Battle of the parents
So last night we sat down and had dinner between my family and my FI's family. Over all the dinner went well and was really nice. I had hoped to discuss a budget from both sides but what I got instead was we need a date, we need a date!! I kept telling them I couldn't commit to a venue if I wasn't sure I could pay for it at the end of the night?? And the venue is the one that will tell me a date... But if I can't afford it the date doesn't matter! Am I wrong? I got really depressed afterwards because their all like what do you want. I can't really have what I want and I'm ok with that.
So now I'm trying to schedule another appointment with my original venue to talk serious numbers and hopefully put a deposit down and get a date! Because they want a date. BUT I'm still worried about the numbers. Everyone keeps saying don't worry about it. I know what my parents want to give us but I don't want to use that for the wedding. I want to keep it as it was originally intended as a nest egg. And his parents still wouldn't say a number but did say last night they wouldn't charge rent for living in their guest house which will be our first place since we can't afford anything else. (So that's a good thing)
Am I over reacting? I thought I had a plan but my own father turned the table on me with wanting a date and no one seems to understand my logic of needing a budget before a date or venue. The budget should determine everything right? I'm going to try and relax and not worry about it. After all their telling me not too and I just restarted our engagement to avoid these problems... So what do you all think. I guess I should be grateful that everyone is getting along and my FMIL is starting to act nice to me again. So I dunno. Everything happens for a reason and everything will be ok, right??
Posted on August 5, 2013 at 1:10 pm