Are you stressing about your budget or are you energized by the challenge of pulling off your dream wedding without a nightmarishly large price tag? :)
a little bit of both I'm definitely stressing out about finding a venue nothing seems affordable
I hear ya hurleygrl -- We're in the same boat and it's been horrible discouraging.
Funny that the venue was one of the easier things here lol.
Everything is so expensive, that is what is stressing me out. I am hoping to find ways to reduce the price and still get what I want. Couple tips, for a venue, try different country clubs, I found one in an upper class neighborhood that is free if you know somebody there, they just require you purchase some food. So the venue, tables, linens, table settings, servers, cleanup are all included, I just have to pay for a few hor' dourves, drinks etc. The place is gorgeous too, it has a waterfall, huge dance floor and beautiful lighting. As for a dress, if you found the dress you want, call around. Local dress shops will compete for your business and usually give you a marginally cheaper price and free alterations. My friend got her $850 dress for $500, not bad!
WOW, wakechick, that's a GREAT tip about the country club, I encourage you to post a thread about that here and maybe even in the $5K and under Group, too!!!!
Yeah I definitely will!
Stressing MAJOR.... money is so mean to me... :(
I'm slightly stressed, but not about the money. I'm stressed because I have no help. I am slightly energized at the thought of pulling off a fantastic wedding with a small price tag.
Oh, wait, there is one thing that stresses me! Those darn chair covers!
I'm a little stressed - I've been unemployed since December last year so we're working off of FI's teacher income and my unemployment checks. We have some money saved up but we also are looking to buy a house. So anytime I find a good deal, something really really cheap, we get it as we have the money instead of waiting till it's closer to the wedding so that we can spread out the hurt a bit more. We don't want to go into debt for the wedding and really want to keep it under $10K.
Mostly energized. However, this week has been a discouraging one. We were supposed to have someone do hair and make-up for two of us for a total of $100. I just discovered that this person flaked--TWICE--on someone. And everyone else who gets recommended is over $100 per person. Planning long-distance is tough, and with something like this, it would be great if we could just find someone without having to worry all over again about the budget.
I'm stressing about it. I won't lie. I try not to let others see that I am, but it's hard to make a really nice wedding with limited means.
2dBride - try Craigslist - I found a make up artist that will come to me, and do make up for $35 for me, or $50 for all of us!
I was stressing about it. But as things are coming along... I think we will end up around $9,600 or less. We have about $1300 left to save as of now, so it's definately within reach and we have yet to TOUCH credit cards :)
BROOKLYNSBOONKEY, it actually turned out that the original hair and make-up person (whom I found on Craigslist) came and did a great job on both of us, in spite of the stress-inducing report I'd had from the other bride. We pretty much kept to budget on the wedding as a whole. It was a bit stressful at times--particularly the last two days before the reception, when NotFroofy was trying to bake, frost, and decorate the wedding cake while I was trying to decorate the whole reception venue (including stringing and lighting 127 paper lanterns). However, both the ceremony and reception ended up being very much "us," and we and our guests had a great time.
For anyone who is interested, here is a link to the complete recap.
Definitely stressing! Want to have a nice, casual wedding and small laid-back reception and a super knock-out honeymoon. The only $$ we have is a loan from my 401K which we're having to live on a little each month because DF has been unemployed so long. I've already cut the guest list and am contemplating cutting from there again. The only other place I can think to cut from is the food.
Very stress, i have found some affordable venues, but they dont allow alot of things that i want(must). The food is very important, but we can't find a caterer that we can afford with our small budget. Unfortunately NJ is so expnsive
im not stress about doing everything just about finding a beautiful reception venue that allows outside catering, but overall im excited
I'm a little stressed about making it all work out but I also get really excited when I find a way to do it cheaper. It's like the thrill of the hunt! Then I go around the house doing my happy dance!!! lol
Locating a venue seems to be stressful for me. The hotels I have looked at all want to sell you their wedding packages that are so expensive and overpriced because they are inclusive of a lot of things you really don't need. However, trying to negotiate the prices down is not easy. For example a regular chicken dinner on the menu at one of the hotels from their catering menu started at $30, however for the wedding package this same chicken dinner was $90. Most of the hotels start at around $89 per person and some go up to $245 per person. And the the banquet halls are expensive as well, by the time you have the price per person and the 20% grautity and taxes of about 8-9% you have a marke up of 30% on the total cost. This does not allow for us to do this wedding under $10,000, so I need to keep searching.
Without a reception venue secured, I can't send out invitations or start to get things in order.