Baby Shower Etiquette

Help a girl out:


I know my mother is colluding with some friends and other family to plan a shower and she's asked me for the e-mail addresses of anyone she may not have contact with who I might want there.  I am very close with two of my co-workers and routinely go out for beverages/snacks after work with a group of about 5 - 6.  I have figured out that work is planning a surprise shower for me as well. 


I would LOVE to include the two people to whom I am very close in the shower that my mother is working on, but I suspect they're behind the surprise shower at work and don't want to put them in the position of buying multiple gifts.  Do I leave them off?  Do I have a frank conversation with them ("Look - I'd love for you to be at this event, but your presence is enough. Please don't feel obligated to bring anything.")  What do I do? 


If I invite the two, I would feel somewhat awkward about not inviting the bigger group with whom we go out for happy hour after work.  What about them?  Do I include them as well or would that be overkill with the work shower?


Thanks for your help, ladies! 

Posted on March 8, 2012 at 11:22 pm
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mrsKC1
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If you know you're having a work shower I wouldn't worry about inviting them.  I had a similiar predicament.  I didn't invite anyone from work... and I suspect they're throwing me one... if not oh well. :) 


If they ask why they weren't invited... say it was close family and friends. kwim?  


HTH a little.

Posted on March 9, 2012 at 2:03 am
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I agree with Kathy and you can also just claim you had absolutely nothing to do with the shower your family is throwing, including the guest list.
I think inviting just those 2 people has the potential to cause some unexpected issues with the group at large...
Not sure if that was helpful but I think that is what I would do :)

Posted on March 9, 2012 at 2:28 am
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If they weren't planning on throwing you a shower would they be invited? if the answer is yes I would invite them to your moms. If they havent said to you specifically there throwing you a work shower I wouldnt even mention the double gifts/ double shower.  Just assume there not and you are just inviting them to your shower. 

Posted on March 9, 2012 at 4:57 am
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Very good points have been made, but I think I agree with Christy. Since you can't really say you know they're planning something at work since it is supposed to be a surprise, just invite them and let them decide if they want to come and bring another gift. They could always bring something small. Also, since it is just 5-6 ladies, I would invite all of them as opposed to just the 2 to avoid any hurt feelings or awkwardness at work.

Posted on March 9, 2012 at 10:10 am
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Thanks ladies!  That really does help.

Posted on March 10, 2012 at 12:02 am

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