Did I make a mistake? D: HELP!!!!!!!!

I got my dress back today.  It fits like a glove, the lenght is perfect, and I was totally in love.


When my friend took a picture for me to send to my cousin out of state, I realized there was something wrong.


Now, I'm not exactly a skinny mini....I'm very curvy, and a little chubby.  That's not the problem.  The problem is that I have linebacker shoulders.  And the size of the girls doesn't make them look any smaller.  When I see the dress in person it's very flattering, but in pictures I have massive body builder shoulders.  I don't look feminine at all....everything is perfect but my shoulders.  I was had to have straps, because the girls are quite large, and have a mind of their own.  Every strapless dress I tried on wouldn't stay on.  So I got these twist straps with a V neck....I just....I'm devestated.  Is there aything I can do to minimize my shoulders? When my hair and makeup is actually done (I'm really sick, no makeup, hair in a mess) will it look better?  Will wearing a veil disguise it a little?  I've always been so self concious of my shoulders, and now, in my wedding dress, it's the only thing that's not perfect.  My wedding is in March...It's too late to get a new dress because I already altered it.  It's so bad I'm actually considering ordering a different dress and just letting it be a little long.  But I don't want to waste the money I already spent on the dress, even though I got a great deal.  I'm so heartbroken....I'm probably overreacting but seriously, this is the most important dress of my life.  I'm totally and completely desperate. HELP! What can I do!?

Posted on February 19, 2013 at 12:11 pm
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Have you thought about a Bolaro?


this is what I made for myself for my strapless dress and my large girls and broad shoulders.

Posted on February 19, 2013 at 12:25 pm
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I haven't heard of that before....is it like a shrug or something? 


I'm new to this...lol! Sorry!


 


EDIT: Oh like a little shrug...I could go try one on with the dress, but would that look weird with the straps it already has?

Posted on February 19, 2013 at 12:26 pm
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Do you have a picture of you in your dress that you could share with us so that we might be able to assist you? 


A shrug can be used with or without straps - I have seen brides wear them both ways.  :)

Posted on February 19, 2013 at 12:51 pm
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Without seeing pictures, I definitely think having your hair done would help. Seeing the look completely together is totally different than having just the dress on. I am positive that whatever you decide it is going to look BEAUTIFUL!

Posted on February 19, 2013 at 12:57 pm
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I deleted the pictures because they looked so horrible lol! But maybe tomorrow morning if I feel better (this flu is killing me, and I have so much left to do!) I'll take a couple pictures to show you guys.....without my flu face hahaha! I found a little shrug I like from David's bridal, but I don't know that I want to spend $50 for it. (Am I cheap? Yeah I know lol!) I think once my makeup and hair are done it WILL look different....I don't think my shoulders will look any smaller, but maybe better. It's so frustating because it doesn't look bad at all in person, it's just in pictures! I'm just glad I can start looking for a solution now, and didn't find out after the pics were taken!

Posted on February 19, 2013 at 1:22 pm
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Could it have been the angle of the photo at all?? Try not to be *too* discouraged, we will help you figure it out!!!!

Posted on February 19, 2013 at 2:36 pm
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Yes we will help you figure it out.  Like missjess said, it also might be the "way" the picture was taken.  It does sound a little wierd, but I know on certain ways my picture is taken, I look totally different from other angles/light/etc. 


Once we see a picture, we will all help you out.  : )     Feel better!!!

Posted on February 19, 2013 at 2:39 pm
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A bolero is always an option for sure, but make sure you aren't being too hard on yourself. We are always our greatest critics, and we tend to englarge our faults in our own minds, when to the world we look just fine! I'm sure your shoulders are just as beautiful as the rest of you, but I understand wanting everything to be absolutely perfect and feeling helpless when there are things out of your control.


I think if you posted the pictures, all the girls here could honestly tell you what they think and what will help (we are great at that!) but I also think you would hear many people saying you are stunning just the way you are!

Posted on February 20, 2013 at 1:33 am
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I still have to get it steamed, so excuse the wrinkles, but this is my dress! I can't decide on veil or no veil, but from the pictures, I think I'll do a veil durring the ceremony and take it off for the reception.  These pics I took today aren't as bad as the pics my friend took, I think I'll be okay...maybe I'll go try on a shrug or something just to see what it looks like but I'm not as freaked out.  I love my body and I should just embrace it for my wedding, my shoulders have always just been a big insecurity.  So shrug and veil to be determined. Also, I'm very sick with a fever of 102, so yeah. Lol.


I still have to photo 3451294-1


I still have to photo 3451294-2


I still have to photo 3451294-3

Posted on February 20, 2013 at 6:29 am
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Here's the back. :)


Here s the back photo 3451295-1

Posted on February 20, 2013 at 6:34 am
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You look GORGEOUS!!! Honestly I think you are being overly critical of yourself (something
that I think we all do...I was OBSESSED with back fat and was CONVINCED i looked awful).


Ifyou really feel uncomfortable then a bolero or shrug would be perfectly fine
 with that style dress. Although it would take away from the beautiful v back
(and is unnecessary lol)
I think you look great and you will feel so different the day of when you're all dolled up and feeling that "bridal" moment.


You are beautiful!!!

Posted on February 20, 2013 at 7:22 am
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Holy smokes beautiful woman! I say you have nothing to worry about, that dress fits you like a glove and you look AMAZING!!!!!!!

Posted on February 20, 2013 at 7:24 am
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I'm not kidding when I say it looks great! I love the material, very elegant. It fits you very well and you look beautiful for having a high fever :) No linebacker shoulders at all!

Posted on February 20, 2013 at 7:26 am
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BAM! You look amazing!!! That dress is absolutely perfect on you, I truly think you found the perfect style for you. I cannot get over how much I love that dress and how great it looks on you. You have nothing to worry about, my dear!!!

Posted on February 20, 2013 at 7:31 am
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I have to agree with Lorna247, you look amazing!  You are truly beautiful and do not, even in the slightest, have linebacker shoulders.


Like others have said, if you are feeling a little self-conscious, try a jacket or sweater.  I think we all have our own parts of us that we are picky about.  I was so worried about the look of my arms and my stomach.  I can still pick at my pictures but when I stop being self-conscious at look at the whole picture, I am so pleased.


Once again, you look phenomenal and are so beautiful.

Posted on February 20, 2013 at 7:36 am
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You girls are so sweet! I didn't want to get a shrug because the back really is so beautiful.  I think I'm just going to embrace it.  Maybe it was the angle my friend was at, but on a self timer on my countertop it's not too bad, and I'm sure my photographer knows what she's doing lol! Thankyou all so much for bringing me down lol I was kind of a mess, how embarassing....hahaha! I really love the dress so much, and I got it for such a great deal.  I'm still in love. :)

Posted on February 20, 2013 at 7:40 am
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Also, it came without the sash, but I thought it dressed it up a bit and made it more special, and more "me". The dress looks so different on the model I was terrified to order it, but in the end I really am happy.  If my shoulders/upper arms are the only worries I have, I think I'm satisfied.  :)

Posted on February 20, 2013 at 7:47 am
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Girl you look fabulous in that dress! I think you need to rock it the way it is! There is nothing wrong with your shoulders! The dress is beautiful and you just make it even more beautiful!

Posted on February 20, 2013 at 7:53 am
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may I say something???? ehem ehem.... but I am not sure, but.... what are you talking about? YOU LOOK FANTASTIC!!!! I know us women always have to say sth unlovely about ourselves but I cannot say anything unlovely about the way you look.Your dress looks fabulous on you, it is a beautiful dress, and somehow you remind me of those 1940s beauties. you are right, curvy you are, but curvy, not chubby.


if you really want an accessory to play with, why not try a little chiffon wrap or stole. but seriously, you dont need to hide. I see a beautiful woman with soft curves. no rugby shoulders at all.

Posted on February 20, 2013 at 8:00 am
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Honey, you are ROCKING that dress!  Like, seriously!  You are so beautiful, and you chose the perfect dress for you, and in the pictures you posted, you can tell that you're happy.  And your FH is going to love it, too!

Posted on February 20, 2013 at 9:36 am
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