Cold Feet Maybe?

I'm 11 days away and im starting to get the "cold feet". I was walking to work this morning and I thought to myself am I making the right decision? On top of that i dont like being the center of attention im am very quiet and shy. I just keep picturing myself tripping or falling down the isle becuase im so nervous! I know it stems mostly from my nerves and a mound of frustrations about the actual wedding. But I dont know if its normal to feel like this. Did anyone else go thru it? 

Posted on January 29, 2013 at 12:42 am
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adamsapple
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Hey, I think a lot of brides to be go through that.  I too, asked myself if I was making the right decision... not about DH - I love DH but I had problems with his family and it made me feel very uneasy.  Then I realised, I'm marrying him, he's who I want to be with and that is all that matters!  I think as long as you know you want to be with your FI then that's the most important.


As for the tripping over and being the centre of attention, that was my worst fear!  But it all worked out in the end :-)


Just know you are not alone in your thoughts x

Posted on January 29, 2013 at 12:51 am
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I went through this because I did not feel worthy of my now DH. However, 20 years later I am thrilled I made that decision. I am not one for center of attention either, but This is one time I promise all you will be thinking about is him and the only person you see is him. I know this because this is what I did and this is what all my friends have told me they did.


Then again my friends are shy like me in front of groups. Though I should say I am not that bad now because i took a few publica speaking courses to get over it.

Posted on January 29, 2013 at 1:27 am
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I can relate.  I too am having weird dreams, and hate being the center of attention.  It's like I want my walk down the isle to be over because I don't like the attention being on me yet I want to freeze the moment with just he and I.  I know it will all be over in a flash and I want to savor every moment.  


I agree with Jenny and feel that a lot of brides go through this as well.  Marriage should always be thought about long and hard.  It's a life changing decsion (sp?) I'm sorry I can never spell that word...and should be considered thouroughly.


Don't fret sweetie.  If you love the man you are about to marry and know that he is the right person for you, everything else will fall into place.  


I bet you are getting excited too.  Try to turn that nervous energy into positive energy by remembering what a special day it will be/  That's what I have been telling myself all along and my wedding isn't until September!!!! LOL I'm nuts!

Posted on January 29, 2013 at 1:34 am
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Feel you about the part "tripping or falling down the isle because I’m so nervous" even if I’m not shy at all!!! 


I think it’s normal to have "cold feet"! After all it is a big decision and it is normal to think like that in major moments of your life! 


But I trust that I love my FI and he loves me and somehow we will work our problems as we have so far.

Posted on January 29, 2013 at 3:06 am
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It's normal my dear, but it doesn't sound like you got cold feet, just sounds like you are nervous about being the center of attention, falling down the aisle and thinking about what will go wrong! Just breathe beautiful! Never once did you mention ever having doubts about FI, so focus on you are marrying the love of your life. Take it from a bride that knows, everything that could go wrong the day before my big day, went wrong. I even had some baubles the moments leading up to me walking down the aisle, but when I saw My Cale waiting for me at the end of the aisle, nothing and no one mattered but our union! I am so excited for your special day and you have been working so hard on your DIY projects! I can't wait to see your day blossom and I am your biggest and loudest cheerleader! 

Posted on January 29, 2013 at 5:17 am
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Me too!!! I am so cheering you on, I agree with the other ladies, when you see FI waiting for you nothing else with matter. So happy for you.
Posted on January 29, 2013 at 9:24 am
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Thank you ladies!!! I needed the kind words!

Posted on January 30, 2013 at 3:57 am
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I had that feeling all the way up to the wedding and down the aisle! It wasn't because I didn't want to be with DH, but I truly felt too young to be getting married! I was 25 at the time so I know that was irrational bit I think our minds are overwhelmed that close to the big day and need a place to channel all those emotions. It will be ok, as long as you know you aren't questioning the relationship, the rest will come together! And every bride worries about tripping and feels self-conscious ...but all anyone will be thinking is how beautiful you look!
Posted on January 30, 2013 at 2:02 pm
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Did you do any pre-maritial classes or counselling? My fiance and I are going through the process right now and we're finding it incredibly helpful. It helps you sort out all those doubts and concerns on the front end, so you can go into marriage confidient in who you're marrying and who you are yourself.


Here's a helpful article I found about wedding jitters and pre-marriage counselling (granted, it's targeted at grooms, but I think brides could apply the same principles).

Posted on January 31, 2013 at 2:41 am
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I believe that most of us go through the "jitters" when it gets that close to our wedding day.  I know I did and once I took a step back and remembered that I was marrying my best friend/soulmate in the entire world, the jitters went away.  HTH!!!

Posted on January 31, 2013 at 3:15 am
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It's normal to get "the jitters" before your wedding.  Especially if you are normally the kind of person who doesn't like being in the spotlight.

Posted on February 1, 2013 at 4:06 pm

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