Father paying for most of wedding..

Hello all.  I need some advice.  My dad is paying for about 80% of our wedding. He offered, I never asked him to. Which FI and I are VERY grateful for.  He gave us a dollar amount range he would contribute.  The range is a difference of $2,000 from the low end of his range and the high end of his range.  I don't like being a pest or a nag. But as I am working on my budget spreadsheet, my anxiety started to kick in.  Lol.


How do I go about asking him exactly what he will be contributing without seeming like a pest so I can go forward knowing if I need to make some adjustments in regards to what FI and I will have to dish out?


I am the type that is very thankful when someone offers to do something for me and what they do for me, they do.  I never ask questions. This is a little different when it comes to planning a wedding and finances need to be in order early...

Posted on January 22, 2013 at 7:12 am
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rigormort
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I would be honest and tell him how grateful and excited you are and that you want to make every penny count, so you started to work on the budget, but needed to know a more exact number so you don't over spend. I'm sure he will understand. Congrats by the way!!!

Posted on January 22, 2013 at 7:16 am
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That's great news, but I agree with @rigormort jusy be honest and let him know that you need an exact amount.
Posted on January 22, 2013 at 7:27 am
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congrats and the other ladies said it well.

Posted on January 22, 2013 at 7:47 am
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I agree with these other ladies!

Posted on January 22, 2013 at 8:07 am
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I would agree with the girls these are things you do need to talk about if you can, but if you are uncomfortable. . .


You could always do what I do in these situations and that is go with the Low number. That way you are not taking advantage and if you want to spend more than that then you can figure out how important it is to you and budget that from your own money.

Posted on January 22, 2013 at 9:39 am
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I agree with the the other ladies and I will also add that this is your daddy. You are daddy's little girl getting married and if you can't be honest with daddy, who can you be honest with? I don't feel like you are being a pest when you haven't been bothering him about it beforehand. Remember it is your father and he wants your day to be as special as you do!

Posted on January 23, 2013 at 4:53 am

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