CHANGE OF HEART...

Let me preface this by saying my future hubs and i have talked through EVERY possible subject one could think of before people get married.

Originally I admitted that I never thought of a wedding ceremony in specific...
When he expressed he wanted a small wedding I originally agreed, we even discussed having a HUGE party at a later date to celebrate with everyone.

As we begin to plan minor details I find he wants immediate family only.... This is becoming upsetting to me because I do not like my own sister so I will not invite her. My brother & sister in law have three kids all starting back to school who are expensive as is and will be hard to pay and travel for/with. I am feeling as though My reluctant parents will be th only people for me at my wedding and I will be in tears. I have about a dozen people I love enough to be there and only a few are blood related let alone immediate family.

I lightly tried to talk about wedding and reception in same day and possibly extending the guest list. I was reminded what I ORIGINALLY agreed on and he didnt allow much for continued conversation.

The 2nd part that makes this difficult is our engagement will not be announced until CHRISTMAS for personal reasons, but this doesnt allow me to talk to anyone about the dilema....

What should I do?
My future hubs is a compromising and reasonable man, but he seems very grounded in this decision.

Posted on August 25, 2014 at 1:18 am
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 I would say try talking to him about how heart broken you will be. Try telling him that, at first, this was acceptable; but now you've had a change of heart.  Or you can try picking a handful of the people closest to you and bringing them regardless of relation. Might I ask why you think he is this adamant that you keep it so small?  Maybe he just doesn't want to be the center of attention?  Or maybe he wants to keep it intimate and special just between the two of you. 

Good luck!

Posted on August 25, 2014 at 6:16 am
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You need to discuss how you feel again with your FH. A wedding is for two people and I think that you both should be on the same page.  

Posted on August 25, 2014 at 12:09 pm
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I agree with the others. I would tell him after  you started planning this is how you feel. 

Posted on August 25, 2014 at 2:19 pm
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 Sorry you're having to deal with this, hopefully it can be sorted out soon so that you can start looking forward to your engagement announcement and then the planning stage!

DH and I had a small wedding (32 people including us). My immediate family is 16, his is 4 so we agreed that he would invite friends so that we had the same number of people (although most of them were mutual friends, but it made it "even")

Would something like that work for you?

Posted on August 25, 2014 at 6:45 pm

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