Baby Shower Etiquette
Help a girl out:
I know my mother is colluding with some friends and other family to plan a shower and she's asked me for the e-mail addresses of anyone she may not have contact with who I might want there. I am very close with two of my co-workers and routinely go out for beverages/snacks after work with a group of about 5 - 6. I have figured out that work is planning a surprise shower for me as well.
I would LOVE to include the two people to whom I am very close in the shower that my mother is working on, but I suspect they're behind the surprise shower at work and don't want to put them in the position of buying multiple gifts. Do I leave them off? Do I have a frank conversation with them ("Look - I'd love for you to be at this event, but your presence is enough. Please don't feel obligated to bring anything.") What do I do?
If I invite the two, I would feel somewhat awkward about not inviting the bigger group with whom we go out for happy hour after work. What about them? Do I include them as well or would that be overkill with the work shower?
Thanks for your help, ladies!