So I've had an interesting weekend. A little backstory before I go into it: FI and I have the same group of friends that we established in high school. We all still hang out/talk etc. So on Friday I found out from my sister that my friend (let's call her Sally) had been telling some of our other mutual friends that FI's guy friend told her the following: "Three years ago the guys had all slept with this one girl and my FI's 'no angel' and slept with her too. And Sandra has no idea, can you believe it?" [FI and I have been together for 10 yrs]
I felt as though I'd been punched in the stomach. Stupid me, I immediately believe bad news whenever I hear it. But THANK GOD it was my sister talking to me b/c she's like: Sandra, it's not true, you can't believe it. So she totally calmed me down. So I'm like, you're right, this can't be true, FI is not that heartless to do it, and then to hide it for three years.
Anyway, 'Sally' has been my friend since high school. In fact, some of you may recognize her from previous posts where I said I was going to let this friendship go b/c we had started to grow apart. Also, funnily enough, she's taking it pretty badly that she's not a BM. Needless to say, she keeps proving my decision right on this one. I've been hearing that she's talking sh!t about me behind my back, (like grilling my BMs, complaining that I didn't pick her, calling me superficial, etc) but I just chalked it up to hurt feelings.
This is a whole other ball game. She is trying to deliberately cause chaos in mine and FI's relationship and to make FI and I look bad. FI was furious when I told him, completely confirmed that of course it's not true, and started this witch hunt for who knew what. Turns out she had told a couple of hers and my mutual friends and that's how it got to me. She had told these girls in confidence (one of them is my BM) and told them not to say anything, but they had my back and thought I should know the rumor since I'm marrying this guy. I've talked to them personally and they say that Sally told them this lie straight out.
So I talk to Sally, I tell her all the information I have and she proceeds to DENY EVERYTHING and make me feel like a lousy friend for even questioning her. She says she's hurt that I would doubt her word and then goes on to say that if she did hear anything like that, that she would tell me and that it's ridiculous to even think my FI would cheat cuz he's not that guy. I end up totally confused as to what to believe.
Then this morning our mutual friend (my BM) calls and tells me that Sally texted one of the girls "Stop spreading lies about me" and the other "I told you to keep your mouth shut."
WTF????? Ladies I have been feeling sick all weekend with this. How could anyone be so malicious?? And she continues to deny it and harrasses my BM with emails saying she may have cost Sally and my 13-year friendship.