Feeling a bit overwhelmed

Hello to all my brides and brides-to-be!


There are only 425 days until our big day. When you look @ the number it seems kinda high but it really isnt too far away. YIKES!! 


Anywhoo, my partner's family is latino and her parents speak very little english. My parents are black and dont speak any spanish. I am slowly but steadily learning and of course my partner is fluent in both languages but we are both SUPER nervous about our families meeting for the first time which will probably be at the wedding (or the engagment party if we have one). I say all this to ask about seating assignments and "getting to know you" games. We really want our families to interact with one another and we dont want either set of parents to feel isolated because they dont know anyone else. How do we ease the discomfort/tension and make everyone feel at home and at ease? Should we do seat assignments and have some "getting to know you" games at the table or would this be considered too traditional and formal considering we are a SUPER laid back/chill couple? Any feedback is appreciated.


 


 


 


 


 


 

Posted on February 11, 2013 at 11:10 am
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chrissyrenaegray
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DH and I had a similar situation in that our families had never met each other.  A few were able to meet at the bridal showers, but most met at the wedding.  I don't know about seating arrangements, but having a get-to-know-you game at the tables could be fun.  I had originally planned for a GTKY game for our reception while our guests were waiting for us to get done with pictures that would require them to mix and mingle while trying to figure out answers to questions about us, but unfortunately I did not have the time to get it done.  I think you'll find that your families may end up seeking each other out--after all, they are now connected.

Posted on February 11, 2013 at 11:25 am
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I wish you luck. Getting "normal" families together is difficult, but with a language barrier I can only assume it makes it that much harder, but you know what they say Love knows no language gender or color. It just is and just exists and women have this ability to talk without words. Maybe your moms will too?

Posted on February 11, 2013 at 12:44 pm
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the only sort of game i can think of that will work for bilingual  group is "win lose or draw."   it isnt really a get to know you thing, but it is a fun game that everyone could do.  you need a dry erase board and markers. there is an acutal game you can buy with cards already made up, or you can just create your own. if you have more than one person that is bilingual in the group, then at least one goes on the different teams.  all of the family are mixed together and divided so you will have spanish and english all together in both of the groups. 


if you have never played the game...you have 2 groups.  one person from team 1 goes up the the board and picks a card.  they find out what they have to draw.  they have 1 minute to draw that item and someone from team 1 guess the correct answer to get a point for their team.  if team 1 doesnt get the answer correct, then based only on what is already drawn on the board team 2 can make one guess.  if they are correct team 2 gets a point.  no acting out words.  drawer is allowed to put lines on the board to represent the number of words that have to be guessed.  when a word is guessed correctly it can be filled in. the drawer has to communicate with their team if they are on the right track with their guesses or not.

Posted on February 11, 2013 at 3:58 pm
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A lot of family met at our RD before the wedding. But MIL made up name tags with peoples names and how they were related or know the Bride/Groom. I think it helped to break the ice and not have to remember everyone's name especially with a large family! GL and just take it a step at a time. :)

Posted on February 12, 2013 at 9:38 am
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DansMrs - I LOVE that idea! My future sis-in-law is such a huge supporter of us and really wants to throw an engagement party for us. I think the name tags would be a HUGE hit and very helpful. Thanks for this idea.


Krosa - that's a cute idea but because we're having a very intimate wedding (35-40 people max) and the venue has limited space. 


 


IdoAgain - you are so right. Our saving grace is our families love us to pieces and I truly feel the will make every effort during the event(s).


 


 

Posted on February 13, 2013 at 1:43 am
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DansMrs's idea is sooooo cute!!!! I may even steal that one. :-)


I want to add also that music is also an equalizer. If you can find music that is common ground that can be played while the family is waiting on you that may help mold the energy in the room and help people feel more comfortable.

Posted on February 13, 2013 at 4:34 am

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