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So, one of my favorite friends got married last year and did a destination wedding in PR. It was so much fun and a great vacation. Every since then my fiance has been wanting to do the same thing. Now that we are in full planning mode, my mom has jumped on his band waggon because she see's how much work and money it will cost to do it here ( NC). The problem is this... both of our families have been hit hard economically this past year, layoffs, students/ student loans... and I can not see making people pay a lot of money just to attend our wedding. I also can not see myself getting married without my family present. It is a little frustrating to say the least. Did any of you consider doing a destination wedding? If so why did or didnt you do it? Thanks for the replys:-)

Posted on February 13, 2013 at 4:51 am
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What about a more local destination wedding? Is there someplace within  2-4 hours of your hometown you could consider? 


You could also check and see for any great all inclusives, or budget hotels.


I had a destination wedding last year. Our guest list definitely suffered because of the trip, but it was AMAZING! I think we had about 20 people, which included my small family, my DH's parents, and our friends. It was the best choice for us. We chose Key West to get the island feel, but stay state side.


Also, check the differences in High/Low season. We ended up going during high season to key west, and it was affordable, but would have probably had more guests had I pushed our date back a few months.


 


 

Posted on February 13, 2013 at 5:11 am
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I wanted to renew our vows in this manner and have it be just us and our kids and when we first got married I wanted to just elope, but family always has to put in their two-cents and ended up making it so we have to have a big gathering.


I wish you the best in trying to find the perfect venue for your event!

Posted on February 13, 2013 at 5:54 am
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Thank you ladies!!! I think the issue I am having is if going destination will not save us money only decrease the amount that will be able to attend then is it really worth it. The stateside destination is a great idea tho. :-)

Posted on February 13, 2013 at 6:31 am
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I think you should ask your family. We considered a destination wedding, like you I wanted all of my family to be there I just asked them if they thought it was something they would be able to do. I have them an estimate of how much I thought it would cost. We chose not to do a far destination only because over half of my family is afraid to fly and would not come. So we are doing a semi-destination. I just really wanted to get them out of Chicago so the wedding will be in New York.

I think consider a semi-destination, like missjess suggested.If having them there is important and they say they can't do it then maybe you can just have an awesome long honeymoon after you marry at home. You just have to know what is most important for the both of you.
Posted on February 13, 2013 at 2:33 pm
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You hit the nail on the head - not being able to have our friends and families surrounding us on our big day was the one reason why we did not have DW. We really wanted to, it would have been cheaper and just amazing, but no one would have been able to come! And quite honestly, when I think back to our wedding, the love surrounding us that day was the absolute best part!


Since you live in NC, could you travel just a way to the beach maybe? Or a lake? If you give yourselves enough time to plan, you can save up and really do something special where all your loved ones can be present. That is my advice!

Posted on February 14, 2013 at 2:22 am
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Thanks Ladies!!! These are all great suggestions. Looking into having things in a closer destination place is definitely an idea. However, with looking at prices it will not really be cheaper so it kinda defeats the purpose.lol I think the thing my mom and groom do not understand is that things cost regardless and either way they are a lot of work. They think that a benefit to doing a DW is that you just hand your ideas off to someone else and your work is done.lol Not so. Planning any event is a lot of work, preparation, energy, effort, and yes money. Our budget is just over 10k and so far we are staying well within that. I am looking forward to a long and far away tropical honeymoon though :-)

Posted on February 14, 2013 at 2:43 am
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That is a great budget! You are correct--having a DW doesn't always equal saving money!

Posted on February 14, 2013 at 2:50 am
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My partner and I are both from WI and had a destination wedding in SC. We asked our families to just come to the wedding-not to get us gifts. We were the ones paying for the wedding as well, because of financial issues similar to what you had mentioned. I was getting married on the beach-no matter what I had to do.


To 'justify' spending the amount of money we did on the wedding was making a family vacation out of the trip. I wanted to get married on the beach and have the reception on the beach as well, the only way to do that was to rent an oceanfront home and have it in the backyard. We had our brothers and sisters stay with us for free (my siblings are under 21 so they couldn't really pitch in $1000, you know?). Through out the week we gave each sibling a meal they needed to make for everyone... One night we had tacos, another night we had pizza, hamburgers, etc. We also wanted lounge furniture for the reception, so instead of paying $3000 for some chairs and sofas, we took furniture from inside.


This pretty much sums it up:



  • turned it into a family vacation.

  • family doesn't give gifts (their gift was traveling to be with you two!)

  • each member pitches in for meals (made at wherever you are staying-if possible).

  • lounge seating taken from inside the house.

Posted on February 14, 2013 at 5:54 am
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twatermelon that is a great suggestion/ idea.... though I frown at not getting gifts.lol Just kidding. Thank you for your in put.

Posted on February 14, 2013 at 7:54 am

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