Bummed.

My grandmother died back in April from cancer, and a few weeks ago my mother told me that before she died she gave her my grandfather and her wedding bands.  I thought it would be really nice to wear her band as my own, and give my FI my grandfathers ring to wear as his own.  The only issue was they were yellow gold bands, and I have a strong disliking for yellow gold, plus my engagement right is white gold.


My mom told me she would take them to a jewler she always goes to see, to see if they could get dipped so they're white gold, but he said that if worn all the time the coating will begin to wear away after 6 months.  I was really hoping to wear her ring, for one it would save us money, but I really wanted it for sentimental reasons so now I'm really bummed that I won't be able to wear it as my wedding band.  I pretty much wanted to cry after my mom told me.  My grandmother didn't have much, and it would have meant a lot to be able to to wear her band. 

Posted on July 28, 2011 at 2:16 pm
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JustCali
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Was it the rhodeum plating? That is what I have my ring dipped in periodically and it's white gold. It is really not that expensive to do when you start to notice a little yellowing. I see it on the bottom of the band first.


I would totally do it if that's what you want.


 

Posted on July 28, 2011 at 2:26 pm
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How often do you have to dip it? The jewler advised against it because it would have to be done every 6 months or so if we wear it all the time.

Posted on July 28, 2011 at 2:34 pm
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I've gone a lot longer than 6 months. Last time I had mine done was....right before thanksgiving. Still looks good to me.


Keep in mind that mine is white gold anyway. But it is not expensive. I think I pay $17 dollars to have it recoated at my jeweler, and the most I paid was $25. Not a whole lot to put out even every six months if you really want to wear her rings!

Posted on July 28, 2011 at 4:05 pm
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I get my engagement ring serviced every six months.  FI bought the warranty that ensures we'll get lifetime service on it - but I MUST bring it in every six months.  It is white gold (made that way) and when I brought it in this week, they told me they needed to dip it rhodium. 


If you can get some sort of guarantee - I'm not sure where that might exist, and over the course of your lifetime it would cost you.  But it would cost you probably less than a ring now and if it means that much to you, it might be worth it. 


Also, I'd get a second, maybe even a third opinion from another jeweler.  I'm not really saying ask until you get an opinion you like, but ask until you get an opinion you like.  :)  Or at least, until you can find someone who can do what you want at some reasonable cost.

Posted on July 28, 2011 at 4:09 pm
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I dont know if this will be out of your budget but maybe the diamonds in your grandmothers ring can be put into a white gold setting? So you still have something of hers...

Posted on July 28, 2011 at 5:15 pm
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The plating comes off really easily. you'll have to get it redone a lot more often than people who get their white gold bands done.


Depending on the design of both rings, maybe they do work together. noone ever said you can't wear a white gold/platinum engagement ring and a yellow gold wedding band together (Duchess of Cambridge anyone?)


This question was asked a while ago by someone else (obviously you 2 have different rings, but might be worth a read for opinions) : http://www.projectwedding.com/post/list/wedding-bands-11

Posted on July 28, 2011 at 7:46 pm
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I think I'll call around to see what other jewlers said.  My mom said they're just simple bands (I've actually never seen them and I don't remember what my grandmother wore) so I wouldn't be able to use the setting or stones. 


I pretty much close to despise yellow gold (it reminds me of hairy creepy men with gold chains and gold pink rings) so wearing it as is honestly isn't an option for me, as much as I would love to wear her ring. 

Posted on July 29, 2011 at 4:33 am
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You could always wear it as a necklace. I HATE yellow gold as well. I told my FI (before he was my FI) that if he got me yellow gold I would say no. lol


BUT when my Grandma died, my grandfather gave us each a piece of her jewelry collection (which was ALL yellow gold) and since the item he gave me has a design that is no longer made I just couldn't leave it in a jewlery box. I wear it, and 3 other gold charms around my neck EVERY day. The good thing is, it's hidden under most shirts so most people don't see that it doesn't match any of my other jewelry.


I like having it around my neck because that way I can keep her close to my heart :) <3

Posted on July 29, 2011 at 6:21 am
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I have had my mother's engagement ring (a gold band) dipped in rhodeum. I have noticed some wear on it, but it has taken almost 8 months for that to happen, and it isn't even that bad. I would totally do it if I were you. (Check my profile if you want to see the before and after shots.)

Posted on July 29, 2011 at 6:27 am

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