Bridal shower.

I am on a budget with my wedding. SO my guest list is limited. But the bridal shower I really want to invite some girls that arent invited to my wedding but I still want them to have some part of the celebration. Is that a no no? Inviting people to your bridal shower that arent invited to the wedding.

Posted on December 9, 2013 at 12:45 pm
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holly_marie_53
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 My best friend did that! No one was offended. I'm going to do that with mine too. We couldn't afford to have so many people so we have a limited guest list but there are some ladies I want there at my Bridal party. I know that people would understand. 

Posted on December 9, 2013 at 2:07 pm
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Personally, my bridal party did not invite anyone to my bridal shower that was not invited to the wedding.  Not just because of wedding etiquette but because we didn't want to offend people.  I know quite a few people who would have been upset had we invited them to the shower but not the wedding. 

That being said, if your guests are cool with it and understand that you are on a budget go forward with your plans..it's your wedding and I'm sure the people you intend to invite know your heart! :)

Posted on December 9, 2013 at 3:21 pm
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 You know your friends/guests best. The lines have def been blurred as to etiquette so use your best judgement on that! There is no right or wrong answer 

Posted on December 9, 2013 at 4:06 pm
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 My shower was a complete surprise and was thrown by a group of friends that didn't come to our wedding! They're amazing.

I personally think it's only a etiquette issue when it comes to gifts (sending gift lists or links to registries etc) but if it's just an event to celebrate your upcoming wedding I don't see a problem with it, but like Uhlease says you know your friends best

Posted on December 9, 2013 at 4:42 pm
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 i agree with everyone above.  

i know i have seen some churches throw showers for brides in the church even when the entire church wasn't invited.  i have also seen some businesses throw a shower for an employee when no one from work was invited to the wedding.

Posted on December 9, 2013 at 4:58 pm
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 I agree with the other ladies - you know your friends best!! If you are planning a small wedding with limited guests, and everyone knows that I know I personally wouldn't be offended and would be excited to still get to be a small part of something magical!

Posted on December 9, 2013 at 5:14 pm
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I definitely think this will vary per situation and the people involved. If you think they will be ok with it, then go for it, it's always better to include friends in some way than not at all - just more fun and spreading the love :)

Posted on December 13, 2013 at 2:22 pm
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Ditto the other ladies. Anyone at my bridal shower will also be at the wedding
Posted on December 13, 2013 at 6:31 pm
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 Um...IDK. I think i'd be offended a bit although I understand it. The wedding is the main event and I would rather be there than at the bridal shower. 

Posted on December 16, 2013 at 7:54 pm
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 Thanks ladies! I just love a lot of girls in my life but I can't afford to pay for a wedding of 150 more. I'm only inviting two of my best girl friends. But some girls I know would love to be part of some it. It isn't about the gifts I wasn't going to register for any the wedding or bridal shower I just want my friends and family to be part of this. 

Posted on December 19, 2013 at 10:37 am
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 Yeah, don't worry about it (: I wouldn't be offended if it were me. Cause I know how it is! If anyone is offended about it, don't stress over it. 

Posted on December 19, 2013 at 12:59 pm

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