COCKTAIL HOUR: do I need music?

Do I need to have music during my cocktail hour??? 


My DJ will be doing my ceremony music.  But, he cannot also do my cocktail hour since he'll be moving equipment during that time.  If I want to play an ipod, then I have to have him set-up speakers because the room isn't wired for sound.  But, I just don't think it's worth the trouble.  So ... do you think I have to have music for that 1 hour?

Posted on June 29, 2009 at 11:57 am
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Jamiesue...we hired a Klezemer band (Jewish Music).  But know what I did for the kids bar/bat mitzvahs.  I was at the local coffee house and hired the guitarist there.  I paid him practically nothing.  It was only for an hour!  There are classical guitarists that you can get by googling.  How expensive could an hour be?


 


 

Posted on June 29, 2009 at 12:02 pm
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I am curious if your Hotel can just pipe some background ambient music in? It really does help with the "mood" of the room but no one is really listening to specific songs and I wouldn't think you would have to put extra work and/or expense towards it if there is an existing in house system that can just play nice ambient music.

Posted on June 29, 2009 at 12:02 pm
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I feel like your dj should be able to handle doing both - my dj went straight from our cocktail hour into our reception no problems at all....


I don't think anyone would miss it honestly, but its always nice to have music playing in the background...

Posted on June 29, 2009 at 12:03 pm
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Meh, I don't think we had music during our cocktail hour (I never even got to see the room actually), and I don't think it was a big deal.  It's always nice to have ambient music, but I don't think it's worth killing yourself over (or spending unbudgeted extra money on).

Posted on June 29, 2009 at 12:04 pm
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klovesb - the room isn't wired for sound at all.  So, if I wanted music, my DJ would have to set up speakers.  Or I'd have to hire a live musician.  I'm just not sure it's worth it.  I don't think people would notice if there wasn't music, ya know?  There's free food & drink ... that should be enough right??

Posted on June 29, 2009 at 12:04 pm
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To be honest with you, I don't think you need it.  Its only an hour long and people will be mingling with each other and chasing down the servers for drinks/appies.  I don't think people will notice if you don't have music playing in the background.


Out of all the weddings I have been to, for the life of me, I cannot recall if they had music playing during cocktail hour.


 

Posted on June 29, 2009 at 12:07 pm
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Good point Jaci & Cindee.  Maybe I'll just skip it.  I honestly can't remember if there has been music at the cocktail hours I've been to either.  At this point, I'd rather spend that money on hiring a videographer. 

Posted on June 29, 2009 at 12:08 pm
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If it's only an hour, it might not be a big deal.  People will probably be mingling and taking pictures, so music probably won't be an issue. 


We're having a harpist play at our ceremony, and she's staying about 45 minutes after the ceremony to play.  The rest of the cocktail hour will be music-less. It's not like there will be dead silence.


If you really want music, the ipod is an inexpensive idea.  Although it's quite troublesome to set everything up.

Posted on June 29, 2009 at 12:08 pm
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My vote's definitely for the videographer, if it comes down to that! :)

Posted on June 29, 2009 at 12:21 pm
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oh definitely do a videographer.... music is probably one of those things that you wouldn't really notice if it was gone, but you might notice if it was there, ya know?


you can also check out gigmasters.com if you are interested in a live performer. I filled out a form with my wedding date and location and got like 10 emails immediately from various people with their rates and some were super super cheap.

Posted on June 29, 2009 at 12:23 pm
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SKIP IT!!! nobody will notice, I PROMISE you

Posted on June 29, 2009 at 12:24 pm
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I'm the odd person here but the thing I remember MOST about my son and dil's wedding (other than crying through the ceremony) was the beautiful 3 piece jazz group that played during the cocktail hour. They hired a college group and it made the event.  If you can do it..do it!

Posted on June 29, 2009 at 12:30 pm
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We're not having music during our cocktail hour.

Posted on June 29, 2009 at 12:57 pm
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I vote to skip it!

Posted on June 29, 2009 at 12:58 pm
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Here are my thoughts :


 


I agree with KK  that your DJ should be able to handle this .... I had the option of getting married outside and my DJ would have been able to play music outside for my ceremony and still have music playing inside during cocktail hour while he moved the outdoor equipment back in ....  Is your DJ a friend or relative? ..... If they are a professional DJ they should be prepared for this type of situation ... 


But regardless ..... As a Bride I would want background music ...as a guest I would notice if it was missing during cocktail hour ....BUT I am the type of person who would remember the lack of music during cocktail hour but the next day would have forgotten what the decor or centerpieces looked like .... but that's me ...... in the same respect , you will have guests who notice and guests who wont ..... If YOU are alright with it , and won't "worry" about it that day or even leading up to that day .... then skip it and forget about it ..... but if you will be wondering during cocktail hour how many people are wondering why there is no music .... talk to your DJ and see what he can do ..... he should be able to figure something out ...he has been hired to provide music for the wedding day .... not just select parts of the wedding day  .... KWIM?


 


 

Posted on June 29, 2009 at 1:05 pm
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Yes, I really think you need some sort of music.  It would be odd if it was quiet.  If the ipod is out of the way, no one will ever know (who cares anyway?).  You know what you want to hear, so just let it run as background music, and let someone you trust fwd songs if necessary... but most likely you'll press play and forget about it.

Posted on June 29, 2009 at 1:11 pm
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ours brought 2 sound systems (we paid for this of course)...one for our ceremony out in the courtyard, and one for the reception....that way, the officiant was miked and hooked up to speakers and the DJ could play music for the ceremony and coctail hour, and then his other stuff was already set up in the reception room...

Posted on June 29, 2009 at 1:27 pm
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I think you need music. I think it would feel sort of "empty" and like something was missing if it was just quiet. Music sets the tone for the event. You don't really notice how much you notice it until it's missing. I would do an iPod. There are some amazing iPod speaker systems out there and the quality is great. Put together a nice playlist that will run for 90 minutes (just to cover all the bases), have someone turn it on, and just let it run in the background.

Posted on June 29, 2009 at 1:32 pm
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Wait, wait, wait...a videographer is expensive.  A guitarist for an hour isn't.  Oh wait, your saying it will free up more money for video...right?


If it's one or the other than I agree!  But.....I'm having three musicians because I'm out of my freakin' mind and need to spend MORE money on this wedding!!!!

Posted on June 29, 2009 at 2:20 pm
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I think so, it will be kinda like a a lounge wit nice music in the background..

Posted on June 29, 2009 at 2:23 pm
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