etiquette question: last-minute changes to guest count

Our wedding is less than two weeks away and some of our guests are trying to change up their meal option or bring a date (he says he's 50/50 on whether he'll bring a date). Is this very common? Do people usually accommodate the last-minute requests, or is it acceptable to politely tell them that we cannot change it at this point?
Posted on September 11, 2007 at 7:17 am
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I've heard of people making accomodations depending on how many there are and how much of a burden it is. I think you should be honest with yourself about how much this trouble is worth. Maybe you can ask someone else to manage it? Otherwise, I think you're well within your right to politely say that it's too late.
Posted on September 11, 2007 at 7:21 am
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I believe either is acceptable. Why not call the people who rsvp'd already and confirm that they will be attending. Perhaps if you have a cancellation, you can give the guest there spot. If not it's fine to tell them your sorry, but at this point it would be very difficult to accommodate their date.
Posted on September 11, 2007 at 9:28 am
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I think changing the meal option is acceptable as long as your venue deadline allows it. I'm kind of iffy about people adding a date 1.5 weeks before a wedding, especially if the person says there's only a 50% chance the date is coming.
Posted on September 11, 2007 at 8:36 pm
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Changing the meal is fine at the last minute prior to the venue cutoff but changing the headcount is not acceptable at all. Whenever I get a invitation and it's only address to myself - I won't even think twice on asking my other half to go.
Posted on September 12, 2007 at 11:47 am
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hi margaret...
how exciting for you!!!
N E Ways...as for your 50/50 guest....if the invitation is for him only then politely tell him no....unless he is a good friend then give him a time limit of 3 days to decide.....
Posted on September 12, 2007 at 12:17 pm

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