California ladies (and gents?) please help!
I thought I would pop back in because of something that's been bothering me....
This weekend I was invited to photograph the wedding of a gay couple. They've been together for 19 years. 19 years! Anyway, they bought their wedding rings on their tenth anneversary, hoping that someday they would be permitted to get married. And now they were finally (after almost two whole decades) able to do that.
So Prop 8 has me irked. Well... it has me feeling a lot more emotions than that, but I'll be polite. It wants to take away this right for gay couples to get married.
I don't think people should be told what to believe or feel comfortable with, but I DEFINITELY feel that people should not be told who they can't legally be commited to. This is the first anti-constitutional amendment on the ballot and I urge everyone in California to think seriously about it.
While as brides we stress over not being able to afford the right dress, or the best photographer or if we can get our venue on the right date, there are couples out there wondering if they'll once again be denied the right to a legally recognized marriage because of other people's prejudices. My maid of honor is gay and I hope that if she decides to one day marry her girlfriend that she will be able to, without a constitutional amendment telling her it isn't allowed.
The arguments made by the people in favor of Prop 8 are hollow and false. The notion that Kindergarteners will be forced to learn about gay marriage in school isn't true. Anything in that category is considered "health education" and parents have to sign consent forms before it is taught to their kids. The argument that domestic partnership is the same as marriage is lame, and not true. And the thought that someone else's relationship somehow cheapens yours is ludicris.
You don't have to agree with gay marriage or feel like being gay is right, but think how you would feel if someone told you that you were not legally allowed to marry your fiance. Look at it from that perspective before you vote and PLEASE find it in your heart to vote against this. It is as wrong as telling a person of one race they can't marry another.
/steps off of soapbox
Feel free to contact me privately if you have any questions