(Cheekymar) Wedding Recap Part 3

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The UGLY


My Dad. I will probably never speak with him again. At the rehearsal, he had a diabetic reaction and was freaking out on our Wedding Planner (sooo rude & just nasty). He apparently didn’t like how she was delegating the Wedding Party to do what they needed to do. He also didn’t like how “fast” the wedding party was walking… Ummm – Isn’t it my Wedding? And shouldn’t they walk at the speed I want them to walk? Okay, Okay – He is not mentally there, sure. When I begged with him to Stop being rude to her, he told me to “Back the F%@# off”… That’s when I told my mom to take him back to the Hotel to get his blood sugar levels back to normal. Extremely long story, condensed into a short few sentences is: My Dad, Mom & Brother didn’t go to my rehearsal dinner. And my Dad (who was the officiant and the person walking me down the aisle) didn’t go to my wedding… We had to find a pastor in a matter of hours. My Dad was apparently too embarrassed and went home. Thanks Dad. So, in front of My Friends, Family, New Family, co-workers, etc… My embarrassment meant nothing. The issue with him not coming caused a domino effect of problems on the whole day (Fathers play a pretty big role on the wedding day…). The New Officiant mispronounced my name throughout the entire Ceremony (Mariah, Marsha, Moora, etc…). The whole ceremony was SO AWKWARD and uncomfortable. The last minute pastor was reading the Ceremony my Dad wrote (gag!). Word for word, so it sounded like a horribly read story-time. Awful. At least it looked really pretty… Also – the Father/Daughter dance was changed to be a Brother/Sister dance. It was awkward as well, because when the song was almost over my grandpa wanted to dance… I LOVED THAT, but there was so much confusion that the same song played twice…. Another awkward moment. At this point everyone kinda knew (without details) what was going on… Luckily NOBODY asked “How are you doing about it”, “Im so sorry to hear…”, nothing. I was really worried that the day would be about HIM. But it wasn’t. It was about DH & I. I honestly didn’t really think too much about the situation I was in. I was genuinely happy on my wedding day. My Mom walked me down the aisle (which I wouldn’t change for the world) & I danced with my Brother & Grandpa… I was so happy and didn’t need to feel like I was walking on egg shells all day. I think I would have felt that way if my dad was there. Sometimes Moms have to be Dads too… My Mom is a saint and I wouldn’t change a thing. I would have her walk me down the aisle a million times over. I love her so much.    


The Chandelier. My mom & I put our blood, sweat & tears into putting together a chandelier. Crystals strung & all… She was a GORGEOUS chandelier…. Well – That Chandelier made it half way to the wedding and went Airborne out of a truck onto the busiest freeway in Southern California. SO, if you had traffic delays on Sept 4th in South Orange County --- It was my Chandelier all over the 5 Freeway being cleaned up by CHP. My poor aunt & uncle who were transporting for me from Long Beach didn’t know what to do… At this point they knew my Dad had ruined the day, and all the other hiccups that had occurred, etc.  All my Aunt could do at that point is PRAY! She was on the side of the freeway praying in rollers!!! Lol!! She had no time to think! However, she called her kids (my cousins) & quickly became the saviors of the day. She had an OLD rickety bare chandelier in her rental house in San Clemente (on the way to the wedding). She picked it up, bought some light bulbs, sawed some PVC pipe in the car on the way, took some extra crystals from the Manzanita CP’s, glue gun, wire, and some major prayers & I ended up with a gorgeous chandelier practically from scratch at the Ceremony. Prime example of making Lemonade out of a rotten lemon J I had NO idea what had happened until well into the reception. I had nothing to complain about… I was so happy with what we had!!!


All in all – my Wedding Day and the planning leading up to the Wedding would be considered to most, a nightmare (MOH, illnesses, last minute huge changes, etc.). It could be a blockbuster hit (no joke there)! But with amazing friends, and amazing Husband, and supportive family, I made it through with a smile on my face. You will hear it time and time again through you planning that “it is all about you and your FI on that day”. And to “just focus on him”. Believe me – FOCUS ON HIM. You WILL have the most amazing day regardless of the world falling to pieces around you. He is your future!

Posted on September 24, 2010 at 10:01 am
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So far being ‘married’ is the most amazing feeling I have ever had. I describe it to my girlfriends as “I feel like I won something”. It’s the ultimate prize to know you were chosen above anyone else & it’s quite awesome to have it be “Official”. Lol… I’m so happy to be in the Mrs. Club, and I’m glad this Wedding planning is over for me, but I’m so excited for all of you to experience such a great day!! Cheers!

Posted on September 24, 2010 at 10:01 am
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My god, Im sorry to hear about your Dad. Im sure he is deeply regretting his decision. 


On the bright side, I cant believe your aunt came to the rescue like that. That was awesome of her!


 

Posted on September 24, 2010 at 10:18 am
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Wow. I am so sorry to hear about your dad was behaving. One thing for sure it is going to eat his heart up. He will definately regret acting like that and missing your wedding.


 


On a happy note: Congrats Mrs. Estrada on your wedding. I wish you both a lifetime of happiness, health, and unconditional love.


 


:)

Posted on September 24, 2010 at 10:21 am
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Awww hun..I'm so sorry to hear about the fall out w/your dad and the drama w/your MOH in the time leading up to your big day. It truly sounded like your wedding was spectacularly beautiful though..despite everything. *HUGS* CONGRATULATIONS! You're now a MRS :D

Posted on September 24, 2010 at 10:23 am
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I am so sorry - Wow you poor thing - You went through so much during your wedding day.  From your pictures though you looked STUNNING...Something out of a magazine!!!  You have such a positive outlook on how you feel now that I totally commend you for keeping it together where most people would have just broken down.  When it is all said and done, it is you and your Husband at the end of the day and it sounds like you have an amazing life ahead of you.


Congrats again! 

Posted on September 24, 2010 at 10:24 am
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Oh, I love Pt3! You made me all misty eyed. So beautiful how your family pulled together to cover the boo boos. Your aunt is amazing!


Congrats again on a beautiful wedding and best wishes for a happy marriage.

Posted on September 24, 2010 at 10:49 am
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So that's why I was stuck in traffic forever! lol j/k! I can't believe all that happened! Your wedding looks amazing and so do you. Congrats on getting married to the love of your life!

Posted on September 24, 2010 at 10:55 am
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Def sorry about the dad and groomen situation. But im so happy things turned out well. And trust me, your pics rock! So no one can tell a thing. :)

Posted on September 24, 2010 at 11:10 am
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Great recap- what a crazy thing you went through on your wedding day!   It sounds like you still had a good time with your hubby, which is what matters!!


Your Aunt is amazing!!

Posted on September 24, 2010 at 11:12 am
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Sorry about all that drama with your dad.  My heart breaks for you.  But you had your mom, brother and grandpa.  All really special people to have those memories with!  :)

Posted on September 24, 2010 at 12:09 pm
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You have such an amazing and positive outlook on life. I'm sorry you had to deal with drama, but in the end I'm ultimately thankful that you were able to let it roll off your back and enjoy your day with your new hubby. SOOOO many people wouldn't have been able to do what you did and it would have ruined their day, but you didn't let it!!! Talk about maturity and love!!! Just the way you wrote your recap shows how loving and positive you are and it's so refreshing to hear!  Congrats again and best wishes that your relationship with your dad can someday be repaired.

Posted on September 24, 2010 at 12:33 pm
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Oh wow, you have an awesome attitude.  What you went through would have brought a lesser person (me) to tears, but you found the rainbow.  Congrats to you and the Mr.

Posted on September 24, 2010 at 1:11 pm
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I'm so sorry to hear all that :o( congrats to you and your pics are awesome!!!

Posted on September 24, 2010 at 3:29 pm
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Congratulations cheeky!  I'm so sorry about your Dad.  Your wedding was beautiful!  Welcome to the Mrs. side!

Posted on September 27, 2010 at 3:25 am

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