Demoting Bridesmaids

Hi,


I am very stressed out. I am a graduate student and having two weddings, one overseas and one in the States. I also have a large wedding party and its hard to corridinate (like everyone's is...) but there are two bridesmaids in particular that I don't know every well and included them in my wedding, in many ways to oblige my FI. Furthermore, both of them have complicated lives and some financial problems. Thus, I made an effort to include them in some key events to keep them up to speed on the wedding, alert them of payments involving the wedding, etc. Both of them are have been too busy to participate even if I give 6 weeks notice and try to include them in the scheduling process. I am stressed because I have a lot of my own work to do and the two weddings to plan and now I have to make other special meetings because they can not make events (that offer them important information about travel, attire,etc). So, I am considering asking them if they still want to participate in the wedding but in another more low key way. What do you all think? I would love to hear from you all even though I am not a project wedding superstar (I wish I could have my act together and post regularly). But any feedback you might have would make my day. Thanks.

Posted on July 14, 2008 at 4:31 am
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Posted on July 14, 2008 at 4:56 am
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i agree with kohler. approach it in that way. tell them that if they decide to not participate as a BM, then you have a special spot for them as a reader or something like that. keep them involved somehow just not in a role thats so demanding. good luck!

Posted on July 14, 2008 at 5:00 am

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