Crazy!

Is it just me or is it just crazy for people to spend upwards of 50,000 on a wedding that is only one day? I am new to the site and I am getting very addicted but I am getting so frustrated hearing people spend so much money! Whatever happened to the day when the mothers made the food, it was held at a local hall, and the dress was a hand me down from grandma! I am from Napa, CA and live on a 26 acre "farm" not really any animals just vineyards. So I have always imagined getting married at home (since it just gorgeous with water and vineyards in the background) and it would help save a little money. I want a small (100 people) wedding and it still going to cost an arm and a leg. My parents are paying for the wedding so its not that funds are short but it is just so frustrating when something that would cost 50 dollars on a normal day is now 500 because its for a wedding! I wanted to rent a tent for the food, cake, and dance floor that was 1000 dollars! I dont want to buy the tent just rent it!  Why would a tent cost that much money! I just cant imagine letting my parents pay over 50,000 for my wedding. That is like a good down payment for a house, which to me is way more logical. Dont get me wrong I do want the "Cinderella" wedding but yikes does it cost a lot. WOW anyways thanks for letting me vent ladies I feel a little better.

Posted on August 3, 2008 at 10:53 pm
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jackieg
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welcome to the world of weddings...if you tack on the word "wedding" to any event, it seems like vendors can quadruple the prices!!

Posted on August 4, 2008 at 2:24 am
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Yah sticker shock sucks when you are so excited to start planning but this was posted awhile back and it really made me laugh.


 


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6ff13zZ0h0k

Posted on August 4, 2008 at 3:52 am
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Yeah, its ridiculous.  Sometimes I want to pretend I'm 16 and just say that I'm not having a wedding, I'm having a Sweet 16, which are sometimes just as extravegant as weddings!   ha!  That would save me a bundle I'm sure.  Too bad no one would believe I'm 16!!!  lol.  What if I said I was having a "corporate party" and then just showed up in a gown?? 

Posted on August 4, 2008 at 3:58 am
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after i booked our bakery, i read a review where instead of ordering a wedding cake...they just ordered 4 cakes and asked that they be decorated in white buttercream icing....saved a TON of money....ugh....

Posted on August 4, 2008 at 4:02 am
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Wow you have the EXACT same opinion as me haha. I was shocked to see how much things were. I also grew up on a 60 acre "farm", we did not farm, just had some horses. Well the venues I wanted were 10,000 + so my parents and I are hosting the wedding at their house. It will be beautiful because it will be personal and original. We also have to rent a large tent (weather) and it is costing 2100 just to rent!!

Posted on August 4, 2008 at 4:14 am
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yep I was very sticker shock -still am!  At first I said screw it and we bought a house but then my parents offered to pay to I was ok with it but still am very sticker shocked. The average wedding in US costs 40K.  Where does the average person in the middle states get that money I mean its ok for CA or NY but really?  Some people get paid that much in a year?  The caterer we used for our engagement pary charged 100 pp now thats its the wedding wanted to double that!!! My mom thankfully talked him down a bit!  But really what's the deal?  Well in any case welcome to PW.  You can vent all you want on here!  I know I do~ haha

Posted on August 4, 2008 at 4:51 am
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i think all of us were/are sticker-shocked at the cost of weddings.


when we were considering a hotel for our recpetion venue - we were amazed that a normal dinner was $50 per head, but b/c it was for a wedding, the price got jacked to $100 pp - same food - just for a different type of celebration...  it's retarted!


and i dont really want a 'rella wedding - i just want a fun celebration - nothing fancy - no fancy invites, etc...


i think "average" weddings are up to $30-40K now -  depends on location and all the extras we want...


this sums it all up!


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gimiDBAK2wA

Posted on August 4, 2008 at 4:53 am
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I just watched that UTube video for the first time and it made my Monday morning!  I too am so frustrated with wedding prices...I actually wanted a backyard wedding and was planning on doing so in my Aunt and Uncle's backyard in San Diego.  However...after you start renting everything and paying for the electricity to be ran and porta potties (yes you have to supply them if you have over a certain number of guests), it was going to cost me more to do it that way than renting out a venue! 

Posted on August 4, 2008 at 4:58 am
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Yes, as soon as some vendors here the word "wedding", their eyes glaze over and dollor signs appear. They rub their hands together and emit a devious laugh. It's crazy.

Posted on August 4, 2008 at 4:58 am
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Here's another youtube about wedding cakes: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gimiDBAK2wA&feature=related. So funny but unfortunately, so true!


So yes, I agree that it is not practical to spend 50K+ on a wedding. However, vendors purposely hike up the price when you mention the word "wedding." That is why FI and I went on a 4-month spree of looking for an affordable yet beautiful venue. It was tough but fortunately, we found one. I also found out that the ceiling swag at my venue can cost up to $1,000 or more. Crazy!!!


I don't want to spend more than 30K but that thought still makes me feel guilty. I can use that money toward a down payment on another house or invest it in our SEP-IRA. =( It's not easy b/c FI, his family, and my family want a traditional big filipino wedding (250+ people). So, I was singled out on this decision.

Posted on August 4, 2008 at 5:34 am
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Since you are doing it at your house, try getting vendors to give you quotes for the "party" you are throwing. That isn't a lie and it will save you buckets.


But yes, weddings are grossly expensive.

Posted on August 4, 2008 at 5:44 am
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omg! LA!!  talk about traditional Filipino wedding!


are you guys doing a brunch the day after also??  i'm afraid of getting that bill!

Posted on August 4, 2008 at 6:07 am
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Welcome to the site!  I agree with the other ladies..."wedding" attached to purchases jacks up the price, which is why in most cases I try to DIY or network as much as I possibly can.  On the bright side, you have a large expense covered just by where your venue is.  It sounds so gorgeous, & that's the type of place Brides pay crazy money for, because it's for a "wedding".  Best wishes, & Congratulations:)

Posted on August 4, 2008 at 6:21 am
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Dirty - I doubt we'll have enough funds for the brunch the day after. We still have to save $$ for the honeymoon! =/

Posted on August 4, 2008 at 6:37 am
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LA-- and my aunt is already adddin to the list - like i havent heard or seen of some of these "relatives" in decades!!! then she adds "But they knew your mother when she was alive"...  omg!

Posted on August 4, 2008 at 6:53 am
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that's why FI's parents added a bunch of people...they said...."they knew Andy when he was a little boy!"  


And HOW long has it been since he's seen these people??  Decades!!!

Posted on August 4, 2008 at 6:58 am
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I have to remind myself to not do that when my kid gets married. Seriously...it's all about the bride/groom. That's when I draw the line. My parents can invite their friends but not people they haven't seen or talked to in decades!

Posted on August 4, 2008 at 7:05 am
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it gets a bit ridiculous really...


i'm super glad that we are having an intimate dw in hawaii - just us really - and no pressure from all the outside peripheral crap! hahaha


so then when we have our church ceremony and huge reception next year - it will be more of a party b/c we'll have already been married  -  i cannot wait to show a slideshow of our hawaii dw

Posted on August 4, 2008 at 7:19 am
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Those you tube videos sum it all up.  I do get a little bit of chest pain when I start to think about our expenses, so I just dont look at our budget book anymore. Anyone interested in buying an organ so I can enough money to pay for my wedding ???

Posted on August 4, 2008 at 7:24 am
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it's insanity...we could be using that money to move back to CA....but even though i b*tch and moan...it will still be a great day...just a lot of money to spend on 1 friggin' day....but like D1rty said....the most important thing is the MARRIAGE, not the WEDDING....

Posted on August 4, 2008 at 7:25 am
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