question for you. Why even have her in your wedding to begin with?


If it's just for the mere fact that she is going to be your FSIL, then perhaps you should reconsider. Asking someone to be in your wedding shouldn't be circumstancial. You either have her in there as she is, or don't ask her at all. I think the circumstance is irrelevant whether it was a tattoo or something else on her you had an issue with. It was your choice to ask her to be a BM.

Posted on July 7, 2008 at 8:41 am
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I really don't think it is a big deal to ask her to cover it. The corsage or bracelet would prob work better, so you dont have to create a fight... since she doesnt want to cover it. I am a bride and a bridesmaid this next year, so I can see both sides of this situtation. I guess I am just really easy going and wouldn't care what my friend asked me to do on her wedding day. I have a small tattoo on my inner foot, and would totally cover it if my friend wanted me to. Tattoos are kind of a loud statement, and I see where you are coming from. It seems to me like such a little thing that she can do to make you feel at ease on your day. I guess I am one of the few that feel this way, but I really dont think this is bridezilla at all! It would be another story if you wanted her to loose weight, cut her hair a certain way, or dye it to a color that you prefer. Good luck!! Remember... it is your day :)

Posted on July 7, 2008 at 8:47 am
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Ok Pug, I think your being a snob. What is such the big deal about a small inner wrist tattoo? Its not like its huge dragon on her back or something. I think its so wrong for you to tell ur FSIL to cover it up. Let alone your FI agreeing with you to PAY HER to cover it up. You brought this expense on yourself. None of the other girls on PW would make that such a big issue to give themselves that stupid expense. How would you like it if yoru FSIL, asked you to be in her wedding but said she didnt like your blonde hair & that you had to dye it another color, or she thought you needed a better tan?? You wouldnt appreciate it, woould you? I dont think its cool to ask someone to change who they are just to please YOU. Who are you?


This is just my take on it. If I were your FSIL, I'd tell you where to go shove it.

Posted on July 7, 2008 at 8:48 am
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I was a little late on this one! $100! Thats alot!! That seems a little steep to me. As long as it makes you happy.

Posted on July 7, 2008 at 8:50 am
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Maybe it seems I'm coming across as a snob but I'm really traditional in my views and tattoos are absolutely not accepted in certain circles. Even though some of you may not agree, it's still the hard truth.    My FSIL knows how we are and she even calls my fiancee and I, Mr. and Mrs. Preppy. So I think that her feelings are not hurt in all of this, but since she feels that she has to "sell out" for the sake of her brother, she's making him pay. 


And to address, "HelovesMe"...I couldn't get a better tan and my blonde hair is perfect just the way it is. If she asked me to change something I would for one day...her day.   Who am I you ask...I'm the one in white so I'm the one who's right!! 

Posted on July 7, 2008 at 9:09 am
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