Do you think I killed your son or something?????

UGH!  Some of you know that my FI has been ill.  He came down sick about two weeks ago, was misdiagnosed and given antibiotics and when he was feeling worse instead of better, went to a specialist and was diagnosed (correctly this time) with a terrible virus that usually only affects children (I learned that childhood viruses in adults that never had them can be fatally worse!).


So, he is unable to speak due to ulcers in his mouth, throat and larynx.  I've been handling all the calls to family - including his mother who is (excuse me) two cards short of a full deck.


[Backstory:We are in the process of trying to get her in a nursing home because she is going downhill fast with early onset dementia brought on from alcoholism (she is recovered but already did the damage years ago).  She is a MEAN nasty person that even her children do not like her (FI asked me if she had to come to the wedding!) and so hard to take care of her due to her personality disorder.  You just want to throw your hands up and ler do something to herself instead of try to help her]


Well, I'm trying to call her today to update her on his condition. We JUST got back from the Dr's office (looking better!) and when I try to call, her line goes straight to voicemail - UGH - she's left the doggone phone off the hook again!!!!!


I am sitting here posting on PW when I turn around in my home office chair and SHE IS STANDING RIGHT BEHIND ME!!!!!  Jesus lady!  You about gave me a heart attack!


She demands to know where her son is and how he is doing.  I told her I just tried to call her because we just got back in from the Dr's.  She is looking at me like she has daggers for eyes and is trying to kill me. She asks how long he has been sick.  I say, "Two weeks - remember I started calling and talking to you last weekend and I've been updating you every day?!" She says that I never called her and she had no idea he was sick until HER daughter (his sister) called her.


 


ARE YOU FREAKIN' KIDDING ME?!  I KNOW YOU ARE LOSING YOUR MIND BUT I'M ABOUT TO LOSE MINE YOU GOSH DARN FREAK!  My soul mate is sick and I'm living with his ghost every day worrying about him and nothing I can do but make sure he is comfortable and now you are accusing me of this!


 


UGh, get out of our house now!

Posted on April 5, 2010 at 12:00 pm
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Yikes - that's awful!! I hope your man gets better quick!

Posted on April 6, 2010 at 10:09 am
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Yikes! Start locking your doors or change the locks! I'm sorry that your FI is sick and that his mom is so hard to deal with... dementia is very difficult to handle. :(

Posted on April 6, 2010 at 10:29 am
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Nooo if she's suffereing from dementia, you gotta remember every day is new  to them. I know it's irritating as  H E double hocke sticks. Her mind isn't right and she can't remember.. Have a lil patience.. I know it 's hard...

Posted on April 15, 2010 at 8:56 am
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Yikes! Dang, girl, sorry to hear about that.....I'd have less patience than you in dealing with her, trust me.  I hope your FI gets to feelin better soon! :hugs:

Posted on April 16, 2010 at 7:22 am
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I agree with HISRIB2010 . I know its probably super frustrating, but you have to look at the circumstances and just shake it off

Posted on April 17, 2010 at 6:15 pm
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dementia is such a hard thing to deal with...my family just moved my grandpa up here from california, and while it's great to see him all the time it has also been quite a struggle. if your FI has any siblings, see if they will be willing to help out with mom for a while.

Posted on April 18, 2010 at 8:10 am

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