Attack of the Clones

So I found a dress I love for the bridesmaids & of course the two ladies that I really want to be my bridesmaids have negative responses.....well only one of them responded that is.......


(((HELP)))


 


My baby sister said it's flat out ugly & my sister-cousin saw the text & just never answered (iphone blues).  However, random ladies who aren't even in the Remix have been giving it rave reviews.  Ladies is it really that bad looking?  What do I do?  A fellow PWer said it's my day and I should ask to wear it because she knows it would mean the world to me.  Now ot make a short story shorter this isn't the first time they've giving me the shiggy end of the stick.  I tend to get left out of things so I wonder if this is just them being them.....but I digress; here it is!


So I found a photo 3453405-1


 

Posted on March 1, 2013 at 4:55 am
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OMG!!! I posted that dress a couple weeks ago!! I LOVE IT!!!! I think it is so classy and elegant!

Posted on March 1, 2013 at 5:17 am
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That's where I found it Lindsey (;
So what do I do?
Posted on March 1, 2013 at 5:28 am
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I agree with Lindsey. This dress is very classy and elegant, but depending on how old your bridesmaids are, I can see them not liking the dress. This dress is very haute couture. Also, consider your bridesmaids height and figures. I am very short so this dress would not look well on me, but my best friend who is almost six feet would look stunning in this dress. I chose my bridesmaid dresses, but I did take things in consideration. Like me, I wanted them to love their dress and they did. I asked each one their budget, if they wanted short or long gowns and did they want straps, halter, etc.  I know I am always the one who says, it is your day, your way, but take it from a bride who knows, your bridesmaids can make the journey downright miserable if they are not happy and end up dropping out at the most impossible time.

Posted on March 1, 2013 at 5:39 am
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My sister is tiny.......model tiny. Sister-cousin is smaller than I am so I know that figure isn't the issue. They both claim to be into high fashion so I thought it would be a hit. Baby sister is about to be 18 but in my defense if you say age, she hasn't liked ANY idea I've had and suggest she wear something poofy which to me is NOT acceptable. She just wants to be a pain. On our wedding day my only request was that no one wear white.....she shows up in white with pink accents. Sister-cousin might like it, but even if she doesn't I'd like to know. I just feel ignored and that hurts more.
Posted on March 1, 2013 at 5:45 am
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Okay, here's my two cents. First, I would wear anything my friend asked even if I didn't like it. Now that said her is my honest opinion on the dress. Its gorgeous, but I think the person wearing it needs confidence to pull it off. It's so glamorous that I think I would just look awkward...if that makes sense? I think my a$$ would look giant and I'm not sure if I could walk in it. Maybe they would be more receptive if they could try the look on? Maybe if they see themselves rockin' the look they would be up for it!?

Posted on March 1, 2013 at 5:45 am
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Confidence isn't a problem. Baby sister wears belly shirts and tights and all she does is pose in the morrow and takes photographs of herself all day. The oldest one wears sheer tops with bras and things like that. I just like the classy haute couture look of it. I think I might have to flip the BrideZAlla switch when the time for dresses gets closer.
Posted on March 1, 2013 at 5:57 am
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I agree that they need to try it on. I also agree that I would wear anything my friend picked out since it is here wedding and vision. Good luck hun!

Posted on March 1, 2013 at 6:04 am
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I am so sorry that you feel ignored and hurt but since you said your sister is 18, well that explains a lot. Even though she says she is into high fashion, this look and style may look too old for her and honestly, I couldn't see an 18 year old wearing this dress. Have you tried actually going dress hunting with your prospective bridesmaids? Maybe you can fine a happy medium. Have them try on looks you like and looks they like. And I know why she likes poofy too. She is about to be 18. My niece is 18 and she wants a short, poofy prom dress. How old is the other bridesmaid?

Posted on March 1, 2013 at 6:04 am
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She will be 30 this year. I purposely sent her a text about a family member to see if she would respond....she did. I asked if she got the photo after we talked about the family member and she says she was at work and couldn't answer the phone.....I pointed out that I sent it after she was off work and asked well are you at work right now? She stopped responding. I get the eighteen issue but you guys don't understand that I've always been the odd man out and I really think now this is intentional. I got the nickname "Cinderalla" from people who know us and have witnessed the way out family interacts. I was treated funny ever since our family matriarch went to be with God.....
Posted on March 1, 2013 at 6:15 am
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So sorry this is happening to you when you are planning one of the happiest days of your life. Hope it works out and sending you lots of hugs!

Posted on March 1, 2013 at 6:19 am
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I'm going to keep the dress. I think I deserve it. They couldn't go along with my simple wishes in 2009 and this time we are celebrating our marriage so I think it isn't too much to ask. If they want to be the way they usually are them they don't have to be in it honestly.
Posted on March 1, 2013 at 6:30 am
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I have to agree 100 percent with Nicole. And confidence in day to day activities isn't always the same as really being confident. Maybe your sister is comfy in her zone, but if this is a way different look for her, it might freak her out a bit. It's definitely an extreme look, but it's a great dress! I think if it matches your wedding really well, and as long as the BMs are tall enough (because I do think this wouldn't look good on a short person even if they are skinny) then they should suck it up and wear it.


I would have them try it on and see what you think. You might decide they don't look as good on, or maybe you will love them even more.

Posted on March 1, 2013 at 7:02 am
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I've heard you mention your family before, you know I love the dress and they would look great  the dress from the pics in your bio, I don't think it's a confidence problem it's just the same old problem. From one Cinderella to another keep the dress, have them try it on, if you get a negetive response have them do something else in the wedding where they can wear what they want.  Good Luck!

Posted on March 1, 2013 at 10:56 am
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Well, All I can say is that it is your wedding do what you want! However, be prepared that they may back out if they have to buy the dress and they really do not like it. I know that if I had a real objection to a dress and I was paying for it I would probably opt out.


 

Posted on March 1, 2013 at 1:17 pm

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