curious...

Do any of you ladies still hurt during DTD?

FI wasn't my first, and when we first got together, it hurt a little, but then after awhile it was good.. Now for about 5-6 months or so, it's been hurting like crazy again.
I was told 7 yrs ago that I had PCOS.. Now I have heard that this can cause some painful DTD but I'm not sure.
I had mentioned this at my yearly back in October and the doctor just suggested that we use KY or something of that matter. But I know it doesn't have to do with being wet enough or not. It's just painful.

Thanks for any advice :-D

Posted on February 2, 2010 at 3:24 pm
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Yep. I get pylonephritis (aka kidney stones gone bad) and for months after I have an episodes it hurts a little. I really havent found any good solutions. Lube does help a little, but its mostly just get in and out quickly before the pain starts.

Posted on February 2, 2010 at 5:52 pm
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I don't know about painful sex with PCOS but I do know that it's VERY common when you have endometriosis and that is often associated with PCOS. Many women who have one also have the other. You might want to look up info on Endometriosis and see if it seems to apply to you.

Posted on February 3, 2010 at 1:01 am
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ditto odessa.  I have pain most of the time but it's because I have endometriosis. 

Posted on February 3, 2010 at 4:39 am
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Thank you ladies for your suggestions and the possiblity. I was thinking the pain would be more from Endo then PCOS.
When I had my yearly, the doctor just shurged it off and told me to lube up more. That doesn't help at all.  This was also a different doctor then usual since I didn't have insurence at the time.
I will be making an appointment, now that I have insurence. Thank you :-D


 


I was wondering..... I kow endo and pcos really messes with your cycle, so does it pretty much mean it's ok with BC (I'm on the nuva ring) then when I get off of it, is that when I'd see more signs of these too, with missed and late periods and more cramping?  I guess what I mean is, since I'm on a BC form, is this pretty much proventing any other signs. IF I would have endo?
Thank you

Posted on February 3, 2010 at 6:09 am
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I don't know about it being "ok" with BC, but I know for me endo was MUCH better when I was on BC. In fact, by BC was covered by insurance as being "medically needed". I was on it for 13 years and the longer I was on it, the less my symptoms were. I went off of it in September and the symptoms started getting worse every month.


I'm so sorry you got a dick doctor who blew you off. I can't tell you how many of them I dealt with before finally being properly diagnosed. But honestly, other than surgery and BC there aren't a whole lot of treatment options for endo anyway. There is Lupron but it's pretty hardcore stuff so unless you are totally debilitated with the disease I wouldn't recommend it. The main way I improved the pain and illness of endo, other than taking BC, was changing into a healthy lifestyle. I lost over 60 pounds, stopped smoking, got really fit with exercise, and it helped tremendously! The difference between my physical health at age 31 to what it was when I was 18 is ridiculous!


If you can find a doctor to better listen to you and help you, I think that's the best thing. But even if they do think you have endo (and the only way to KNOW is through surgery) don't count on them being able to do much to treat you. PCOS has more treatment options than endo....


as far as helping the pain with sex...for me lube does help a bit. but then if it's still achy I will ask him to hold still for a minute while I flex and release my vaginal muscles around him. That usually relaxes everything enough to ease the achey-ness. Some positions are more painful than others, too. And sometimes, simply having him withdrawal and then re-enter alleviates some pain.


good luck!

Posted on February 3, 2010 at 7:15 am
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thank you odessa for the advice and I will check into it.
I appericate the information :-D

Posted on February 3, 2010 at 7:56 am
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OMG, i was going to ask you ladies this!  Okay usually I can hurt b/c FI still to this day can Rip me down there something fierce!  But every once in a while it'll hurt on the inside like he's moved my cervix or uterus!  Itll hurt for that night and then good by the next day.  WEll the other night we dtd twice.  First time was fine.  Later on is another story.  IT hurt so bad I wanted to cry.  FOrget moving my uterus, it felt like he was making a deposit directly into my fallopian tubes.  This was TUesday.  Last night it still hurt a bit but we were a little more gentler.  What could this be?  Made me think I was preggo b/c I was really sensitive when I was pregnant

Posted on February 4, 2010 at 12:47 am
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Now that I learned so much about TTC I found out that the cervical position literally moves at certain times of your cycle. So there will be certain times that it will be lower, making it easier for him to bump into it...OUCH! I have checked on this manually as it's a way of knowing when you are ovulating, and it's amazing how differently your cervix can be placed at different times!


but I don't know about it being more sensitive with pregnancy. Usually your cervix moves up higher so it should be harder for him to hit it. But if that was a symptom you had last time I guess so

Posted on February 4, 2010 at 3:02 am
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I was experiencing pain during intercourse, so I talked to my doctor about it. He sent me for an ultrasound and found I had a cyst on one of my ovaries. I'm really bad at describing pain, but it felt like he was going in wayy to deep and hitting something on one side. It was a sharp, jabbing pain. Sometimes it would be really bad, other times I barely noticed. This is because during my cycle, the cyst fills and drains or deflates all on it's own.

Posted on February 4, 2010 at 3:04 am
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Nadine- thats exactally How i feel. When I was 17, I'll be 26 in May, I was told I had PCOS, which they had did a internal ultrasound and foudn cysts on my ovaries. But the doctor at the time, asked me about kids. I said no way. then i was in this rut of NEVER wanting kids. I had just gone through alot of emotions invovling my best friend having her son, it was a bad labor/delivery, but in the end they are both healthy. Just going through that I was stuck on never wanting to go through that and the doctor probally much let it at that.
He told me when the time comes to have a baby I may need medical help. At that time i didn't know what he ment. But I now know he ment meds of medoformin (spelled wrong) and another clemid (also spelled wrong) for your period.  I was on birth controll since I was 15 for my period and then I changed to the nuva ring when FH and I got together since it was more for protection at that (this) time. So I haven't really been able to know if my period is all wacky, except how it happens with the ring which is pretty normal for me I guess.
I know I'm going to have to call an make another appointment because this is becoming more of a problem.

Thank you for explaining that Nadine. That's helpful. You did good with the explaination of Pain I'm usually like that myself. :-D

Posted on February 4, 2010 at 6:31 am
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ladies with endometriosis, you should talk to your doctor ASAP....my BM has a bad case of endometriosis and probably, I hope not, have a surgery and if she does she will lose her ovaries....she's only 39.

Posted on February 16, 2010 at 12:57 pm
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Nadine.. tell him to quit knockin on the door so hard!!

Posted on February 16, 2010 at 1:14 pm

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