At my wits end

 Long backstory, but me and my SIL used to be super close. She lost her job so I got her one at the hospital. A promotion opened up, and she got it. Thats great, I was super happy for her--well, she turned into a total and complete b*ish.  She thinks Im jealous she got the job (im happy for her really, I didnt even apply for it, I graduate soon and didnt want it) and everything is now a competition to her. She said I was a bad mom bc I leave Lauren with a sitter to go to school during the day and work at night. That Im losing valuable time with her and she would never do that to her children. And when we announced we were going to Europe for our honeymoon/1 yr anniv. instead of being excited she said "I cant belive your leaving your child again. You dont see her bc of school anyway" REALYY#@!@! She also told me days before the wedding that her mother didnt care for me but didnt have the heart to tell me Chris could do better. This crushed me bc me and his mom were super close.  Shes so nasty at work too. Not just to me but everyone.


  so to now- I try to not get Chris involved. I never tell him when shes a witch to me. (like putting paperwork in my work mailbox on counseling. I have no idea why) bc I dont want to upset him or put him in the middle of it. I know how close he is to her and how her husband is his best friend.  BUT I dont want her watching my child when Im working and Chris wants to go out with her husband. And Im cordal to her at family functions, but shes made me feel like an outcast so if I dont have to go , I dont want to. Well Chris just gets mad at me. He someone thinks that I am doing something to make Angie mad, and even suggested that "If you werent such a b*tch to my sister, maybe we'd get along better"


What do I do? Im just at a lose-lose situation. He hears her complain, but not me. I dont want to drag him into her petty BS, but by not telling him its making me look like the bad person. And Im not asking him to side- but Im his wife. Instead of getting on my butt, why isnt he standing up to his sister when she bad mouths me. His response. HE doesnt like confrentation. ?!


Im just GRRR

Posted on May 2, 2011 at 6:47 pm
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prbetsi75
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So sorry you're going through this!  Maybe SHE'S the one that's jealous that you have a child and are married.  


It is definitely a sticky situation, but it sounds like you shouldn't worry about involving your DH because SHE has already involved him.  So I think you should definitely tell him your side!  Tell him everything!  And that while he may not like confrontation, you are his wife and he needs to tell his sister that he will not tolerate her bad-mouthing you.  That is simply not acceptable! 


Again, so sorry you're having to deal with this....hope the situation improves! *hugs*

Posted on May 3, 2011 at 9:16 am
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aww so sorry girl! I kinda dealt with this w/SIL  but def not to your extent- bottom line is its prob jealousy- so I've been told w/my situation. I would just keep trying to kill w/kindness and hopefully she will coem around- maybe try doing some one on one things like lunch dates with her- it's so hard to deal with but I'm hoping she will come around!

Posted on May 3, 2011 at 11:39 am
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Wow!  I could tell you to do what I'd do and that would be to basically tell her to kiss my butt! 


I hate that you are put in that situation because of the close relationship between them.  But telling you that his mother didn't care for you days before your wedding...was just mean.  Me myself, if I was close to his mother as you say you are I would have mentioned it to her because I was hurt.


Now as for her and your husband, I think it's time you sat him down and told him everything.  Not because you are being a tattle-tale but because it is bothering you.  


I hope things work out.

Posted on May 4, 2011 at 10:38 am

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