(Cheekymar) Wedding Recap Part 3
My Dad. I will probably never speak with him again. At the rehearsal, he had a diabetic reaction and was freaking out on our Wedding Planner (sooo rude & just nasty). He apparently didn’t like how she was delegating the Wedding Party to do what they needed to do. He also didn’t like how “fast” the wedding party was walking… Ummm – Isn’t it my Wedding? And shouldn’t they walk at the speed I want them to walk? Okay, Okay – He is not mentally there, sure. When I begged with him to Stop being rude to her, he told me to “Back the F%@# off”… That’s when I told my mom to take him back to the Hotel to get his blood sugar levels back to normal. Extremely long story, condensed into a short few sentences is: My Dad, Mom & Brother didn’t go to my rehearsal dinner. And my Dad (who was the officiant and the person walking me down the aisle) didn’t go to my wedding… We had to find a pastor in a matter of hours. My Dad was apparently too embarrassed and went home. Thanks Dad. So, in front of My Friends, Family, New Family, co-workers, etc… My embarrassment meant nothing. The issue with him not coming caused a domino effect of problems on the whole day (Fathers play a pretty big role on the wedding day…). The New Officiant mispronounced my name throughout the entire Ceremony (Mariah, Marsha, Moora, etc…). The whole ceremony was SO AWKWARD and uncomfortable. The last minute pastor was reading the Ceremony my Dad wrote (gag!). Word for word, so it sounded like a horribly read story-time. Awful. At least it looked really pretty… Also – the Father/Daughter dance was changed to be a Brother/Sister dance. It was awkward as well, because when the song was almost over my grandpa wanted to dance… I LOVED THAT, but there was so much confusion that the same song played twice…. Another awkward moment. At this point everyone kinda knew (without details) what was going on… Luckily NOBODY asked “How are you doing about it”, “Im so sorry to hear…”, nothing. I was really worried that the day would be about HIM. But it wasn’t. It was about DH & I. I honestly didn’t really think too much about the situation I was in. I was genuinely happy on my wedding day. My Mom walked me down the aisle (which I wouldn’t change for the world) & I danced with my Brother & Grandpa… I was so happy and didn’t need to feel like I was walking on egg shells all day. I think I would have felt that way if my dad was there. Sometimes Moms have to be Dads too… My Mom is a saint and I wouldn’t change a thing. I would have her walk me down the aisle a million times over. I love her so much.
The Chandelier. My mom & I put our blood, sweat & tears into putting together a chandelier. Crystals strung & all… She was a GORGEOUS chandelier…. Well – That Chandelier made it half way to the wedding and went Airborne out of a truck onto the busiest freeway in Southern California. SO, if you had traffic delays on Sept 4th in South Orange County --- It was my Chandelier all over the 5 Freeway being cleaned up by CHP. My poor aunt & uncle who were transporting for me from Long Beach didn’t know what to do… At this point they knew my Dad had ruined the day, and all the other hiccups that had occurred, etc. All my Aunt could do at that point is PRAY! She was on the side of the freeway praying in rollers!!! Lol!! She had no time to think! However, she called her kids (my cousins) & quickly became the saviors of the day. She had an OLD rickety bare chandelier in her rental house in San Clemente (on the way to the wedding). She picked it up, bought some light bulbs, sawed some PVC pipe in the car on the way, took some extra crystals from the Manzanita CP’s, glue gun, wire, and some major prayers & I ended up with a gorgeous chandelier practically from scratch at the Ceremony. Prime example of making Lemonade out of a rotten lemon J I had NO idea what had happened until well into the reception. I had nothing to complain about… I was so happy with what we had!!!
All in all – my Wedding Day and the planning leading up to the Wedding would be considered to most, a nightmare (MOH, illnesses, last minute huge changes, etc.). It could be a blockbuster hit (no joke there)! But with amazing friends, and amazing Husband, and supportive family, I made it through with a smile on my face. You will hear it time and time again through you planning that “it is all about you and your FI on that day”. And to “just focus on him”. Believe me – FOCUS ON HIM. You WILL have the most amazing day regardless of the world falling to pieces around you. He is your future!