Elizabeth Gilbert: Marriage Benefit Imbalance

I am currently reading Elizabeth Gilbert's new book "Committed" which is a story about how she comes to terms with getting married for the 2nd time after she had vowed to never again get married when her first marriage ended in divorce.


Anyways, in the book she describes what sociologists call the "Marriage Benefit Imbalance" which basically says that marriage benefits men much more than it benefits women:


"Married men live longer than single men; married men accumulate more wealth than single men; married men excel at their careers above single men; married men are far less likely to die a violent death than single men; married men report themselves to be much happier than single men; and married men suffer less from alcoholism, drug addiction, and depression than do single men....

There doesn't seem to be anything, statistically speaking, that a man does not gain by getting married.

Dishearteningly, the reverse is not true. Modern married women do not fare better in life than their single counterparts. Married women in America do not live longer than single women; married women do not accumulate as much wealth as single women...; married women do not thrive on their careers to the extent single women do... less healthy... depression...  violent death... statistically speaking, the most dangerous person in the average woman's life is her own man."


I thought this was interesting, although I don't know that I actually agree with it.  Anyone else read this book?


Thoughts?

Posted on July 5, 2010 at 8:32 am
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I haven't read the book - but I have to agree w/the bulk of what you posted from the author. As a "modern woman" who has a career that I'm proud of...I can see myself pulling back from excelling professionally to make way for a family (if we chose to have children). I think it's a lot for the modern woman to "have it all" (the career, the family, the friends, etc.) which has been marketed to us since we were tots.

Posted on July 5, 2010 at 8:39 am
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Ditto Kay...


I haven't read it either, but it seems like she has a point!


I know a lot will not agree with me, but I still love the idea of the wife/mother staying home while the husband is off to work.  Because adding so much more to our lives, we get so much stressed and being married WITH a family, it's not likely just to go have a few drinks with girlfriends, etc. as you would more likely if you were single.

Posted on July 5, 2010 at 8:42 am

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