Did he pick the ring or did you get to pick?

Just wondering how you ladies got your rings.  When he proposed, he already had a ring and picked it out all on his own.  It was a simple 3 stone princess cut, no wedding band included.  It's been 5 years since he's proposed and now I get to finally wear a wedding band.  FI has said that if I want, I can get a whole new set!  We both have totally different styles of ring in mind.  He likes the simple, modern look, but I don't because they are so common these days.  I'm different, so I want something different that fewer people have but I also want to be considerate of his likes.  But, shouldn't I be able to get what I want because I'm the one who's going to be wearing it?  Even if he doesn't like it?  Ugh..  so confused!

Posted on May 22, 2011 at 6:59 pm
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sarahjane_02
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FI surprised me with a sweet little (normal size in europe) e-ring. after the proposal we bought him a simple golden e-ring which he will use as his wedding band. first i wanted to buy the same ring for me as a wedding band. but i changed my mind :)) last week i bought a prong setting ring with 11 diamonds. i am so looking forward, hope it fits with my e-ring. fi is ok with that, although the new ring is more expensive :) you should buy the ring of your dreams - you will wear it your hole life!!

Posted on May 23, 2011 at 12:57 am
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FI surprised me with a sweet little (normal size in europe) e-ring. after the proposal we bought him a simple golden e-ring which he will use as his wedding band. first i wanted to buy the same ring for me as a wedding band. but i changed my mind :)) last week i bought a prong setting ring with 11 diamonds. i am so looking forward, hope it fits with my e-ring. fi is ok with that, although the new ring is more expensive :) you should buy the ring of your dreams - you will wear it your hole life!!

Posted on May 23, 2011 at 12:57 am
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I wanted a single stone set on a simple band: classic solitaire. Luckily, FI also loves that style, so when he chose the ring on his own, that's what I got :)


I think the ring should reflect your FI a little since he's the one giving it to you, but you should really love it since it's your ring. Can the two of you look together for this new ring? Maybe when he sees how much you love a particular style, he'll love it too.

Posted on May 27, 2011 at 6:09 am
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We went looking together. It was a very long and bumpy road to us getting engaged (long distance, lay-offs, unemployment, etc.) so we had plenty of time to look around.


I basically spent two full years looking at rings trying to find the perfect one, I wanted something very specific and finally found it in an ArtCarved Ring (pics in bio). It was funny because we went to Jared's first and spent like a good hour in the store looking at various different styles. Then we walked into a Day's Jewelers and I sat down and pointed and was like, "I want that one."


It was kind of very similar to the way I decided I wanted FI :P Just up and decided one day, "I want that one." He wanted me to have something that I would love since I'd be wearing it for the rest of my life so it was important to him that we did it together.

Posted on May 31, 2011 at 1:18 am
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I told him the style of rings I like "vintage" non-solitaire and he picked one out all by himself. He did a great job :)

Posted on May 31, 2011 at 2:53 am
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We hadn't ever looked at rings, he chose a three stone e-ring. Though it is not what I would have picked...I love it! Essentially, I personally believe that it is a gift from your FI and if this is what he wanted me to have then I will take it. Plus, you can always upgrade later, right?????

Posted on June 1, 2011 at 1:43 am
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Gatewood:  I think you hit the nail on the head!  I also received a 3 stone, and I wasn't complaining either when I got it!  It's beautiful, and now that we can afford to get a bridal set, we're still along the lines of the 3 stone wedding set, except now I get to have a band to go with my ring.  And yes, we will definitely upgrade later!

Posted on June 1, 2011 at 6:07 am
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We went out looking at rings and I found 3 very different ones that I liked. He surprised me the next day with the one that was my favorite (full story in bio). I love it! He said he liked it best because it had the most sparkle and he wanted people to look at it and wonder "wow! Who gave you that?!"

Posted on June 4, 2011 at 5:49 am
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I picked. We went looking together
Posted on June 4, 2011 at 6:01 am
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I was very set on having an oval cut diamond with a certain setting and looked at all sorts of settings to find something that was simple yet elegant. When FI took me to look at rings, I finally tried on an oval and loved it, but FI asked for me to try on the brilliant cut, so I did, and I loved it too! lol.. the setting I wanted was really simple, and FI had me try some other settings that normally I wouldnt think to try, and they looked nice on me. In the end, FI picked everything out and I love that he knows me better than I know myself! LOL

Posted on June 4, 2011 at 7:54 pm
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We were always looking at rings and he knew I wasn't "simple".  We had gone into a jewelry store and I picked out some that I liked and he picked out some that he liked and I tried them on.  He knew which one was my favorite but I really had no idea which one he would end up getting, but to my suprise he got the most beautiful one out of the bunch and my favorite!  He also surprised me by getting two custom wedding bands to go on either side of my ring!  I'm lucky!

Posted on June 5, 2011 at 5:05 am
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"The Future" picked it out all on his lonesome. I would have liked something a bit more funky and non traditional, but I also love the art deco-y style of my ring. In the end, I was shocked and I love my ring to little pieces. He had chosen two different styles (he proposed w/ a CZ...he was not going to set the diamond in until he knew which ring I liked.) So once he proposed and got me the ring, he asked me if I liked it. I said...yes I do. He said he had picked another style too and asked if I wanted to see it. My reply: No. This is the ring you wanted me to have, hence you proposed with it. This is what you are offering to me. And so that is the story of my ring.


So yes, I get it that we have to wear it for the rest of our lives, and yes I get it that we should like it for that reason. But yes, it is his gift and offereing to us. But most importantly, yes, I am all about the "PARTNER LET ME UPGRADE YA". (Sing it like Beyonce.)

Posted on June 10, 2011 at 5:23 pm
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For the most part he picked.  We would occasionaly stroll into a jewelry shop at the mall and I would point out something I liked.  I guess he was paying attention because he sure picked a good one!  He sure honed in on the word "vintage" style.  He surprised me with a really great pick.

Posted on June 13, 2011 at 11:22 pm
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That vintage style seems to be very popular.  I wanted to go with something more vintage also.  FI was gonna let me pick a whole new set but I decided not to.  The one he proposed with has so much more value to me than that and with the budget that we're on I would've had to pick something that looks smaller.  So I picked a band with more carat weight to go with my E-ring.

Posted on June 15, 2011 at 7:33 am
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I picked it and proceded to drill it into his before we got engaged lol

Posted on June 21, 2011 at 11:52 am
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We went looking together, but he picked it out :)

Posted on June 22, 2011 at 1:33 am

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