Anybody seeing groom & having pictures before the ceremony?

I'm just wondering how many of you will see the groom & take pictures prior to the ceremony. We are having our ceremony at 7 pm due to summer heat in phoenix, and sunset is 7:45, so we are doing photos at 5. My Dad is not thrilled about the idea & think we should see each other for the first time when I walk down the isle. Anybody doing the same thing? Thoughts????
Posted on May 16, 2008 at 10:27 am
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d1rtymart1n1
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there's summer heat in phx?? never heard of it ;) ;) ;)


logistically it makes more sense - but do you think it will "take away" from the ooooh aaaah fh will experience if he sees you when you walk down the aisle versus prior to??

i'm not seeing nolan before our ceremony - but we're also getting married at 9am before it gets too hot and humid in hawaii...
Posted on May 16, 2008 at 10:32 am
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wait lemme rephrase that - we're gonna se each other but im making him go to the church before me...so he wont see me in all my bridal glory ;)
Posted on May 16, 2008 at 10:33 am
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unfortunately, i won't get the oooh ahh affect for my wedding day b/c FI and i will be taking "land photos" at the lighthouse before getting on the yacht for our ceremony/reception. it's from 6-11pm, and he really wanted to get land photos, so there's just no way around it... i'm saddened by it, but i know it'll be an emotional ceremony regardless of when he sees me during the day.
Posted on May 16, 2008 at 10:42 am
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We will see each other before the ceremony for pictures, but my photographer is determined to capture that moment on film for us. :)
Posted on May 16, 2008 at 11:07 am
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Like Niki said- I think as long as the first time he sees you in the dress is caught on film, you're good to go. Who knows, maybe seeing eachother beforehand will help you avoid the tears of joy at the alter? ;)
Posted on May 16, 2008 at 11:12 am
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My photographer wants us to see each other before the ceremony. But, we blocked a three hour period in between the ceremony and reception especially for pictures. We just couldn't bear to see each other before the ceremony. I think we're going to be full of tears at the church!

I think it is up to the couple. I know a lot of couples who are doing the same thing as you are and their pictures turned out great!
Posted on May 16, 2008 at 11:21 am
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We're doing it because of the nature of our lives, everyone is so spread out that it kind of had to be a destination wedding. We wanted to have the photos but still spend time with guests. We'll have pics before the ceremony and then if we still need a few after. This way we'll at least catch part of cocktail hour.
Posted on May 16, 2008 at 11:26 am
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no matter what, i'll be sobbing through the ceremony haha... shoot, i couldn't even hold back tears just writing the vows! not to mention each time i had to reread it to check for grammar errors :-p
Posted on May 16, 2008 at 12:26 pm
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We will be taking pics before the ceremony. I was on the fence about it, but FI said he knows me and I would be too nervous walking down the aisle if we don't do it before (I think he would be too). We also have been to weddings where they don't account for it and then we don't get to spend time with the newlyweds. We worked it out with the photog (and coordinator at the site) to have a special private moment beforehand. I can't wait.
Posted on May 16, 2008 at 2:27 pm
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This is the one area where I'm torn. I love the idea of seeing each other for the first time as I'm about to walk down the aisle. Just that wow factor, you know. But I'd also love to have the time to go somewhere outside our venue to take photos. We're having the ceremony and reception in a really picturesque area of L.A. and there are so many parks not to mention cliffs overlooking the water that photos would just be amazing. We wouldn't have enough time to do that in between the ceremony and reception:-( As it stands, we're taking photos after the ceremony during the cocktail hour. But that could change because, hey, I'm the bride!;-)
Posted on May 16, 2008 at 2:44 pm
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DH and I waited. I have to say it was one of my favorites moments. A lot of people say it won't be intimate since there will be a lot of people but at that moment we only had eyes for each other. DH facial expression was priceless. Each step was memorable, emotional and there's no word can explain what we felt.

Anyhow, it really depends on your preference.

Good luck!
Posted on May 16, 2008 at 3:12 pm
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We'll definitely be taking some, since for the most part, we're together on getting the reception design in motion and to take some photos before hand to calm any nerves.

It's different for everyone, but if you don't have time before the wedding, then I'd skip it.
Posted on May 17, 2008 at 3:06 am
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We are doing it after. But, I still have 4 months to change my mind. One of my bridesmaids is throwing a fit because I was planning H'our Dourves (sp??) and drinks while we are doing pics. She thinks we should also be enjoying them. But the only reason I am having happy hour or what ever its called is so our guests are entertained while we are busy. I hate waiting around at weddings and theres nothing to eat.
Posted on May 17, 2008 at 7:15 am
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Absolutely not, there's no way I want my FH to see me before the ceremony. We've explained to the photographers that they've only got 45 mins to take ALL formal shots so that we can get to enjoy at least some of our cocktail party. All other shots will be taken in a photojournalistic style so that we won't have to pose for anything. You really don't need to have a ton of pictures of you two in front of every cool spot in town. Enjoy your day by celebrating it, not filming it.
Posted on May 19, 2008 at 9:42 am
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Thanks for all the feedback. I feel a little better now knowing many of you are doing photos ahead of time. I would love to do all the photos after the ceremony, BUT, we'll only have like 15-20 minutes of daylight left and that's just not enough time for all the pictures we'll need. My Dad will probably be mad at me, but I don't think we have any other choice.... oh well.
Posted on May 19, 2008 at 2:18 pm
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We just met with the photographer yesterday and he suggested taking pictures before the ceremony. I'm not thrilled with the idea because I wanted him to see me for the first time as I walked down the aisle. I agree with kittn though, I'm going to be emotional either way so I'm on the fence.
Posted on May 20, 2008 at 7:31 am
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my photog advised us to take pictures prior to the ceremony.. but wed rather wait til AFTER! he wants to see me first walking down the isle :)
Posted on May 20, 2008 at 7:36 am
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we are chosing to see eachother for the first time at the ceremony as i walk down the aisle. So that means we'll have to schedule the ceremony like at 2pm. in june. in so cal. oh joy! bring on the heat!
Posted on May 20, 2008 at 7:38 am
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My FI refuses to do this. There are some things about the wedding that he really wants to do old school. Like having the ceremony in the church, not seeing each other the day of, and not spending the night prior together.
This situation was his call.
Posted on May 20, 2008 at 7:41 am
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Yep. We're doing photos before the ceremony. A few key points helped us make this decision. Once the "party" starts, we don't want to stop to take pictures. We want to look as fresh as possible for the pictures, so the sooner the better :) After talking with our photographer and other couples, we like that seeing eachother (just the two of us and the photog) is more intimate and will help calm nerves. The wow factor is still there, its just private...but on film.

Your Dad is probably thinking of the tradition...here's what I found on www.OurMarriage.com:

"...According to tradition, it is considered bad luck for the bride to be seen by the groom before the ceremony. As a matter of fact, in the old days of marriage by purchase, the couple rarely saw each other at all, with courtship being of more recent historical emergence.

The lifting of the veil at the end of the ceremony symbolizes male dominance. If the bride takes the initiative in lifting it, thereby presenting herself to him, she is showing more independence..."
Posted on May 20, 2008 at 8:06 am
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