I've decided that I loved planning a wedding BEFORE I got engaged, because I could dream big and think about all the things that I wanted. But now that I am engaged and my mom and I have been looking for a reception venue, it has sunk in that this wedding is going to be a bit of a burden. My parents have put 3 kids through college, and my little sister (no. 4) still has 3 years to go. My parents have NO money, and yet they still want me to have a beautiful wedding with both families, etc. Today my mom told me that she was thinking about selling her grandmothers ring to help pay for the wedding. I don't know how much the ring would get, but it makes me a little bit sad. The ring is too small for anyone to wear, and it has been sitting in the safe deposit box for 30 years, but it is a family heirloom. Anyway, I was named after my moms grandmother so she said it would be a way for great-grandma to be part of the wedding. It just makes me sad to see that my parents are wanting me to have a beautiful wedding, and that it's going to be difficult for them.
FI and I want to pitch in as much as we can, but we want to buy a house and I am going back to school part-time, so money is tight all around.
The people who do have money are FI's parents, but my parents are too traditional and too modest to ask for help.
I'm just feeling guilty.