"Black People don't..." semi-vent
Okay, I know that sometimes (in jest) we've all probably said "well you know black folks don't do...." I joke about my family being country/hood because they are... So maybe I'm a culprit too.
So last night I met with my friends, her other friends and a few of her co-workers for a birthday celebration for her. We're at a lounge, all making small talk and getting to know each etc.. when my friend mentioned that I'm getting married and I start talking about about the wedding in Sonoma at the winery etc...
Do you know that there is this one black woman who keeps cracking jokes like "Girl, why you getting married at a winery? You know black people don't drink wine. We don't know nothing about wine unless it Boones Farm. You know black people, we like our 'lickka' (because I'm only serving wine/beer) etc. She kept doing this throughout the night, not only to me but just in general. For instance, when most people didn't want to eat anything and only a two or three ordered appy's, she says 'You know you can't invite black people no where and not feed us. You know we like to eat.'
Now this was a mixed crowd and it was getting a little bit annoying because everybody was laughing so hard at her. Maybe I'm just ultra sensitive about stuff like this and maybe I need to learn to just laugh and let it go because I know that not all black people are the same way, but I really couldn't get past the feeling that some people were laughing more 'at us' than 'with us' if you kwim.
I just feel like some people walk away from those kind of exchanges thinking, 'black people don't do such and such thing' and it must be true because ____ said it and she's black...
Anyway, it just kind of irked me.
Sorry for the vent, it's just something I needed to get off my chest. It makes me rethink all the times I say joke about certain things too.