Church Issues - SHORT ISLE

Hey guys. So I booked my church already and it's going to be held at the Our Lady of Lourdes Catholic Church in Northridge, CA. I chose this church because:


a) the nice size, it's a relatively smaller church so it will be intimate


b) sentimental value - my parents got married there


c) distance to the reception place - like 5 minutes away


Here's my issue: It has been my dream to walk down the isle as in walk down a LONG isle. This church only has 10 rows! The trio won't even be able to finish the first verse of the song and I will already be at the altar.


What should I do? Should I change my church to one that has a longer isle, but no meaning to me? I've been stressing about this... Advise please!!!!

Posted on September 10, 2008 at 6:37 am
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are there doors in the back that could be opened so you have a longer walk?


would there be any costs associated with you changing the church?

Posted on September 10, 2008 at 6:41 am
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i sound like a broken record when i say this but - dont add extra stress on yourself!!


obviously if the long walk was a "real" issue you wouldve chosen one right??  but you chose a church that has significance to you, so just roll with it! kwim??    you cannot make the aisle longer - if it bothers you THAT much - then switch churches just for the long aisle - BUT ask yourself this: what is more important to you and FH - get married in a church with sentimental and pragmatic purposes or get married in a church with a longer aisle just so you can walk a few exta steps??

Posted on September 10, 2008 at 6:43 am
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If it means this much to you b/c its so sentimental then I would keep it!   Ours was kinda small too- but we walked up to the chapel slow and paused right at the entrance- it turned out great.  The music got to play a little longer then expected and she kept playing it as my DH hugged my dad and greeted me, etc...


- HMM :)

Posted on September 10, 2008 at 6:43 am
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If you won't lose any money and you are able to find a church that's just as pretty, i'd say go for it.. try to get a longer isle!  Here's a question- in 1,2 or 5 years, will you regret not having found a long aisle to walk down?  If so, then find a long aisle!!  If not, then I'd just go with what you have :)  HTH!

Posted on September 10, 2008 at 6:44 am
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Here's a picture of the inside of the church:


Here s a picture photo 81029-1


The bottom of the picture is a fountain. There's a fountain of holy water at the end of the aisle.


YES, there are doors at the back that would be opened for me... So I suppose I could start my procession from all the way outside?


There are no costs associated with changing the church because they haven't even asked for the donation yet. I just feel bad because I have been talking constantly to the church coordinator who is really sweet.


Do you think it's really short? The church was under renovation that's why it doesn't look so nice. But it's really cute inside!


 

Posted on September 10, 2008 at 6:46 am
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only you can answer that - like i said before - if the long aisle was a major issue - you wouldnt have chosen this church right??


prioritize wha'ts most important and go from there


i presume when it gets to your wedding day - long walk, short walk, it's not gonna matter - what's gonna matter is who is at the end of the aisle and that you are making a lifetime commitment to the man you love...

Posted on September 10, 2008 at 6:51 am
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I know what you mean d1rtymart1n1! I just needed some persprective. I'm always like this... dissecting my decisions and stressing about whether or not I made the right one. I'm always looking at things to pick at.


Yes I guess I just need to step back and look at the bigger picture.

Posted on September 10, 2008 at 6:54 am
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HMM, your ceremony pictures were gorgeous. I see what you mean with the smaller chapel. Mine is about the same length. I guess it's not really that bad!!!

Posted on September 10, 2008 at 6:59 am
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do yourself and your nerves a favor---> once you've exhausted all avenues and choices and once you make a decision based on all info you have at hand - do not look back...  you will thank yourself in the long run!  and if there is a hiccup or roadblock - you must have the flexibility (mental flexibility also) to take "plan b" and run with it with the same gusto as plan a...


being indecisive is the root of most stresses when wedding planning - just trust your gut and move on to the next item on your to do list =)


getting to the altar is not the finish line - it's only the beginning - so dont make "the wedding day" such a focus - make building and continuing your relationship and commitment the most important gift you give yourselves... i mean, yes, the day *should* be gorgeous and "things" should be in place - but what's most beautiful that day is when you are announced man and wife - everything else is just icing on the cake =)

Posted on September 10, 2008 at 7:05 am
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I love your advice d1rtymart1n1! I am going to quote you on that and put it in my bio... it's definitely something to read over when I am having my bridezilla days.

Posted on September 10, 2008 at 7:19 am
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personally, i dont think a long aisle or a short aisle should be THAT big of a deal.. it has sentimental value, you should go for it.. i would've loved to have gotten married at the church my parents got married at, but its completely modoernized (i LOVE the older looking ones)... so, i dont think it should be one of those things you should stress about... the only thing that matters that day, is marrying the man you will be spending the rest of your life with... short or long aisle =)

xoxoxo!!
Posted on September 10, 2008 at 8:13 am
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Yeah totally true, thanks hulaprncs18!!!

Posted on September 10, 2008 at 9:03 am
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LOl I had the same issue and I let it go.  I wanted to get married at St. Vincent on Figureroa and Adams in Downtown Los Angeles. Angelic church. But tne new priest is not known to my family and is new and he is not a kind person. Wanted to charge me $1,200 to be married at my very own church where all my family had all their history. I got into a fight with him and walked out and only went back once to tell him what I thought of him.  Still love my church.


So now I'm at a church that has 9 isles. I lost so much sleep over it and I was so bitter. I'd drive by the big church and it would hurt. Still kind of does since I drive there twice a day. But I learned to let go. I will make with what I have and be happy and be married by a priest that loves us and talks to us about God and values and one another. And the priest that never said anything about God and only about money and how I had 8 months to put the money together and if I couldn't afford it why get married and I should go to a cheaper church. Well, I reported him to the Archdiocese and at least it's out there that he should be selling used cars and not God.


Amen I love the man I'm going to marry and my sacraments are all that matter!!! 9 rows do suck though. LOL

Posted on September 10, 2008 at 9:17 am
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Haha! Marina you're a laughtrip! He should be selling used cars huh!? You're funny... So what church did you end up with???

Posted on September 10, 2008 at 9:24 am
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I ended up going to Montebello. (St. Joseph)  Totally not in my neighborhood but the Priest is great!!!! All about "The couple" we love him so much!!!  9 rows of pews down the isle with pews on either side of the altar.  is that what it's called?  Well anyway. Not what I wanted esthetically. But the Priest is our favorite part of knowing we are going to hear him talk to us and Presiding over us.  The other corn hole priest that killed my dream, can kiss my fat two cheeks!!!!


Ohh man... but my other church was a cathedral dream come true!!! It would of taken a good 4 minutes to make it down the isle. They use that church in all the big movies. Amazingly (Rome) Cathedral esk!  Sigh... @#$!%$%$^%^%$&#^   I am so not bitter anymore.  @#$$^$%^

Posted on September 11, 2008 at 5:21 am
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We had a really short aisle and I was so nervous it seemed like it took forever to get to the reverend anyway! I had a choice of the really long aisle or the small chapel and because we had a small crowd we chose the small chapel. It looks really weird to have a small group in a large space (like you couldn't fill the place)! I thought the short aisle was really intimate and cozy and I really liked it alot better.

Posted on September 11, 2008 at 6:38 am
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I agree with you nova95. Another reason why I chose the smaller church with the shorter aisle is because bigger church, longer aisle = more cost to put flowers on the rows! I'm also having a smaller size wedding of about 180 guests.

Posted on September 11, 2008 at 7:36 am
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Hah - never thought about that - but good way to economize without looking cheap.

Posted on September 11, 2008 at 9:07 am

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