California ladies (and gents?) please help!

I thought I would pop back in because of something that's been bothering me....


PROP 8!!


This weekend I was invited to photograph the wedding of a gay couple. They've been together for 19 years. 19 years! Anyway, they bought their wedding rings on their tenth anneversary, hoping that someday they would be permitted to get married. And now they were finally (after almost two whole decades) able to do that.


So Prop 8 has me irked. Well... it has me feeling a lot more emotions than that, but I'll be polite. It wants to take away this right for gay couples to get married.


I don't think people should be told what to believe or feel comfortable with, but I DEFINITELY feel that people should not be told who they can't legally be commited to. This is the first anti-constitutional amendment on the ballot and I urge everyone in California to think seriously about it.



While as brides we stress over not being able to afford the right dress, or the best photographer or if we can get our venue on the right date, there are couples out there wondering if they'll once again be denied the right to a legally recognized marriage because of other people's prejudices. My maid of honor is gay and I hope that if she decides to one day marry her girlfriend that she will be able to, without a constitutional amendment telling her it isn't allowed.


The arguments made by the people in favor of Prop 8 are hollow and false. The notion that Kindergarteners will be forced to learn about gay marriage in school isn't true. Anything in that category is considered "health education" and parents have to sign consent forms before it is taught to their kids. The argument that domestic partnership is the same as marriage is lame, and not true. And the thought that someone else's relationship somehow cheapens yours is ludicris.


You don't have to agree with gay marriage or feel like being gay is right, but think how you would feel if someone told you that you were not legally allowed to marry your fiance. Look at it from that perspective before you vote and PLEASE find it in your heart to vote against this. It is as wrong as telling a person of one race they can't marry another.


/steps off of soapbox


Feel free to contact me privately if you have any questions


I thought I would photo 94437-1


 


 

Posted on October 1, 2008 at 4:38 pm
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beatie
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*clap* *clap* *clap* *clap*....I agree 100% Punk!  What's really destroying families is divorce...NOT gay marriage.  Gay marriage only serves to create MORE loving families and has absolutely no effect on my marriage or anyone else's.  *stepping down off the same soapbox with you*

Posted on October 1, 2008 at 4:46 pm
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I agree!!! I love that I am from cali, and can say ANYONE can get married there, and be HAPPY!


 


 


ok so its vote no on Prop 8 right?!? This will be my first presidential election i get to vote in!!!!!

Posted on October 1, 2008 at 4:58 pm
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Yep, a vote for NO on Prop 8 will ensure that gay couples are still allowed to get married in California.

Posted on October 1, 2008 at 5:04 pm
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It's always amazing to me that people feel it's ok to tell others who they should or should not be with.  Whether you're straight, gay, white, black, green, purple...whatever...you should be allowed to be with and commit yourself to whoever you please.  I'll be at my poll site first thing on November 4th to vote no on Prop 8.  I only hope I will not be embarrassed to call myself a Californian when the night is over. 

Posted on October 1, 2008 at 5:15 pm
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i agree too....people should not be denied the opportunity to marry someone they love, and share the same benefits as an opposite sex couple....i live in TX and its a$$-backwards here....i can't wait to get back to Cali (I know you guys are probably tired of me saying that, but I truly can't wait!)

Posted on October 2, 2008 at 2:35 am
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yyyyaaaayyyy!!! you put that so nicely.


Its sad that those people are still out there that try and restrict things just b/c its not their preference. It is so hard for me to keep my mouth shut when clients say stuff against it- that is just so wrong. I just want to say "What the HE*L IS WRONG WITH YOU!?"


If these things actually go through, DH and I are moving to Canada.

Posted on October 8, 2008 at 12:17 pm
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Who marry's who is none of my business... but I dont agree with how we as a whole have dealt with it on either end...

Posted on October 8, 2008 at 4:46 pm
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I want to reaffirm, working in the schools, that health education topics, especially sex education and the like, seek parent consent for the student to be part of the lesson.  additionally in my experience working at both elementary and middle schools..... it has only been in middle school that this topic is even broached with students. (though i'm not entirely sure it's not broached in elementary..just my experience)


this topic is close to my heart and family as well... more than i could have ever suspected it would be.  i am the only straight sibling of the four children in my family.  also, fi was raised by two mothers, and they did a fabulous job. fi's godfathers just got married last month, after over 30 years of domestic partnership.... it was so amazing to me that they were able to take it with a grain of salt, even though they were happy to finally get the legal benefits.  but they even said that if this right is taken away, that they will always have each other *tear.*  makes me sad that they even have to think that....


btw punkrock, your pics are fabulous!!

Posted on October 8, 2008 at 5:02 pm
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I couldn't agree more!!! Yay us!!!

Posted on October 8, 2008 at 5:06 pm
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O.K wait a minute!!!!!!!!!!!  Dirty!!!!!! tell them girl!!! Have I not been posting on here like crazy about......Vote no on Prop 8 !!!!!!!!!!!!!  LOL I thought people would kick me out of here because I was talking up No on Prop 8 so much!!! LOL  Bravo I say!!!!

Posted on October 8, 2008 at 5:13 pm

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