cost effective and very traditonal in-laws

 I am getting married next oct. At my in-laws house. SO that is saving a lot of money... but I have foind they are so tradtional.. that the brides family should pay for it all. While my father passed away so it is just my mom. And I am waiting to get into Nursing school.. so my fiance and i do not have a lot of money.. while he finishes nursing school. Anyway..my mom loves me a lot we are best pals and have been through a lot together so she wants to give me the wedding of my dreams.. I would like to not break her bank.. tips for catering? and rentals? I have the flowers done by a friend and the photos so i am saving money there. But FOOODD is so epensive! HELP???

Posted on November 22, 2013 at 12:48 pm
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 How many guests are you thinking of having? That's one of the best ways to cut costs-cut people! Lol. But I understand that gets hard with lots of friends and big families, so some other options would be to have fewer options, a brunch reception, dessert reception. It really depends on how many people you plan to have. Some restaurants cater a lot more affordable than actual catering companies. Tell us more about your big day and we can possibly help more!

Posted on November 22, 2013 at 12:54 pm
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 So far we have 100. That is with family my few friends. As his brothers from the marine core. They are like family after you go to war so that can't be helped. My dress I am wearing is my grandmothers which is beautiful and so that is something else free. But I need a dress for the reception 

Posted on November 22, 2013 at 1:01 pm
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 Also we are foodies love to eat so for me having good food is important..but now my fiancé wants to BBQ the steak...which is great but I'm afraid he will get to busy!

Posted on November 22, 2013 at 1:02 pm
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 Hi, welcome to PW!!

I had a very small wedding and while we were in the planning stages I wanted to do a BBQ/picnic reception (I had it all in my mind - checkered blankets, picnic hampers.... so cute!) Anyway, during my hours of investigating options I found an independent caterer that would basically provide anything I asked her to - she even had a BBQ that she would bring to any venue - and her prices were very reasonable because there were minimal overheads.  Maybe you could look for someone in your area that does the same thing??

I'm sure that you don't want your new hubby standing at a BBQ for the reception - it's a time for the two of you to celebrate your day - and cooking steak for 100 people doesn't sound like an easy job!!

 

Posted on November 22, 2013 at 1:17 pm
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I would suggest researching the caterers in your area to see if their costs are going to be out of your budget.  I would also see if any of your family or family friends have family members who are caterers and are willing to work with you.

Black Friday is coming soon so you never know what you may see at Nordstrom or any other department store for your reception dress.  You could always go to your local bridal boutique and see if they have any dresses that they have reduced dress prices.

I also found that being affliated with a bridal boutique helps with costs for a wedding ceremony or reception.  The bridal boutique in VA at the time used to have trunk shows and would have nights geared towards wedding ideas.  They would have raffles for free DJ hours and things like that.

Also sometimes going to bridal shows helps when you enter raffles..I have won wedding engagement sessions etc. and I never win anything lol.

Posted on November 22, 2013 at 1:29 pm
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We found a caterer that was only 20 a person. The food is always the biggest expense. Decide what you want to serve then start researching local places. Look into yhe small cafe places too. They usually will give you a better price
Posted on November 22, 2013 at 11:48 pm
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 about the cheapest reception you can have is the dessert reception. be sure the invitation says dessert reception to follow.

time of day and the day of the week will play into the cost too.  afternoon is cheaper than evening and any day of the week is cheaper than sat.  we got married on a sun.

another way to save is to have a cake stand in for most of the layers of a wedding cake and only one layer real so you can cut it.  then when the cake is taken to the kitchen to cut, they cut the one actual layer and a sheet cake.  it can be a layered sheet cake that will look just like it was part of the real wedding cake.

Posted on November 23, 2013 at 7:09 am
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I agree with what others have said. You should figure out what you want the food to be and go from there. maybe you could hire someone to bbq the meats and then have family cater the rest bring the sides. Or a favorite restaurant that you frequent could cater. 

As for the party reception dress after the holidays the fancy dresses always go on clearance, but since your wedding isnt till fall you could wait till spring and the dresses go on sale at prom time. Also Davids bridal always has sales.

There are lots of places to buy gently used wedding decor like craigslist, or freecycle, there is a classified section on here, you can end up saving $$$$.

Posted on November 23, 2013 at 8:02 pm

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