Choosing your Venue

Decisions, decisions, decisions...

I'm in the process of visiting venues and weighing the pros and cons. I swear if it isn't one thing, it's another.

PW, theKnot, and weddingwire have all been helpful in locating some beautiful places, but something has been lacking in all the venues I've went to thus far.

I believe this wknd, my FI and I will cross some more off the list and get back to the drawing board. It's becoming frustrating but I do feel like we are getting close.

There is only 1 place I visited and absolutely loved but it was WAY out of the budget. and I'm still thinking how I can make it work once I reach out to the planner. I can have the gift of gab at times lol...at least I like to think so.

 

Anyway, how did you know your venue was THEE venue? What did you settle for and what were you not willing to budge on?

A sml part of me has wondered if I'm missing out b/c of something I don't like...i.e an ugly carpet that some of these places have.

Posted on September 19, 2013 at 4:54 pm
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I totally understand how you feel. I fell in love with the first venue I visited which was a castle. It was expensive but we could make it work into our budget. The more I thought about it the more I questioned it because there were no extras included and I knew I could find others that had extras and cheaper. I don't think I will find one I love as much as the castle but I have changed my way of thinking. My FI loves the outside and planting things so I am looking into Springhouse Gardens because I have always known I wanted an outside ceremony. I am going to look at a couple other venues this next week as well so I know how you feel. The one thing I wouldn't budge on was having an outside ceremony and the inside/outside reception that I've always wanted. I also won't budge on having the entire day at the venue so we have plenty of time to get ready at the venue, to do pictures prior to the ceremony, and do our entire wedding without feeling rushed.
Posted on September 20, 2013 at 12:13 pm
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FI and I searched forever for a venue. F-O-R-E-V-E-R.  Like you said, a lot of the go-to wedding resources have some great suggestions, but once we exhausted those, we had to get creative.  I did a lot of strategic searching on Yelp--not just the basic search, but Yelp Talk too.  Also, one way I tried to zero in on venues within my budget was to look for affordable photographers, then browse their blogs to see where they've shot weddings.  The same can be done with other vendors, too; just search for a band, caterer, DJ within your budget, and chances are they mostly work in venues within your budget.  I also asked around a lot. Basically anyone willing to small talk with me about my wedding had a venue suggestion or more.

In the end, we did have to make a lot of compromises on our choice of venue, even though we went over budget.  I would have liked a larger reception room, more liberty with serving food and alcohol (hotels have a lot of restrictions), etc., but we ended up loving it anyway.

Posted on September 20, 2013 at 4:11 pm
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you and me both kimandbyron :'(. my vision is to have an outdoor ceremony...then reception inside. if i can do cocktail outside, even better.

if i must do it inside due to weather, I still wanna have that feel you know.

 

great info karenrose! i actually looked on yelp a few times and some things came up, but then I met a brick wall. but I will do that again. i started to look more into country clubs and mansions etc. Mansions dont seem to have that many restrictions, and the ones I went to were priced reasonably, but wasn't in an area we can take pics outside. it also couldn't accommodate an outdoor ceremony.

I like the mansion feel, b/c I think it'll make the ambiance feel like 1 big family coming together and their menu choices seem to be a lot better as well. Plus some have onsite accommodations. i def don't wanna go back home after the wedding is over.hotels are great for that purpose and most offer a suite/room for the bride & groom, but then can fall on the higher scale depending.

I have a few places to view this wknd....fingers crossed!

Posted on September 20, 2013 at 5:33 pm
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 It's hard thinking of everything regarding venues---there's so much that needs to e considered! But in the end you will prob have to compromise somewhere. The one thing that I didn't like about my venue but didn't know that it would be an issue is how much set up time you're allowed. We ran out of time and a lot of stuff didn't get set up as I wanted it. That was something I wish I would have thought of!! Good luck linn!!

Posted on September 20, 2013 at 5:54 pm
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 Thx uhlease, you are right. 

Initially when I first started looking, there were some basics things the venue had to have. Space for ceremony and reception, could accommodate my guests, accommodate mic etc outdoor, good menu, wedding cake. 

After visiting places and getting tired of feeling like it was cookie cutter, we came up with some preliminary ques we'd ask the venue owner prior to making an appt. 

if they offered more than less according to our list, then we'd book an appt and ask for price menu in email. I even started putting in inquiries via websites so the menu options and prices are out the way or give me an idea so to speak. 

 

 

Posted on September 20, 2013 at 6:16 pm
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 to be honest i had to "settle" on everything for my venue. i originally wanted something with vintage, antique/old, art deco charm.... something visually interesting and stimulating. Nothing in my town has anything remotly like that. i found a really cool place, but it was 2 hours away and it was requested of me not to make my ederly grandparents drive the 2 hours (and i obliged.) then i found an interesting place an hour away, but then i never heard back from them for about 3 months despite repeated efforts of my calling. So finally i had to settle on something in my own home town.

The things i did NOT want, was beach wedding (no offense because their beautiful but ive lived in FL my whole life and have seen hundreds of them.), or a club house on golf course to host my reception....

i am getting my church ceremony... but guess where my reception is being held?? a golf course club house! BUT their co-ordinator at the club house is so amazing!! she won us over completly. i mean she offered us the use of her house linens, glass ware (like vases and votives) gave us advice on affordable vendors, ways to cut costs with the cake, and the icing on her cake? she offered to drive guests home if they were some how incapicitated!! Umm i dont know to many venue hosts that would do something like that. 

So despite it being the exact oppisite of what i wanted.... I chose it based on the knowledge that A.) im hoping decor will make a great atmosphere... but B.) I feel like whatever if anything, goes wrong, my co-ordinator will take care of it immediatly and i wont have a care in the world! and that to me means more then my visually interstesting location!! peace of mind makes up for golf courses and palm trees!! (it doesnt hurt that i dont have to find someone to scarmmble about decorate for me the day before or day of as well!)

so yes im settling... but at the same time im not. :)

Posted on September 22, 2013 at 12:54 am
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 with what you listed kittywolf, I dont think you are settling at all. Some ppl can present the space in a way that'll make you accept/forget certain things...that's great! Also, that's a plus that you got a good feel from the coordinator, that's important.

I would've loved to get marry in a church, but for convenience purposes and b/c I'm not an active member, I decided against it. I still want that feeling though...hope I get it or close to it. Just a diff feel when you walk into a church.

 

Today we viewed a restaurant that's huge and have many little spaces. def not convention and I actually like it, but it can't accommodate all my guest for the ceremony. I loved the space though..something diff. decor was beautiful and stimulating to the eye but for a wedding, its out the picture, or at least for the amt we have. Oh, plus some of the additional cost that the event planner informed us of, was like woah! I'll keep this in the books for a diff event perhaps.

After our visit, FI and I had a convo and he finally mentioned 2 spaces that can be a potential spot. I'd have to see it again, but off the bat, the total is a bit high I think. We would require transportation which is another cost and have to book a room at a closeby hotel, another cost. Both of us are frustrated...which isn't good b/c then we'll start making irrational choices just b/c we want to be done with it or I know I'll just say whatever and not show interest. At this point, its tiring. After the 1st wknd in Oct, I'm taking a break from this all. I'll leave it to him to look if wants to. Starting to feel like it's all me researching, calling, making appts and updating our excel sheet lol. He provides input and may have suggested a few places, but I'm beginning to think its all me combing through the haystack. 

 

Posted on September 22, 2013 at 1:41 am
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I am doing ALL our planning and honestly it doesn't bother me. He gives me opinions when I ask for them. He says whatever I want he is ok with. He will go to the tastings with me and when I make a final decision on the venue I will take him and show him.
Posted on September 22, 2013 at 11:10 am
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 I visited only one venue. I found it by chance in the internet looking for another thing at that time. we walked in and it myáde me cry. I knew it the very second I wanted to get married there and nowhere else. it was like this with everyting i chose. either I loved it immediately or never. 

But I was lucky I suppose

Posted on September 22, 2013 at 11:29 am
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 Linn, where do you live/area your getting married and maybe we can help! :) and I agree with you. I'm not settling! <3

Posted on September 23, 2013 at 8:00 am
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 no cigar for this wknd visit. it was nice and feasible, but it just wasn't for us. This venue actually offers seconds(meal) to which my FI eyes got brighter LOL, but no way! 

@ Kittywolf13-- I live in NY tristate area. So I've been to LI, White Plains, Bx areas, SI as well....next wk I'm going back to the White plains area, then we're gonna take it a litter further.

I'm thinking about heading to NJ to look but sooo not looking fwd to trying to locate a spot.

Posted on September 23, 2013 at 5:11 pm
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soooo this wknd was productive!

we viewd a venue near PA and I really like it! It's pretty much up in the mountains but it felt right!

FI and I will sleep on it b/c there are concerns abt lounging, distance etc...also thinking abt how the older folks will manage but this one is on the list as a contender!

Posted on October 7, 2013 at 9:52 am

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