ceremony wording

DH and I wrote our own vows for the ceremony and had a friend officiate it for us. Since we were both married before we were very careful with the wording of our ceremony. This was a personal choice and in no way do I think that a second wedding shouldn’t have the “traditional” ceremony wording…..


I was surprised at how many people actually pay attention during the ceremony as we had quite a lot of people come up to us after and mention how much they liked the way it was worded. And it seemed fitting. In was actually a bit afraid it would seem like a pessimistic jaded way to put it but it all worked out lol


 


Here is part of our marriage ceremony


 


 


In Address to Bride and Groom


Officient: What is your name?


Mike: Michael


Officient: and what is your desire?


Mike: To join with Lorna whom I love.


Mish: What is your name?


Lorna: Lorna


Officient : And what is your desire?


Lorna: To join with Michael whom I love.


Officient:  Michael , will you have this woman to be your partner, to live together in marriage? Will you love her, comfort her, honour and keep her in sickness and in health, for as long as love may last?


Mike: I will.


Officient: Lorna , will you have this man to be your partner, to live together in marriage? Will you love him, comfort him, honour and keep him in sickness and in health, for as long as love may last?


Lorna: I will.


Officient: Michael and Lorna, you stand before me, your family and your friends, having desired the bond of marriage. Do you do this of your own free will, coming here today without coercion or pressure from other persons?


Lorna & Mike: I do.


Officient: Will you seek to do each other harm?


Lorna & Mike: We will not.


Officient: And if harm is done, will you seek to repair it?


Lorna & Mike: We will.


Officient: Will you seek to be honest with one another in all things?


Lorna & Mike: we will.


Officient: Will you support each other in times of distress?


Lorna & Mike: we will.


Officient: Will you temper your words and actions with love?


Lorna & Mike: We will.


Officient: These things you have promised to your partner, before your family and friends. May you ever be mindful and strive to keep the vows you have spoken.


 


Officient: I have spoken, “for as long as love shall last” rather than “until death do you part” in the face of the reality that situations and people change. However, this does not mean rending your partnership at the first sign of trouble or disagreement, for you know that in relationships come difficult times. It is your responsibility within this partnership to strive for acceptable solutions, to work toward healing the hurts that will occur, and only after having exhausted all other avenues of possibility and not reaching a solution should such a bond be broken.

Posted on January 12, 2012 at 3:23 am
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I think that's lovely. I've never liked the whole 'til death do us part' thing.

FI and I have already agreed that if we stop loving each other we will split before things get bitter, and we definitely won't stay together 'for the sake of the children' - I know from experience that doesn't work despite a parents best intentions, kids pick up on tension regardless of how hard parents might try to hide it. Obviously we'll never be in that situation because we're too amazing together but just incase!!
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That is beautiful.  FI & I are going to do something similiar writing the vows that we will say together.

Posted on January 12, 2012 at 7:36 am
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We're writing our vows but the actual ceremony is going to be pretty standard
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The experience makes you willing to fight a bit harder I think. The first time i went into it with blinders on and this time we both knew that if we were both going to get remarried that it had to be REAL and that we would communicate and make sure that we didn’t hide from what we were feeling. I hope that things remain as open as they are now. We had WAY to much to lose to be in a casual relationship and i know that we are both ready to fight (if needed) to make it work. I talk to friends of mine who think its funny that im so PRO marriage as a divorcee but that’s WHY i am so for it. Just because it didn’t work the first time doesn’t mean it wont work again. It also shows you to really open your eyes and look for what you want and need. I  found my soul mate and from the stories on the other thread im so happy that you guys did as well. its amazing. to see so many happy second chances.

Posted on January 13, 2012 at 2:36 am

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