broken family and decision making
So in essence my family is broken. My sister who seems to be the root of it all, has hurt the family tremendously. Before even meeting my FI, I had her in mind to be my MOH w/ my 4 friends as my BMs. But time has passed, feelings have changed,and ppl changed as well.
Since she has moved away w/ no communication, she is out of the picture for fulfilling that role. I now am faced to choose btw my friends which I don't really want to do but I suppose I have to? I've decided against the BP and only want a MOH, but will include my friends in some shape or form or rather have them around during the time as I do want to share that with them. what should I consider w/ choosing a MOH?
Another friend(DOC) mentioned I should consider their financial situations. I never really thought abt that. Off the bat, that seems like I'm taking the option away (all of them have kid(s)) and obviously bills and stuff that we all have. She also mentioned that ppl accept the role and don't know what it entails.
FI and I are prepared to fund our wedding...so I'm not even sure why I should consider their financial situation :-/. Wasn't expecting the MOH to dish out money. If my sister was my MOH, I sure wasn't thinking abt her financials. I just wanted her to take the ride w/ me.
The friends that I'm considering being my MOH, haven't been a MOH and are uncertain abt wha'ts expected of them(at least that's my assumption). Outside of them being emotional there for me, and helping w/ planning and info etc, what more should I expect?
too many technicalities....too many expectations... I have so much more to say, but I wont ramble anymore :-)