Dont Know How to Handle

My sister is my MOH. I feel horrible because she is going through a very nasty divorce. I want to share my excitement with her but I feel bad that her life is in turmoil right now. Just a few short months ago it appeared she had the perfect life. Now her life has been turned upside down with threats and abuse. I have plenty of time before my wedding but tbere is so much I want to share with her
Posted on March 19, 2014 at 8:49 pm
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krosa
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 maybe have a candid conversation with her that you want to share your wedding planning process with her, but only if she thinks she can handle it with all that she is going through.  i would tell her that she has permission of ask you to maybe talk to another friend if she cant handle it that day.  after all, it may be a day to day struggle with being good about it and not being ok with it at all.  let her know that you value her feelings too.

Posted on March 19, 2014 at 8:59 pm
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 I would def have a convo with her. I thought the same about my second MOH and didn't ask her at first. When I was having troubles with my original MOH she stepped right in without asking. I then asked her how she felt about being my second MOH and she was elated! She was there every step of the way. In actuality I should have asked her from the beginning!

Posted on March 19, 2014 at 9:10 pm
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 I agree with the other ladies - your day might be a welcome & happy distraction for her during such a difficult time

Posted on March 19, 2014 at 9:35 pm
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 I'm sorry to hear that. I agree with the other ladies, it could be easier for her to handle certain days and not certain days. Just be as honest with her as possible and hopefully you get to talk with her about your big day, and hope she is able to get through this hard time.

Posted on March 19, 2014 at 11:46 pm
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 I can totally understand how you feel.  I have a friend who is going through a break up and I always feel so bad discussing wedding related issues.  Often times I avoid the topic all together unless she asks.  

However, regardless of what your sister is going through I'm sure she wants to hear all about everything and is so happy for you.  I would just be careful not to talk about it too much but make her feel included as well.  

I'm sorry to hear that she is experiencing hard times and hope that things turn around for her soon.

Posted on March 20, 2014 at 9:39 am
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Sorry to hear that. Sending positive vibes her way and to you too. 

I would just sit her down and have a conversation about everything with her and let her know how you feel.

Posted on March 20, 2014 at 9:49 am
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 I'm going through the same thing but my sister is def happy for me and has been with me every step of the way. I love her so much!!! I listen when se vents  n she's been positive about the future and I'm grateful for that. 

Posted on March 20, 2014 at 9:38 pm

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