another ex issue

first some background story:


i had an EX bf who was a little physically abusive, along with cheated on me with approx 12-15 girls.  it was the shittiest of shitty situations and i was totally unaware.  well afterwards i was little messed up in the head (cut me a break!!) and dated several guys at once.  and i say dated loosely, like would go to out to dinner or just hang, not like exclusively date each of them!  danny (fiance) was even one of them!  but it was really very not serious at this stage of my life.  well, there was another guy i casually dated, but it started to turn into something pretty serious.  i didn't want a relationship but REALLY liked this guy, so i started to let the walls down a little.  well, my abusive cheatin ex started calling him and threatening him and making up such horrible things about me.  i told my guy about all this in the beginning, but it just came down to he didn't want a relationship that came with so much baggage, which honestly i can't blame him.  so i was upset, but not crushed, cuz like i said i didn't want that serious relationship.


well now three years later danny and i are engaged and happier than ever!!  i've kinda kept in touch with this guy throughout the years cause we were really really close.  well he got engaged, so i sent him a text saying congrats...and he starts gushing about how he wishes it was me!!  that he wishes he could change everything and never let me go.  that he LOVES ME (yes he said that...i almost shit myself) and would do anything for one more chance.  this guy just got engaged YESTERDAY.  


i'm just dumbfounded.  and shan's post about facebook and ex's really convinced me to get this off my chest.  how freakin ridiculous.  its like....well why the F did you just get engaged?!?!?!


 


whew, i feel better.

Posted on December 18, 2009 at 6:02 am
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that is totally insane.


I know alot of guys (ok, well 2) that only got engaged b/c they felt "it was what they were supposed to do" NOT b/c they wanted to....both of them ended up breaking up their engagements....


I feel bad for this guys fiancee..

Posted on December 18, 2009 at 6:11 am
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Holy cr@p!!! Why DID he propose then!! That's just bonkers...I'd definitely block his # and block him on FB in case he does something stupid...


And good for you for getting yourself out of a bad situation and having a fabulous life now w/your FI :D

Posted on December 18, 2009 at 6:30 am
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I am not sure if you are asking for advice - but you need to end all contact with this guy. That is definitely red-flag behaviour, I would say the chances of this situation getting worse are pretty good.


 

Posted on December 18, 2009 at 6:47 am
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ditto gregsfuturewife.  Cut this guy off!!  I also feel bad for his now fiance.  I'll be she has no idea he's saying this kind of stuff. 

Posted on December 18, 2009 at 6:53 am
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nope, not really looking for advice!  but thanks! this is an easy one to handle ;) just needed to get it out since danny isn't home and i have no one to talk to!!  i told him pretty much straight up that he has some serious issues to work out and that getting engaged isn't something to f around with.  and it has no effect on my relationship whatsoever, but i don't foresee good things for his marriage :(

Posted on December 18, 2009 at 7:01 am
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once again al0626...you are first class all the way!

Posted on December 18, 2009 at 9:15 am
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awww db! <3

Posted on December 19, 2009 at 12:32 am

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